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30 • Portland, OR • Woman
I’m looking for
- Ages 29–45
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
- Last online
- Mar 25
- 5′ 6″ (1.68m)
- Body type
- A little extra
- Mostly vegetarian
- Atheism, and very serious about it
- Taurus, but it doesn’t matter
- Graduated from two-year college
- Politics / Government
- Rather not say
- Mostly non-monogamous
- Has kids, but doesn’t want more
- Has cats
- English (Fluently)
I enjoy lectures, philosophizing, arcade-ing, cooking (and subsequent eating), game nights and winning. I enjoy going out of town for conventions. During the summer, I like day hikes down the gorge that result in delicious food and beer in Hood River, or camping trips to one of the hundred places within a few hours from here. I like meeting up with people who know more than me on different topics (theoretical physics, philosophy, economics, theism, biological anthropology, astronomy, skepticism) and being immersed in conversation.
My degree is in graphic design, but I work in social work so go figure. My other academic interests included political science/theory, journalism and anthropology.
I generally feel a little older than my contemporaries - career, financial budget, kids, the house, a couple cats, retirement plans. All this means scheduling can take some time, but if something is just right, I make time.
When we have no kids, we like to go out to the pub with friends, see interesting movies, check out atheist/skeptic meetups, or go for weekend trips out of town.
On the topic of food, or books, or music, I am most attracted to a 'love for the craft'. If they have the loves, I probably have the loves for it.
So, I suppose I ought to admit to having, what I would hope, is a modern idea of swinging, for lack of a better term (*eeww, swingers*). I want to have awesome, intellectually stimulating company with you and your mate, and then fuck both of you while still within what we define as a monogamous relationship.
We are very much an into-each-other couple and don't consider ourselves polyamorous, as we aren't interested in romantic relationships with other people. We do, however, love hanging out with other sexy, nerdy people with the possibility of things becoming even sexier later on. Also, we are looking for a hetero couple (sorry!).
However, just other couple friends is awesome, too.
'Monogamous, 'polyamorous', 'swinging', etc are all super subjective terms ("how can you be monogamous if you fuck other people - won't somebody think of the children?!"), so further communication of boundaries and definitions are always welcome, and indeed necessary should things progress in that way.
Also, if you're a dude with long hair, that's probably a dealbreaker. I just can't get over it.
You and your partner are hot, smart, fun, nerdy, and have well defined boundaries around the ways you might be interested in expanding your relationship.
You are confident, stable and sex-positive.
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