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39 M Thousand Oaks, CA

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 8:58pm
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Agnosticism, and very serious about it
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from two-year college
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Might want kids
Likes dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
"Become Fearlessly and Fiercely Genuine."

It is a mantra and a direction for living a fulfilling life. Still struggling to embody the unapologetic confidence needed to truly channel those words.

That said...I'm not looking for the perfect woman because I'm not the perfect man. Not yet at least. So, until you find the man that can help complete your life, please consider me as the guy who can make for some good days and happier moments within that life.

Then again, making happy moments last for days and weeks and into years, is what creates a happier life.
What I’m doing with my life
Some very good stuff. Specifically swallowing my pride and going back to school. Tried doing the study at home route and it just does not work for me. I need to be around people and ideas and dialogue and those wonderful "aha!" moments.

The end goal is to have my own personal training business. I don't want to be waiting for clients. I want to invade the office buildings where people become too sedentary and forgetful. I want to be able to inspire and instruct those desk jockeys how to move and teach them that their heath is always within their ability to reclaim. I want them to have that second chance--to retire as adventurers and be able to keep up with their kids and grandkids.

I also want to do the same for those kids and grandkids, maybe as a volunteer. Help the kids who may need it realize that they can be awesome and give them the confidence needed to hold their heads high before they walk into high school.
I’m really good at
Being honest. Even if I know it will hurt my standing, affect my sex appeal, or dissipate my charm I'll still tell the truth. Even here online where anonymity allows so many others to hide.

I'm also good at running away and avoiding my personal demons. Usually I do that with the barbell and some heavy weights or, lately, sitting down with the self help books exploring the neglected inner self.

Funny how I'm able to be good at being honest and avoiding my problems...I may need to think on that some...
The first things people usually notice about me
I really am ridiculously good looking.
Wow, completely forgot I wrote that previous line. I really am more humble than that. However, at the time I was feeling full if myself.

So why don't I delete it? Because I desire my honesty and genuineness to be seen. If not first then shortly afterward.

More seriously, some have told my smile and my laugh. Also, during some particularly good conversations I may speak through something of a growl.
I've been told the growling is a good thing.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
You don't have to like the movie as much as I do but I don't know if I can trust anyone who doesn't have a deep appreciation for 'I Heart Huckabees'. Watch it if you haven't seen it before.

I mostly read non-fiction nowadays. Recently discovered David Deida's 'Way of the Superior Man' and will continue to reread that whenever my life focus waivers.
'Lord of the Flies', 'The Old Man and the Sea', and 'The Universe is a Green Dragon' are also among the books I continue to reread at least every year or two.

Just added 'The Little Prince' to the list. 'Siddhartha', 'Hamlet', and 'The Fall' occupy the same bookshelf. Hmm...perhaps 'The Handmaid's Tale' should be added as well...

My musical choices lean toward metal. Not the screamers but the more symphonic artists. Something about screaming guitars and cellos in harmony leaves me awestruck and smiling. Lately I have been listening to the latest from Within Temptation, Kamelot, and Nightwish.
The six things I could never do without
All you need is love love love. Love is all you need.
I need that and...
and a smart phone,
a pair of good running shoes,
a barbell and some bumper plates,
a trusted friend,
(or a Fox)
emotionally charged sex,
the ocean's waves,
and perhaps a couple Bettas to care for.

Oh, and someone willing to forgive my rule breaking.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How best to become the man I am meant to be and how to live such a life without apology.

And how to conquer the world. Maybe just the world around me. Some conquering needs to be done.
On a typical Friday night I am
I tend to be a solitary creature. If I'm not going out with specific plans in mind I end up wandering. When that happens I usually wander into trouble.
Therefore, most of my Fridays nights are more meditative with just me and the barbell and the challenge it presents.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm an open book. I'll figure out what to write here eventually. It's just blank for now. Not because I wish to hide but because I want to make things interesting.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 28–48
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You value eye contact. I recently learned how much I need eye contact with the woman I am with.
You'd rather meet and do something, even if just a stroll through the park, than just meet for drinks of some kind or another.
The high top table just isn't as kind to my style as the pool table.