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40 Thousand Oaks, CA Man


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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 28–48
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 8:13pm
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Agnosticism, and very serious about it
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from two-year college
Rather not say
Might want kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
"Become Fearlessly and Fiercely Genuine."

It is a mantra and a direction for living a fulfilling life. Still struggling to embody the unapologetic confidence needed to truly channel those words.

With that in mind, I want more from a relationship than what I am looking for. I'm looking for friendship, connection, sex. I'm not looking too far into the future because the future will be created through our time together.

That deep profound relationship I desire can only grow from the here and now. So, let's enjoy the time we have together whether it's a single night out for drinks, a day of hiking, or whatever naturally grows from our personalities.

The moments together will always have a greater affect than any longterm expectations...
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm looking for what I am ready for, Friendship, Connection, Sex. I don't need all three but certainly want more of the first two in my life as things naturally progress toward that deeper relationship or just remain as an awesome friendship.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Being honest. Even if I know it will hurt my standing, affect my sex appeal, or dissipate my charm I'll still tell the truth. Even here online where anonymity allows so many others to hide.

I'm also good at running away and avoiding my personal demons. Usually I do that with the barbell and some heavy weights or, lately, sitting down with the self help books exploring the neglected inner self.

Edit; not reading as much as I have been putting thought into action.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I really am ridiculously good looking.
Wow, completely forgot I wrote that previous line. I really am more humble than that. However, at the time I was feeling full if myself.

So why don't I delete it? Because I desire my honesty and genuineness to be seen. If not first then shortly afterward.

More seriously, some have told my smile and my laugh. Also, during some particularly good conversations I may speak through something of a growl.
I've been told the growling is a good thing.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
You don't have to like the movie as much as I do but I don't know if I can trust anyone who doesn't have a deep appreciation for 'I Heart Huckabees'. Watch it if you haven't seen it before.

I mostly read non-fiction nowadays. Recently discovered David Deida's 'Way of the Superior Man' and will continue to reread that whenever my life focus waivers.
'Lord of the Flies', 'The Old Man and the Sea', and 'The Universe is a Green Dragon' are also among the books I continue to reread at least every year or two.

Just added 'The Little Prince' to the list. 'Siddhartha', 'Hamlet', and 'The Fall' occupy the same bookshelf. Hmm...perhaps 'The Handmaid's Tale' should be added as well...

My musical choices lean toward metal. Not the screamers but the more symphonic artists. Something about screaming guitars and cellos in harmony leaves me awestruck and smiling. Lately I have been listening to the latest from Within Temptation, Kamelot, and Nightwish.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
All you need is love love love. Love is all you need.
I need that and...
and a smart phone,
a pair of good running shoes,
a barbell and some bumper plates,
a trusted friend,
(or a Fox)
emotionally charged sex,
the ocean's waves,
and perhaps a couple Bettas to care for.

Oh, and someone willing to forgive my rule breaking.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How best to become the man I am meant to be and how to live such a life without apology.

And how to conquer the world. Maybe just the world around me. Some conquering needs to be done.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I tend to be a solitary creature. If I'm not going out with specific plans in mind I end up wandering. When that happens I usually wander into trouble.
Therefore, most of my Fridays nights are more meditative with just me and the barbell and the challenge it presents.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm a nice guy.
I'm a genuinely nice guy.
Not one of those guys who is only nice because he thinks he'll get something from you.
I'm a genuinely nice guy who wants to grab a fistful of your hair, yank your head back and slap your ass.

And now with that out of the way, please don't mistake me for being just a nice guy. I am so much more.
You should message me if
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You value eye contact. I recently learned how much I need eye contact with the woman I am with.
You'd rather meet and do something, even if just a stroll through the park, than just meet for drinks of some kind or another.
The high top table just isn't as kind to my style as the pool table.