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26 San Jose, CA Man, Cis Man

Man, Cis Man

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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 18–30
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
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My details

Last online
Sep 29
Queer, Sapiosexual, Heteroflexible
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
6' 2" (1.87m)
Body Type
Agnosticism and it’s important
Doesn’t have kids
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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I don't think these summaries really do anybody justice, but... here goes. ^__^;

I'm a player of RPG's (especially tabletop), a philosophy nerd, a bibliophile, an amateur writer, a poet, and an all-around geeky guy. My favorite hobbies include gaming (both the video and tabletop varieties), and using what free time I have to make attempts at poetry and fiction.

I should probably also note that the "Mostly other" on my diet is actually for pollo-pescetarianism.

Oh, and if you're interested in personality tests/types, I'm INFP for Myers-Briggs (I'm kind of an ambivert), and 9w1 for Enneagram.
What I’m doing with my life
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I recently graduated from UC Berkeley with a B.A. in Philosophy. I'm currently trying to determine if grad school is right for me, and, in the meantime, working at a local store.

I try to practice my creative writing and drawing skills when I can, but unfortunately I'm not all that consistent.

I'm also considering teaching high school, so I'm looking into the teaching certification process- trying to tackle the CBEST, CSET, all that jazz.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
writing, listening, philosophizing, and, dare I say, thinking.

I'm also good at being geeky, but that's not necessarily difficult; after all, being geeky has more to do with preferences and such than any skillset, or the exertion thereof.
The first things people usually notice about me
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are that I'm a big guy (portly, husky, overweight, etc.), that I'm very friendly (unless I detect some sort of... animus against me), that I use fountain pens, that I'm a huge geek, that I can be a bit of a grammar-Nazi at times, and that while I'm a bit shy initially, I open up quickly once I establish a rapport with someone.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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There are a *ton*, but...
The Once and Future King, The Little Prince, Watership Down, American Gods, Catch-22, Dracula, Bernard Williams's Ethics and the Limits of Philosophy, and Erich Fromm's The Art of Loving. I also thought Kushiel's Dart, by Jacqueline Carey, was a great read, if a bit opaque at times due to her word choice.

Movies & Anime
I like Tim Burton's films, some of Robert Zemekis's works, especially the Back to the Future films, what works of Christopher Nolan I've seen, and Stanley Kubrick's films (notably, Dr. Stangelove and A Clockwork Orange). I've also been known to watch The Pirates of Penzance, from time to time.

I enjoy the works of Hayao Miyazaki and Studio Ghibli, and have several favorite anime series: Spice and Wolf, Neon Genesis Evangelion, Fullmetal Alchemist (both the original and Brotherhood), Chobits, The Melancholy of Haruhi Suzumiya, and Bleach are noteable examples.

My favorite Western TV shows are probably Twin Peaks, Sliders, The West Wing, and Louie. I do enjoy The Mentalist, but, unfortunately, I don't watch it regularly anymore. I also enjoy some of the programs on the BBC; for me, Sherlock and Merlin are notable highlights of what they have to offer.

There's almost too much that I like to list. The short version, though, is that I like any kind of rock, enjoy classical music (particularly Saint-Saens and Vivaldi, but Sarasate can be nice, too), and I will at least listen to pretty much anything-- other than gangsta rap.

With food, I'm generally not very picky at all. I really have a thing for good bread and certain cheeses, though-- Gouda and Havarti, notably.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
-Good books
-Entertaining media (games, videos, music, etc.)
-The Internet

(And no, I'm not listing sustenance or breathable air, since I interpret this question as having a more subjective scope and focus than that-- things I could never do without.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
the big questions... what makes an orderly society, what it means to live a good life, the relationship of justice and mercy, and how best to be an ethical person. And, of course, how our currently society falls short.

I also spend a lot of time considering ideas for stories and potential novels, but never quite get the time I'd like to develop them.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
doing one of several things. Usually, I'm surfing the web and chatting with friends while listening to music, but I also may be watching bad movies with friends (MST3K style) or playing Ingress.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have experience with dating trans folk (in particular, I have been in long term relationships with trans women, and someone genderqueer who came out to me as FtM after we'd been dating for a bit).

On that note, if you have a problem with trans* folks, then I seriously doubt we're going to get along.

Polyamory is a toughie for me. I don't find it morally objectionable or anything-- love is great, after all. I'm just not all that comfortable with it in my own serious relationships, due to past experiences.

I'm both sapiosexual and, oft times, demisexual; with the right person, though, my attraction to them could overcome my hesitance.

I don't really find myself attracted to cis males- not sure why this is, but... yeah.
You should message me if
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you're looking to be friends and get to know me.