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39 F Oakland, CA

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5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body Type
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Might want kids
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
In All Seriousness:

I'm soulful, playful, and off-the-cuff. I'm a lot nicer than you expect me to be. Yet, I don't put up with much bullshit. A little, but not too much. I am shockingly honest (but not impolite) about what I think and feel - and appreciate someone who can handle this. I'm also very down to earth and transparent. That can throw people off as its unusual - and I'm really looking for someone who can match that quality and appreciate it.

I'm confident in who I am and what I am looking for in a partner. And frankly, I'm happy to stay single until I meet a man who is a great fit for me, a person who really enjoys life, and loving, oh and laughing. Not looking for perfection. I realize it's impossible. And I'm cool but far from perfect too. Don't we all fall in love with fantasies on paper? I know I have, you probably have too.

Who I am looking for:

I enjoy confident, emotionally available, soulful men who are able to express their needs and wishes since I'm bad at guessing, I'm interested in a good, soulful man with a great heart, a spirit of adventure, and an appreciation for appreciating and being grateful for this funky, strange, exhilarating, sometimes frustrating journey we call life.

I am attracted to confidence and a person who is warm and receptive, and knows who he is. I appreciate a bit of an edge, and mischief. A little danger is exciting too. Sarcasm has it's place but life is too short to complain.

That being said - if you got that far, read on - here are the delightful parts about me:

In All Playfulness:

My personality? Think really smart golden retriever. I'm just happy to just be happy, and I love it if you are happy (and get weird if you are moody because I'll not know what to do to make it better). And smart - I'm always coming up with pretty damn good ideas and strategies.

I love being silly, laughing at myself, at you, at that guy over there - I indulge in the occasional snarky comments, crack up at unmerited cynicism, or moments when people take themselves too damn seriously. Relish in spontaneity. Seductive, sensual flirting, staring, smiling, looking away - all give me butterflies.

Amazed and fascinated by experiences and moments of beauty is how I engage with life - tasting an awesome cup of coffee, listening to a dark, sensuous thunderstorm, witnessing the radiant shades of clouds at sunset, divine connection in conversation. I love to explore - moods, musics, energy.

I'm just as likely to don a cowboy hat, boots and jeans as I am to dress with elegance for a night out in the city, strutting in high heels and a fancy dress. Take me sailing. To the symphony. Dive bars. Five stars. I can't be put in a box. I am many genres, but always myself. If you get it, and get me, I'll love you. Big time.

If I was describing myself like one describes a wine I'd say I'm playful, conscious, strong, funny, intense, curious, joyous, receptive, real, radiant, with spicy notes and smoky appeal (haha).
What I’m doing with my life
Mainly working my tail off at my business. Traveling like mad for work and play. I live in airports.
I’m really good at
Being serious and giving good advice.
Then laughing again because I am not good at being serious for a long time unless I am being paid.
The first things people usually notice about me
Well, I have one nice smile, and it's easy to make me smile.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Movies: About a boy, The Wedding Singer, Shawshank Redemption
Shows: EMBARRASSING but I might as well put it out there - I love Glee! And Switched at Birth. Lame, sure, but great escapes - don't judge now : )
Music: Linkin Park, Mozart, Dubstep, Tony Mola and other Brazilian favs, Meditative music. Florence and the Machine. Jack Johnson. Depends on my mood and what I energy I need to feel.
Food: Mom and Dad's home cooking, or really great Mexican, or really fancy upscale tasty - almost anything edible that Alice Waters would approve of and has not been genetically modified.
The six things I could never do without
One cup of great coffee in the morning
Brazilian rice and beans
Enough money in my savings account
Belly-aching big time laughter
Something to look forward to
Yep, of course, my loved and treasured friends and fam.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
It's scary yet entertaining inside my brain. I never know what might jump in to my mind given a change of scenery or a new concept!
On a typical Friday night I am
Somewhere visiting someone, usually sipping wine and eating nice food.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I think already admitting I like teenage tv shows is somewhat making myself a vulnerable target for ridicule : )
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 34–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
something resonates. But tell me why. Don't write me a message like 'we have a lot in common, lets meet for drinks'. Tell me what you resonate with and why.