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37 Oakland, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 24–40
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
May 2
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body type
A little extra
Mostly anything
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Dropped out of university
Sales / Marketing
Open relationship
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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***My partners and I have coined the term "Bohemian Family" to represent what we seek and are attracted to. Mainly (though not exclusively) this involves our definition of Unicorn. A Unicorn to us is someone who is at least bisexual but more than likely pansexual, genderbent/queer at least a little, poly as hell (and not that sorta poly/open relationship stuff, but full-on everyone gets to play with whoever they want and we're all communicating like whoah) and a switch when it comes to kink. We also prefer to date other unicorns, because we're too special and rare to waste time with non-unicorns. Joining our Bohemian Family doesn't mean you have to sleep with anyone, but we do have things like underwear snuggle parties and the occasional less-than-underwear parties. Vanilla is only good as a flavor, not for sex or relationships!! ***

***I'm looking for a primary partner who is also searching for this poly ideal of freedom and enjoyment in life. In addition I'm always down for playmates who are interested in exploring all things with a hedonistic bend, kinky or otherwise.***

The years I've spent on this rock have shown me that no matter how much we plan, things throw us off whatever course we've plotted. It's taken me years to embrace this and found myself happier as a result. To quote Bill Hicks, "It's just a ride."

I'm very into dichotomy, juxtaposition and coloring outside the lines. Monogamy doesn't work for me, at all and jealous people suck. This does not mean I'm a total man-whore, it just means I am a pansexual, somewhat genderfluid, kinky switch so one person could never fill all my wants or desires. I don't understand jealousy and I really don't understand small-minded people who restrict pleasure because of it. I present as a cismale because that's comfy to me. Don't judge a book by it's cover, though.

I grew up near Detroit and spent the last two years living inside that city watching it grow. I've recently relocated to the left coast and Oakland looking for a place to live that falls more in line with my politics, lifestyle and way of thinking. I'm still exploring the bay, so any help finding the cool, non touristy hang-out spots would be fantastic. I tend towards weird, underground, non-typical events.

I put myself as bisexual, but I really hate labels. Gender, sexuality, kinkiness, etc are all on a spectrum. I was involved in a triad the summer of 2014 and am still dating the wife of that relationship as well as building a new Bohemian Family locally. Very much finding I'm more into queer folks. I like when my partners are fluctuating in their gender and who switch Top to bottom.
What I’m doing with my life
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Currently looking for full time employment since moving here a few weeks back. Between that and the crazy housing market for rentals, I've been beating my head against the wall looking for both. Add in going out and seeing as much as I can around the bay from my bike and the BART and you've summed up where things are currently for me.

Basically, I was the nerdy kid in high school who played Magic The Gathering at lunch and then I learned how to make flame throwers and found Burning Man and realized normal things are for boring people who peaked in college. I worked in the mortgage business and then the bubble burst, so I did some time in a high end grocery store and then ended up with a high end outdoor gear company for 6 years. Fast forward to now and I'm here in the Bay and possibly talking to you. Life is too short to be unhappy, unfulfilled or to settle for something that doesn't excite you.

I bike, kayak, hike, hang out in dive bars and love to try new things. Trying to spend time learning fire staff and working on my writing, while planning various day bike and hike runs into the woods around here. Feel like partnering up for some activities? Always down to meet new people who share recreational thoughts.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
-finding my way around on my bike
-Intelligent yet inane conversations about random correlations
-researching topics that interest me to no end
-hurting people who enjoy it and learning to enjoy being hurt more
-finding the bright side to almost any situation
-exploring innerspace
The first things people usually notice about me
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-my facial hair. It's kind of awesome.
-my laugh
-I talk, a lot
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Geek Love, The Dark Tower series, Game of Thrones, anything by Hunter S Thompson, Elmore Leonard and Christopher Moore. World War Z, War Day, American Gods, The Electric Kool-Aid Acid Test, Sex At Dawn.

Gravity, Videodrome, Requiem For A Dream, The Muppets, A Goofy Movie, Cabin In The Woods, The Big Lebowski, All the Cohen Brothers movies, John Dies In The End, Interstellar. lots of weird, eclectic stuff. Dance-off movies and Musicals.

***MAD MAD: FURY ROAD. I haven't been this excited for a movie in years. If you understand the post-apocalyptic lust, you should say something because we will be good friends.***

The Wire, Breaking Bad, Mad Men, Adventure Time, Archer, Rick and Morty.

Electronica - Glitch Hop, Psytrance, Electro House, Trip-hop

Dirty, filthy garage rock - white stripes, rolling stones, george thoroughgood, the black keyes

hip hop - B.O.B., Macklemore, KRS-One, Public Enemy, Atmosphere, Cunning Linguists, Jurassic 5, Immortal Technique.

punk/ska - Iggy and the Stooges, Gogol Bordello, Flogging Molly, Reel Big fish, Streetlight Manifesto, Caravan Palace

Silly shit - TMBG, Stephen Lynch, MIKA, Jonathan Coulton, Epic Rap Battles of History

Tom Waits is a God. Seriously.

food: I eat things that taste good. My roomies tell me the taco truck a block from their apartment is the best in the area. I'm down to compare with yours and find out if it's true. Because one partner is a vegetarian, I'm sensitive to people's food needs, but I'll eat pretty much anything.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
my bohemian family
my bike
intelligent conversation
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
why people let society dictate what they do instead of what makes them happy and fulfilled.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I have no typical Friday night, everything is new.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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That this section is one of the worst parts of OKC.
You should message me if
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-You love to talk about random things
-you can show me around Oakland or San Fran and help me find my type of weird here.
-you actually read this to the end
-you don't have a problem when I send you my cell number to text.
-you understand why Meghan Trainer and Iggy Azalea suck
-you think people scared of Oakland is silly.
-you're poly or poly friendly
-you can send a message that isn't 1 or 2 lines
-If we are a match above 80% you should think about it. If we're above 90% you should do it just so we can squeal like schoolgirls about all the things we have in common, like breathing and our love for "dance-off" movies.