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38 • New York, NY • Man
I’m looking for
- Ages 21–50
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
- Last online
- Apr 7
- Asian, Pacific Islander
- 5′ 8″ (1.73m)
- Body type
- When drinking
- Catholicism, and laughing about it
- Capricorn, and it’s fun to think about
- Graduated from masters program
- Art / Music / Writing
- Likes dogs and likes cats
- English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly), Tagalog (Poorly), Sign Language (Okay)
Before that it was NYC. Recently escapee of grad school, West Coast transplant (LA, SD, OC). Ex-Marine, freelance theatre director, all around rascal and vagabond. I was born on the East Coast (Philly), grew up in NJ (Wash. Twp.), then moved to SD, college in the OC, and lived in LA. I've spent almost half my life in Southern California, and the other half in the Northeast (including a stop in New Haven) before starting my life over again here in NY.
I'm sarcastic, opinionated, fairly intelligent, ambitious and funny. Obviously, I have incredibly low self-esteem. But seriously, I'm of the opinion that life is a ride and it should be a fun one. I'm far too practical for my own good and try and loosen up as much as possible. I love drinking and dancing and spending time out with my friends who I don't see nearly enough. I'm blessed with some of the most amazing friends Nature could ever create, and I'm always looking to make more. I'm the guy who brings the random people to the party and gets them talking. I like bringing people together (cliche alert!!!) but I like the idea of mash-up art (theatrical fusion of different forms) and do the same in my social life. I'm not an isolationist when it comes to my friends - stick around long enough, and you'll meet them and become part of the family. That's how it works with me.
My friend Dan puts it thusly: "We tend to idle poorly."
So I cram in as much as I can. Nobody ever said on their deathbed,"Man, I wish I would've slept more."
Loves:traveling, theatre, movies, arts, sports (basketball & football), swing dancing, tango, dancing, music, Springsteen, scotch, and little pets that jump on your head.
Dislikes: boredom, insanity, stupid people, country music, liars.
I am on, the, and move.
discovering life in NYC. Riding the Love Train. Whatever is coming my way. Hey, this is it - the beginning of my Big Apple Saga. They say life begins at 30; I'm just starting the next chapter. Which seems to involve being open to anything, meeting a ton of new people, going on crazy adventures (like hiking Machu Picchu or backpacking the Great Wall of China), and other insanity like that.
getting into trouble.
being a VERY bad influence on my friends' eating/drinking/sleeping habits.
UPDATE: apparently, the first thing people notice about me is that (duh!) I'm Asian. Then they try and guess what kind.
movies/directors: kurosawa, mendes, wong kar wai, scorsese (martin and sofia), casablanca, in the mood for love, fallen angels, star wars (the first/original 3), american beauty, city of god, eternal sunshine, braveheart, do the right thing, spike lee (ok, early spike, but 25th hour was good), michael mann (yes, he's a hack, but his movies are gorgeous), luis bunuel, shall we dance (the original japanese version), belle du jour, fellini, la dolce vida, cuaron, y tu mama tambien
music: a lot, and always feeling like i should no more and don't. but i'm a little old fashioned. you can take the boy out of jersey but you can't take the jersey out of the boy. springsteen counting crows pete yorn, gorillaz, MIKA, pink floyd, bob dylan, bob marley, dj spooky, oakenfold, rob dougan, WILCO, Save Ferris, Letters to Cleo, Green Day, Weezer, the Indigo Girls, Wu-Tang Clan, Notorious B.I.G., 2pac, NAS, Nelly Furtado, Jay-Z, Frank Sinatra, Eminem, and well, I think that might be enough for right now.
1) friends and family - gotta have it
2) culture - theatre, film, art, books, sports, food - I'm a culture junkie.
3) water - I've found that I'm happiest when I live near it.
4) hope - no hope = no love = not fun.
6) sex. - yeah, i said it.
how to connect things.
or want to go bike riding/rollerblading in a park.
or just want to talk. lord knows i don't do enough of that these days.
you roll your own cigarettes.
you know who half the authors on my list are.
you are an artist and make art (acting/design/sculpture/snow angels/whatever). I want to meet you.
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