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26 / M / Gay / Single

Poulsbo, Washington

His Details

Last Online
Online now!
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m).
Body Type
Thin
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Sign
Scorpio but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from college/university
Job
Education / Academia
Income
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Italian (Okay), German (Poorly), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
In our dreams we tend to be the people that we wish we were in reality. In my own dreams I find myself on constant adventures that one may find in a story, making quick decisions, possessing a strong and courageous heart, and having a more assertive and outgoing personality to where I'd be cracking jokes and unhesitatingly asking the attractive man to go on a date or be my boyfriend.

But as the alarm clock rings and the dream fades, reality kicks back in. The me that wakes up from the dream is much more passive, quiet, and sometimes even a little nervous when it comes to the little things. While one may cross the street next to this real version of me and swear they hear a song coming from my direction, it'll be more at a quiet volume rather than a loud and proud one. When it comes to dates, I normally either have to be prodded or the other person has to ask, as I can be incredibly shy about doing the asking myself. And while I might go out for karaoke when able and while I hang out with friends and roommates, I tend to keep what I say to a bare minimum unless I find myself at decent comfort level with the person/people around me. The person in reality and the person in the dream are almost exact opposites of each other in every way.

But whether in reality or a dream, the morals and views I keep are the same, and the interests I have are equal. The type of guys that I tend to fall for in both reality and dream are also the same as well, of course.

I tend to have a balanced optimistic and pessimistic view of life and everything that it holds. It's quite likely that you'll always see my more optimistic, relaxed, and more outgoing side than the other, though. I like to take little moments to stop and look at the beauty that is held within even the smallest things, such as the shine coming from an emerald green leaf or the the fragrance coming from a nearby flower as I walk by. Apparently I go between being an ENFJ and an INFJ. Weird, but okay. I'm a Ravenclaw according to Pottermore, a Scorpio according to Western Astrology, and a Fire Tiger according to Chinese...though I tend to always either get Air or Water on those element tests.

I also tend to go between being somewhat active as well as a homebody. I enjoy staying at home and gaming or watching movies...but at the same time I enjoy going on a refreshing walk, bike ride, and I enjoy roller/ice skating, skiing, riding jet-skis, singing/karaoke, and the like. I tend to be open to a lot of interests and enjoy most things that I try. If I could pick a sport I'd want to learn, it'd be a tie between soccer, lacrosse, and hockey.

When the motivation/inspiration strikes me, I tend to be very much into writing some type of fantasy-adventure story. I've attempted diving into other genres such as horror, Sci-Fi, and the like...but I tend to enjoy delving into the many different faces of Fantasy the most. While I tend to not get too detailed about most of my stuff (since they're still in the beginning stages), feel free to ask me questions about them if you'd like! =)

Guys that can make me smile and laugh are what I like quite a bit. Outgoing and fun guys are great, as are guys who have a clear head and are down to Earth. Creativity is always sexy to me since I like to delve into my own imagination a bit. Honesty is always a turn on, as is caring for your body in at least some extent. I eat all types of food, but I make up for it by being active. My ideal guy out there would be the same way. No, that doesn't mean they have to have a wicked six pack or anything to that extent, but if I want to go for a run/jog or something equally physically testing, I expect that they're able to keep up.

On a random sidenote: Every time I hear/see the words "Greek Myths," I think of the episode of Recess where Gus lost his glasses, and ended up doing a report on the "Green Mints." Just a heads up, I'll probably have some sort of classic-TV reference mind-set for a lot of things out there.

On a second sidenote: I realize that on my Favorites section, I list both newer Star Trek movies, TNG, and DS9 as favorites of mine. While I do enjoy these, the movies, and am showing interest in Voyager and the classic show, I don't identify as a "Trekkie."
What I’m doing with my life
I'm in the stage of currently taking my life in a more pleasant direction. I'm just not exactly where I would like to be at the moment, which would be teaching a classroom of kids and having a story or two (or more) published and out in the world.

I went to Eastern Washington University, where I studied Theatre. My original focus was going to be teaching and creative writing, but Theatre ended up grabbing me more. Eventually though, I would like to go back to school and grab both my BA in Music (Vocal emphasis), as well as my teaching credentials.

Since 2011, I've been working in the district as a Paraeducator. For the last half of the 2012-2013 school year, I've been working in the elementary level with the kids that have extreme behavioral problems to where they can't function in the classroom. It's been quite an experience for sure, but it's been an experience I've enjoyed nonetheless.
I’m really good at
Making others feel good about themselves. I generally know the right things to say to make a person feel happy or beautiful, and bring a smile to their face.

Also, singing in gibberish. I've almost got it down to its own language and everything to where it's almost not even gibberish anymore.
The first things people usually notice about me
The first thing that's usually mentioned is my smile. If I'm really comfortable around someone, they start to notice my quirky personality.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Harry Potter, Inkheart, Golden Compass, Chronicles of Narnia, The Looking Glass Wars, The Great Gatsby, The Giver, The Magical Kingdom of Landover, Wicked, Ella Enchanted, Fahrenheit 451, Ender's Game, The Hunger Games trilogy, The Neverending Story, The Wise Heart, Compass of Zen, Charlie and the Chocolate Factory/Great Glass Elevator.

Movies: Ever After, 10th Kingdom, Meet the Robinsons, Lord of the Rings, Cabin in the Woods, Freedom Writers, Little Nemo, Ferngully, My Neighbor Totoro, Were the World Mine, Stardust, The Amazing Spiderman, The Secret World of Arrietty, Star Trek, Star Trek Into Darkness, Captain America: The First Avenger.

Shows: Once Upon a Time, True Blood, The Walking Dead, American Horror Story, Detective Conan, Futurama, Heroes, Supernatural, Recess, The New Normal, Are you Afraid of the Dark?, Bates Motel, Star Trek: The Next Generation, Star Trek: Deep Space Nine, Family Guy, American Dad.

Music: Beatles, Queen, Enya, Deadmau5, Pendelum, Imagine Dragons, Fun, Ace of Base, Pogo, Coldplay, Electric Light Orchestra, InsideOut A Capella, Madonna, Moosebutter, Totally Enormous Extinct Dinosaurs, Daft Punk, Owl City, Frank Sinatra, La Roux, Nobuo Uematsu, Yoko Shimomura, Vitas, Gaga and Perry on increasingly rare days.

Live Productions: Monty Python's Spamalot, Honk!, The Lion King, Sweeney Todd, Saving Aimee, Romeo and Juliet, Cinderella, Proof, Our Country's Good, Lend me a Tenor, The Foreigner, Three Days of Rain, Ruthless!

Food: Any aside from things involving: Peppers (including jalapenos), raw onion (cooked/sauteed is fine), garlic (powder is fine). I have a thing for burgers and fries, steak, bratwurst, and many types of Italian and Chinese cuisine.

Games:
*PC: Starcraft, Diablo, Warcraft (1-3), Rollercoaster Tycoon, Myst, Clive Barker's Undying, American McGee's Alice, Duke Nukem (original DOS versions), Doom (Ultimate + Doom 3), The Sims 2-3/Medieval
*3rd Generation (NES): Little Nemo: Dream Master, Super Mario Bros., Wizards and Warriors, Gremlins 2, Mother/Earthbound Zero, the Goonies, Zelda 2: Adventures of Link, Addams Family
*4th Generation (SNES and Genesis): Earthbound, Secret of Evermore, Chrono Trigger, Terranigma, Final Fantasy Mystic Quest, Sonic the Hedgehog, Alex Kidd in the Enchanted Castle, Seiken Densetsu 3, Sailor Moon: Another Story, Illusion of Gaia
*5th Generation (N64 and PS1): Legend of Zelda (OOT and MM), Chrono Cross, Legend of Dragoon, Paper Mario, Lunar Silver Star Story Complete, Final Fantasy 9, Super Mario 64, Megaman Legends, Monkey Hero, Mario Party 2
*6th Generation (Dreamcast to PS2): Skies of Arcadia, Kingdom Hearts, Dark Cloud, Legend of Zelda: Twilight Princess, Grandia II, Grandia III, Golden Sun, Okami, Luigi's Mansion, Sphinx and the Cursed Mummy
*7th Generation (Present consoles): Tales of Vesperia, Super Mario Galaxy, Portal, New Super Mario Bros, Beautiful Katamari, Lost Odyssey, Bioshock Infinite, Luigi's Mansion: Dark Moon, Injustice: Gods Among Us, Ni No Kuno: Wrath of the White Witch
The six things I could never do without
>Notebooks: for jotting down story ideas.
>Laptop/computer: for copying down the ideas and writing the stories (and for the internet of course).
>Video games: For those days of relaxing with little to do.
>A sense of curiosity and adventure: It helps both make days interesting, and of course benefits any story ideas that I may have.
>Books: Hey, a guy has to read something other than his own stuff sometimes.
>Music: It helps with motivation, and songs are fun to sing along to as well.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What life is like right now, versus what it could have been like had I made a different decision in some aspect. If I'd gone with studying theatre since day one, would I be in a different place in my life now? If I'd put my effort into an Education, Psychology, or Creative Writing degree like I'd considered, would I have a career in one of those (the first as a teacher obviously) right now?

What could I have done differently at that moment versus my actions that took place? What would have happened if I had argued my point across instead of smiling and going with what they were saying?

What's my purpose in life? What's anyone's true purpose? What are we here for? What are we supposed to achieve?

What happens when we die? Is there an actual "afterlife" or are we just wishful thinkers hoping to immortalize ourselves by creating one?

Also, I tend to think about story ideas quite a bit as well.
On a typical Friday night I am
Either gaming, writing, biking, or whatever is on my schedule for the day. Usually it involves at least some gaming though.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
While there are obvious limits, I'm for the most part an open book.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like guys
  • Ages 20–35
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
You feel the desire to. I always enjoy making new friends on here, and am always keeping an eye open for that certain special guy out there.