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39 Oakland, CA Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 34–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 7:01pm
5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body type
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Might want kids
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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I'm soulful, playful, and spontaneous. I appreciate real connection, good conversation and laughter. I am shockingly honest about what I think and feel - and appreciate someone who can do the same. I'm also very down to earth and transparent and I'm really looking for someone who can match that quality and appreciate it.

Many people have asked me, 'why are you still single?' It may scare you that I am 39...but I've been waiting for someone who is a good fit, because I want love to be forever. And I'm like a fine wine, being saved for the right occasion to be opened. And, I've done a lot of work on myself to become a good partner...some of us are late bloomers. I'm finally ready : ) (and I look like my pics incidentally as I know you are wondering....)

My personality? I'm just happy to just be happy, and I love it if you are happy (and get weird if you are moody because I'll not know what to do to make it better). And smart - I'm always coming up with pretty damn good ideas and strategies. I like simple joys, finding fun and laughter in whatever I can. I'm compassionate, but with good boundaries. Work is work, and it is not my identity. I love what I do, but I love being away from it and having fun too!

What I am looking for in a partner - I am looking for a person who really enjoys connection, values deep, caring friendship where romance can take root and grow. I value when a man can share his true self and journey being a human being. I'd love a partner with a great sense of humor about life, grace for others, and a person that is interested in the examined life and soulful journey. I'm not looking for perfection. I realize it's impossible. And I'm cool but far from perfect too.

What I am looking for: A serious relationship and partnership.

Who I am looking for:

I enjoy confident, emotionally available, soulful men who are able to express their needs and wishes since I'm bad at guessing, I'm interested in a good man with a great heart, a spirit of adventure, and an appreciation for appreciating and being grateful for this funky, strange, exhilarating, sometimes frustrating journey we call life.

I am attracted a man who knows who he is. Because I know who I am. If you think you are right for me, drop me a line!
What I’m doing with my life
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Enjoying it as best I can, and then removing barriers and obstacles to enjoying life - loving family and friends, and creating new experiences.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Being serious and giving good advice.
Then laughing again because I am not good at being serious for a long time unless I am being paid.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Well, I have one nice smile, and it's easy to make me smile.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Movies: About a boy, The Wedding Singer, Shawshank Redemption
Shows: Homeland and yep, Downton Abbey.
Music: Linkin Park, Mozart, Dubstep, Tony Mola and other Brazilian favs, Meditative music. Florence and the Machine. Jack Johnson. Depends on my mood and what I energy I need to feel.
Food: Mom and Dad's home cooking, or really great Mexican, or really fancy upscale tasty - almost anything edible that Alice Waters would approve of and has not been genetically modified.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
One cup of great coffee in the morning
Brazilian rice and beans
Enough money in my savings account
Belly-aching big time laughter
Something to look forward to
Yep, of course, my loved and treasured friends and fam.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
It's scary yet entertaining inside my brain. I never know what might jump in to my mind given a change of scenery or a new concept!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Somewhere visiting someone, usually sipping wine and eating nice food.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Some times it's too hot to sleep with pajamas on!!
You should message me if
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something resonates. But tell me why. Don't write me a message like 'we have a lot in common, lets meet for drinks'. Tell me what you resonate with and why.