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34 • Chicago, IL • Man
I’m looking for
- Ages 25–39
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, short-term dating
- Last Online
- Dec 25
- 6′ 0″ (1.83m)
- Body Type
- Strictly anything
- When drinking
- Atheism, and laughing about it
- Relationship Status
- Seeing Someone
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- English (Okay)
When not serving as a proud public servant, I'm mostly reading books and talking about them, listening to music and talking about it, and trying to get to know the nebulosity that is "Chicagoland."
I moved to the far northside two summers ago to be with my partner of a bunch of years. We're in an open-relationship, thus my presence here. It's really nowhere near as complicated as it sounds, but of course I'm happy to answer questions about it.
One point: I enjoy non-monogamy as much as anything as an opportunity to make new friends. I'm sorry if that sounds like the ultimate disingenuous line -- "no no, I just want to get to know you!" -- but I'll hereby accept not getting to hang out with anyone who assumes the worst of people. One thing I've enjoyed about my forays into the Openness zone (which haven't been super deep, for the record) is how its success requires radical honesty and trust. It's not legalized cheating. It's a rejection of the assumptions of ownership and jealousy that make the very concept of "cheating" legible.
Some favorite movies are Dead Man, Who's Afraid of Virginia Wolf?, all the best Kubrick movies, all the best Coen Brothers movies, The Passion of Joan of Arc, The Godfather 1 & 2, and Mohammad Ali: The Greatest. I really like quoting the supermarket scenes from My Blue Heaven.
I spend a lot of time listening to music. Some favorites, in no particular order, other than listing the best first: the Beatles, Fugazi, Ornette Coleman, Steve Reich, Pavement, Bach, John Fahey, Fela Kuti, T.P.O.K. Jazz, the Velvet Underground, Terry Riley, Yes, Mississippi John Hurt. And my friends' bands.
As for TV, I haven't had regular access to one since 1998, but I did watch The Wire and I always want to talk about it. Also I'm sure I'll go to my grave with Simpsons references emerging from somewhere in my rotting cerebellum.
As for food, I like everything and I love to wash dishes. No joke.
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