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37 • Toronto, Ontario, CA • Cis Woman
I’m looking for
- Ages 18–99
- Located anywhere
- Who are single
- For new friends
- Last online
- Online now!
- White, Other
- 5′ 3″ (1.60m)
- Body type
- Used up
- Mostly anything
- Atheism, and laughing about it
- Scorpio, but it doesn’t matter
- Graduated from space camp
- Strictly non-monogamous
- Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
- Likes dogs and has cats
- English (Fluently)
I believe in dragons, unicorns, compatible men and other fictitious creatures... like cunning linguists. There's this terrible double standard out there...so save yourself (and myself) some trouble by sodding off if you don't automatically feel that oral is a part of the sexual experience and should occur most, if not all the time you engage in same. Ktnxbai :)
Fantastic, why self-summarize when there are tools available that will inventory your traits for you? A previous employer paid for a Clifton StrengthsFinder assessment for me and here are the results:
A review of the knowledge and skills you have acquired can provide a basic sense of your abilities, but an awareness and understanding of your natural talents will provide true insight into the core reasons behind your consistent successes.
Your Signature Themes report presents your five most dominant themes of talent, in the rank order revealed by your responses to StrengthsFinder. Of the 34 themes measured, these are your "top five."
Woo stands for winning others over. You enjoy the challenge of meeting new people and getting them to like you. Strangers are rarely intimidating to you. On the contrary, strangers can be energizing. You are drawn to them. You want to learn their names, ask them questions, and find some area of common interest so that you can strike up a conversation and build rapport. Some people shy away from starting up conversations because they worry about running out of things to say. You don’t. Not only are you rarely at a loss for words; you actually enjoy initiating with strangers because you derive satisfaction from breaking the ice and making a connection. Once that connection is made, you are quite happy to wrap it up and move on. There are new people to meet, new rooms to work, new crowds to mingle in. In your world there are no strangers, only friends you haven’t met yet—lots of them.
You are generous with praise, quick to smile, and always on the lookout for the positive in the situation. Some call you lighthearted. Others just wish that their glass were as full as yours seems to be. But either way, people want to be around you. Their world looks better around you because your enthusiasm is contagious. Lacking your energy and optimism, some find their world drab with repetition or, worse, heavy with pressure. You seem to find a way to lighten their spirit. You inject drama into every project. You celebrate every achievement. You find ways to make everything more exciting and more vital. Some cynics may reject your energy, but you are rarely dragged down. Your Positivity won’t allow it. Somehow you can’t quite escape your conviction that it is good to be alive, that work can be fun, and that no matter what the setbacks, one must never lose one’s sense of humor.
“Stretch the circle wider.” (every time I read this I am reminded of the goatse shock site). This is the philosophy around which you orient your life. You want to include people and make them feel part of the group. In direct contrast to those who are drawn only to exclusive groups, you actively avoid those groups that exclude others. You want to expand the group so that as many people as possible can benefit from its support. You hate the sight of someone on the outside looking in. You want to draw them in so that they can feel the warmth of the group. You are an instinctively accepting person. Regardless of race or sex or nationality or personality or faith, you cast few judgments. Judgments can hurt a person’s feelings. Why do that if you don’t have to? Your accepting nature does not necessarily rest on a belief that each of us is different and that one should respect these differences. Rather, it rests on your conviction that fundamentally we are all the same. We are all equally important. Thus, no one should be ignored. Each of us should be included. It is the least we all deserve.
You like to explain, to describe, to host, to speak in public, and to write. This is your Communication theme at work. Ideas are a dry beginning. Events are static. You feel a need to bring them to life, to energize them, to make them exciting and vivid. And so you turn events into stories and practice telling them. You take the dry idea and enliven it with images and examples and metaphors. You believe that most people have a very short attention span. They are bombarded by information, but very little of it survives. You want your information—whether an idea, an event, a product’s features and benefits, a discovery, or a lesson—to survive. You want to divert their attention toward you and then capture it, lock it in. This is what drives your hunt for the perfect phrase. This is what draws you toward dramatic words and powerful word combinations. This is why people like to listen to you. Your word pictures pique their interest, sharpen their world, and inspire them to act.
“When can we start?” This is a recurring question in your life. You are impatient for action. You may concede that analysis has its uses or that debate and discussion can occasionally yield some valuable insights, but deep down you know that only action is real. Only action can make things happen. Only action leads to performance. Once a decision is made, you cannot not act. Others may worry that “there are still some things we don’t know,” but this doesn’t seem to slow you. If the decision has been made to go across town, you know that the fastest way to get there is to go stoplight to stoplight. You are not going to sit around waiting until all the lights have turned green. Besides, in your view, action and thinking are not opposites. In fact, guided by your Activator theme, you believe that action is the best device for learning. You make a decision, you take action, you look at the result, and you learn. This learning informs your next action and your next. How can you grow if you have nothing to react to? Well, you believe you can’t. You must put yourself out there. You must take the next step. It is the only way to keep your thinking fresh and informed. The bottom line is this: You know you will be judged not by what you say, not by what you think, but by what you get done. This does not frighten you. It pleases you.
ENFP is the result of my Myers-Briggs Type Indicator assessment:
E – Extraversion preferred to introversion: ENFPs often feel motivated by their interaction with people. They tend to enjoy a wide circle of acquaintances, and they gain energy in social situations (whereas introverts expend energy).
N – iNtuition preferred to sensing: ENFPs tend to be more abstract than concrete. They focus their attention on the big picture rather than the details, and on future possibilities rather than immediate realities.
F – Feeling preferred to thinking: ENFPs tend to value personal considerations above objective criteria. When making decisions, they often give more weight to social implications than to logic.
P – Perception preferred to judgment: ENFPs tend to withhold judgment and delay important decisions, preferring to "keep their options open" should circumstances change.
tl;dr I am compassionate, exuberant and fascinating/ed.
sitting on the steering committee for the Heterosexuals for Same Sex Equality, an advocacy group that promotes equal rights for all people, but especially for the LGBTQ+ community.
It seems that whenever I volunteer my time or services I end up called upon to do the "shit most people don't want to do" which usually consists of spreadsheets and paperwork. I'm lucky in that I enjoy these types of activities :D
working in property management. Though I toy with the idea of becoming a property manager, this comfort zone of administration that I've surrounded myself with through over a decade of experience works for me right now and I'm not ready to take on those reins of leadership. I may never be :Þ
I'd really rather be working for a not-for-profit or charity and must aim myself in that direction.
practicing a poly lifestyle when it comes to love and sex. I fell in love while still in love and it's true what they say about it in a mathematical sense. Love is like pi (Π), irrational and infinite, and prefers to be multiplied rather than divided. (✿◠‿◠)
Which is not as amusing as sex in a mathematical sense, where if the angle of the dangle is proportional to the mass of the ass, the heat of the meat is constant. x = y/k
If you have an idea of what non-monogamy is and want a more specific definition, call me a relationship anarchist or egalitarian polyamorist. That means I'm through with labels, hierarchy and BS in general when it comes to my relations with my fellow humans, especially those I spend the most time with.
indulging in naturism whenever the opportunity presents itself. I've skydived (password is blueskies), ridden a bike on the streets of Toronto (password is #WNBR), and marched in the World Pride Parade among some of the naked shenanigans I get to participate in. There's a clothing optional beach on the Toronto Islands called Hanlan's Point that I intend to spend much of my summer frequenting. Must take advantage of these short Canadian warm seasons :|
I am nude in three of my profile pictures (and one of the archived ones).
coping with the far too early loss of my parents. My mother passed away in 2000 and my father followed after her in 2013. My brother and I are far too young for this BS. (T_T)
training in Brazilian Jiu-jitsu and Muay Thai during the spring/summer. I'm anticipating the upcoming season. I tried to incorporate a Bikram Yoga practice over the winter but couldn't get myself to the studio. I'm really going to have to meditate more at home. And being aware of that means that one day it'll actually happen. :3
regrettably, I can't budget the upcoming season and will have to settle for downloading Madbarz, highly recommend that app, home workouts sans equipment are fun. Taking it to the park this summer will be great.
vaping. I recently managed to "quit" smoking by finding an alternative that is healthier and still satisfies my oral fixation. It actually feeds my love of tech and toys as well and I've learned quite a lot about chemistry and electronic cigarettes lately. It's made me terribly sensitive to scents and to the smell of cigarette smoke in particular. I can't handle a lover who has just had a cigarette or is permeated by the smell of them anymore. Ugh. To think I smelled and tasted like that. I even have this grandiose plan to gift a bunch of my friends who are smokers with e-cig starter kits and e-liquid to get them hooked and started on this healthier alternative. The order is on it's way :) (this may just be a plan to be able to visit my friends without having to quarantine what I wore and wash my hair when I get home...) Before you get all judgmental about the e-cigs, do your research ;)
An added bonus of the vaping? We call ourselves steampunks if we're still vaping nicotine in our e-liquid and cloud-chasers if we're not :D
I still combust my marijuana for the most part, but I'm trying to wean myself onto a vaping solution there as well. The problem was that THC vaporizing from dry herb is invisible and I quite enjoy my clouds, so I had to start blasting concentrate...
gaming. Fuck. I redeemed a World of Warcraft card that I had sitting around the past couple years on Christmas day... When my ex-husband divorced me he called my extensive gaming a factor. When I moved back home to Toronto in 2011 and couldn't sit in front of the keys for longer than an hour without getting distracted and quitting the game, I realized it was a symptom. I've missed it, I wonder if I can incorporate it permanently in a healthy manner. I'm going to have to... I bought the expansion and signed up for a six month recurring subscription :|
(and then... months of Clash of Clans, forgoing my WoW subscription entirely.../facepalm)
/heads off to game ignoring the long list of chores she should be doing
- creating bulleted lists
- getting myself into (and subsequently out of) trouble
- buying footwear that is too bloody big for me
- crossing imaginary lines
- being a geek
- singing karaoke
- looking after animals, plants and people
- engaging strangers
- being completely oblivious and very easily distracted
- getting what I need out of life
- loving people and being loved in return
- taking action
- providing far too much information
- being overly friendly
- finding the lee side
- over analyzing
- making technology bend to my will (I use the Force)
- offending conservative thinkers due to a lack of filters
- breaking randomly into song
- not knowing when to quit
- stumbling into/planning adventure
- trusting that the universe will provide
- doffing my clothing at any given opportunity
- healthy skepticism
- (bracketed asides)
I'm getting better at
- being present
- non-violent communication
- paying attention
- understanding others
- not steam-rolling the introverts (srsly, that still needs work)
- appreciating delayed gratification
- meditating/being still (so does this)
- living healthy, both physically and mentally
(to be con't...)
I'd say the 3 ft of hair, but since it's generally up in a bun on the back of my head secured with chopsticks, it doesn't get noticed until the odd occasion when I let it down. The chopsticks do though. That seems to be a go-to nickname for me...
I used to read voraciously but sadly I seldom find time for it now. My favourite author is Heinlein. My favourite genre is science fiction. It's like pizza. Even if it's bad, it's still pretty good. Fantasy is a close second. I'm not going to get into listing more authors or titles or we'll be here all day. If you're awesome, one day you'll likely peruse my bookshelves ;)
I really enjoyed Opening Up by Tristan Taormino. While I had connected with The Ethical Slut years ago, I found the former book to be far more accessible and informative. It feels like The Ethical Slut was written as an affirmation to those already identifying as poly, but Opening Up is more of a guide for those who are just discovering they have options and have been inundated by monogamous programming their entire lives. Either way, I think I may have to read a lot more on this particular subject.
Currently I'm trying to find time to digest A Dance With Dragons and The Power of Now
Brave, Sunshine, Fanboys, LotR trilogy, Star Wars saga, Scott Pilgrim vs The World, Labyrinth, Boondock Saints, Idiocracy, Gattaca, The Island, Surrogates, the Princess Bride, the Dark Crystal, 300, Hard Candy, Pan's Labyrinth, Stone of Destiny, Tod Browning's Freaks... Science fiction/comic book/action/fantasy/comedy genres appeal most.
Horror does not. Life is scary enough, I don't need my entertainment to be.
Game of Thrones is the best show on television, bar none. Dragons. Your argument is invalid.
All science fiction, even (especially) if it's cheesy. Dedicated Whovian, Browncoat, Trekker and Fangirl. BSG, Babylon5, Farscape, the Big Bang Theory. Community is quite amusing. Glee fucking rocks. True Blood is sexy. Plenty of BBC programming is brilliant (e.g.; Torchwood, Jekyll, No Heroics, Secret Diary of a Call Girl). Thing is, I won't watch them on the television at the time prescribed by the networks. I don't currently own a T.V. or pay for cable access. I much prefer to ingest my entertainment at my leisure so I download it to my computer and thus avoid the advertisements. (Arr, matey!)
I'm also interested in a different kind of show; Phantom of the Opera was great, saw it three times. Wicked was wicked (heh), saw it off Broadway. Highly recommend Blue Man Group, saw it twice.
While Avenue Q was here in Toronto I attended twice. Moar theatre! Moar music! I've been attending a lot of amateur theatre and smaller shows and am really enjoying them. Larger productions have more financial backing and are spectacular, but watching the smaller ones showcases human ingenuity and creativity better IMHO.
My Youtube Channel. My favourited videos are not the end-all-be-all regarding my musical tastes but it'll give you an idea.
When I go karaokeing, which is often, I have a vast repertoire to choose from in regards to song selection, spanning many genres and eras. I can ofttimes be found travelling with a group that style themselves karaoke addicts. I once asked a friend if my voice could be described as sounding like someone well-known to which they replied "Britney Spears crossed with Stevie Nicks". Not sure how I feel about that... I do a mean cover on a Fleetwood Mac song, but would rather sing Pink over Britney because many of Pink's songs fall right in my vocal range (and she's just a better role model)... I've been singing a lot of Lana Del Rey lately and even managed to get a recording of myself covering Video Games. It turned out AMAZING. I sound just like her :D
2012 was the year of the party. I figured, if there's a pending apocalypse, what better excuse to travel, adventure, dance and relax? I went to Jamaica for vacation, Reno, NV for Burning Man and finally Tulum, Mayan Riviera for Time and Space Festival on the Winter Solstice. Oh, and of course, Harvest Fest every year that I can make it. When it comes to electronic dance music I definitely have a preference for the kind of beats that draw the consciousness-expanded, earthy and eccentric attendees over the ones that draw idiot children and meat-heads. I wouldn't go so far as to call myself a hippy... or a trippy, a term I learned at Time and Space. I'm favouring my friend Lee's interpretation of the class of partier we are. She calls us Yippies :D
My presence at these events is much rarer now, though occasionally I am taken by the urge to get out and dance.
Steak n' mashed potatoes, sushi, bacon, shawarma, perogies and I've recently mastered cream pasta sauces. Almost every day I run home and make a serving of veggies with a grilled cheese for lunch... fruit in the morning for breakfast, oatmeal during the winter months. Although I'm well aware the spice must flow, spicy food does not sit well with me. The last time I encountered an overly spiced dish, sweat poured out my pores for over an hour. On four bites. I guess I'm not very foodventurous... though I do enjoy a well prepared haggis,
I did it, I tried balut. I take it back, I AM foodventurous... so long as it doesn't burn. The baby duckling was pretty damned gross but I didn't gag... much. My Filipino heritage is gratified!
I read an article recently that said it takes 3-4 servings of alkaline fruits/vegetables to combat the amount of acidity present in a single serving of animal protein. So, I'm trying to eat more fruits and especially veggies. Not an easy task, as I really love my meat. Browsing a list of acidic vs alkaline foods from the Internet is depressing, all the really tasty stuff falls on the acid side of the list, and that shit'll leach the calcium from my bones /sigh
Turns out cutting meat out of my diet was far easier than expected. That shit is expensive! And as a result I eat it far less than I used to.
Let's say, assuming society hasn't crumbled and we end up living in a post-apocalyptic world without basic amenities, the six things I wouldn't want to be denied, the creature comforts I've come to enjoy most are:
- Domesticated animal companions
Omg, a friend bought me Firefly, Out of the Black and would you believe it? Still wrapped! I suck at this game... :|
perhaps singing my heart out at some pub in the city. Being ¼ Pinay makes for a deep set need to karaoke regularly (I wonder if that's genetic), though I usually go on Wednesdays and Saturdays.
now it's getting cold out, likely video gaming, though I have noted a definite increase in table-top role playing in my life lately :3
(Christmas day saw me redeem the 60-day World of Warcraft game card I had lying around for the past year... now I need to purchase the expansion. I've sorely missed Azeroth, speaking of which... /saves profile and head's off to game)
not closed to the idea of suggestions new and exciting ;)
I had to cultivate filters for those in my proximity that value privacy more than I do, so I'm fairly versed in managing other people's privacy as it pertains to me, but it was definitely a learning process as the inclination didn't come naturally.
I may just be in love with Amanda Palmer... and her Map of Tasmania.
couldn't help myself, especially after her response to the Daily Mail!
and her TED talk.
also, that I'm a pegasister.
and, I find hysterical literature amazing.
you have pictures on your profile (I'm only going to ignore you otherwise).
you haven't got a problem with girls who haven't made friends with a razor in a number of years and possess no interest in a reconciliation (￣ー￣)
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