I'm very into dichotomy, juxtaposition and coloring outside the lines. Monogamy doesn't work for me, at all. I've tried and failed at monogamy, so I've settled into a poly/non-monogamous lifestyle. This does not mean I'm a total man-whore, it just means I am a pansexual, somewhat genderfluid, kinky switch so one person could never fill all my wants or desires. I don't understand jealousy and I really don't understand small-minded people who restrict pleasure because of it.
I live in Detroit in the neighborhood of Milwaukee Junction (look it up, it's basically at I-94 and I-75) in a co-op and spend most of my non-work time in the city. It's vibrant, it's alive, it's not as scary as many people think and I love every crack in the sidewalk and steam vent spilling white mist into the sky. This city is a diamond in the rough as long as you aren't focused on unpolished edges. People who are scared of Detroit, or only come into the city to get off the freeway for casinos, sporting events or a restaurant are a huge turnoff.
I put myself as bisexual, but I really hate labels. Gender, sexuality, kinkiness, etc are all on a spectrum. I'm collared to a woman who now lives in Oakland, CA and my plan is to be there within a year. Before moving, I was also dating her husband and we were a full triad for about half the year. Very much finding I'm more into queer than gay guys. I like when my partners are fluctuating in their gender and who switch Top to bottom.