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36 Detroit, MI Man


I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 21–40
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Feb 26
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
A little extra
Mostly anything
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Dropped out of university
Sales / Marketing
Open relationship
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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The years I've spent on this rock have shown me that no matter how much we plan, things throw us off whatever course we've plotted. It's taken me 35 years to embrace this and found myself happier as a result. To quote Bill Hicks, "It's just a ride."

I'm very into dichotomy, juxtaposition and coloring outside the lines. Monogamy doesn't work for me, at all. I've tried and failed at monogamy, so I've settled into a poly/non-monogamous lifestyle. This does not mean I'm a total man-whore, it just means I am a pansexual, somewhat genderfluid, kinky switch so one person could never fill all my wants or desires. I don't understand jealousy and I really don't understand small-minded people who restrict pleasure because of it.

I live in Detroit in the neighborhood of Milwaukee Junction (look it up, it's basically at I-94 and I-75) in a co-op and spend most of my non-work time in the city. It's vibrant, it's alive, it's not as scary as many people think and I love every crack in the sidewalk and steam vent spilling white mist into the sky. This city is a diamond in the rough as long as you aren't focused on unpolished edges. People who are scared of Detroit, or only come into the city to get off the freeway for casinos, sporting events or a restaurant are a huge turnoff.

I put myself as bisexual, but I really hate labels. Gender, sexuality, kinkiness, etc are all on a spectrum. I'm collared to a woman who now lives in Oakland, CA and my plan is to be there within a year. Before moving, I was also dating her husband and we were a full triad for about half the year. Very much finding I'm more into queer than gay guys. I like when my partners are fluctuating in their gender and who switch Top to bottom.
What I’m doing with my life
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Currently working as a retail manager in an outdoor equipment shop. My day job is merely a cover for my real passions which involve attending random and eccentric events such as Theatre Bizarre, March du Nain Rouge, Santarchy and Bunarchy bar crawls, Dragon Parties and being involved in the local Burning Man, Maker Space and underground art communities. I also attend a few local conventions with a very geek bend.

Basically, I was the nerdy kid in high school who played Magic The Gathering at lunch and then I learned how to make flame throwers and found Burning Man and realized normal things are for boring people who peaked in college. I worked in the mortgage business and then the bubble burst, so I found my way to working in the industry I spent so much money in. Instead of dreading my work, I walk in almost every day with a smile.

Life is too short to be unhappy, unfulfilled or to settle for something that doesn't excite you.

I bike, kayak, hike, hang out in dive bars and love to try new things. Trying to spend time learning fire staff and working on my writing, while planning various mini-vacations to music and art festivals. Lakes of Fire is an every year event for me, and I've recently fallen in with a whole crew of Sex Nerds ( who have formed an amazing camp and chosen family together.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
-I keep being told I know everybody, which isn't true, but I know a lot of cool people who do a lot of cool things.
-Enjoying tasteless humor, because it's always easier to get through the shitty parts laughing about them.
-Intelligent yet inane conversations about random correlations
-researching topics that interest me to no end
-hurting people who enjoy it
-finding the bright side to almost any situation
-exploring innerspace
The first things people usually notice about me
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-my facial hair. It's kind of awesome.
-my laugh
-I talk, a lot
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Geek Love, The Dark Tower series, Game of Thrones, anything by Hunter S Thompson, Elmore Leonard and Christopher Moore. World War Z, War Day, American Gods, The Electric Kool-Aid Acid Test, Sex At Dawn.

comic books:
CROSSED, Walking Dead, DMZ, The Boys, No Hero, Black Summer, the new Serenity series because Firefly.

Gravity, Videodrome, Requiem For A Dream, The Muppets, A Goofy Movie, Cabin In The Woods, The Big Lebowski, Fast and the Furious , All the Cohen Brothers movies, John Dies In The End, Interstellar. lots of weird, eclectic stuff. Dance-off movies and Musicals.

The Wire, Breaking Bad, Mad Men, Adventure Time, Archer, Venture Brothers.

Electronica - Glitch Hop, Psytrance, Electro House, Trip-hop
Dirty, filthy garage rock - white stripes, rolling stones, george thoroughgood, the black keyes
hip hop - B.O.B., Macklemore, KRS-One, Public Enemy, Atmosphere, Cunning Linguists, Jurassic 5
punk/ska - Iggy and the Stooges, Gogol Bordello, Flogging Molly, Reel Big fish, Streetlight Manifesto, Caravan Palace
Silly shit - TMBG, Stephen Lynch, MIKA, Jonathan Coulton, Epic Rap Battles of History

Tom Waits is a God. Seriously.

food: I eat things that taste good. My favorite regular restaurants in the area are Honest John's, The Bronx, Green Dot Stables, Bucharest Grill, Taqueria Mi Pueblo and Grandy's Coney.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
my chosen tribe
my bike
intelligent conversation
my car
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
why people let society dictate what they do instead of what makes them happy and fulfilled.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
working until 8 or 8:30 and then:

-sitting at home watching a couple shows, reading or sleeping
-going to a dive bar for some cheap drinks with a good juke box
-attending some weird event
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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That this section is one of the worst parts of OKC.
You should message me if
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-You love to talk about random things
-you are interested in any of the events I've discussed here
-you actually read this to the end
-you don't have a problem when I send you my cell number to text.
-If you know who Bill Hicks, D.B. Cooper and Neal DeGrasse Tyson are without "the google".
-you aren't afraid of Detroit and don't understand people who are
-you're poly or poly friendly
-you can send a message that isn't 1 or 2 lines
-If we are a match above 80% you should think about it. If we're above 90% you should do it just so we can squeal like schoolgirls about all the things we have in common, like breathing and our love for "dance-off" movies.