Most of this profile is at least two years old. I think I've taken out anything that no longer applies, unless I think it's funny, so this is all still a good indicator of my scents and sensibilities.
Mostly cishet male, Intersectional Feminist/antiracist/antikyriarchy, humanist, Socialist, geek/nerd/dork, atheist, Unitarian Universalist evangelist, religious Cosmos watcher(and heckler), GGG, commited to polyamory, trying to ride bikes more, trying to be a better ally to everyone, nonviolent communication, compersion, intermediate blues dancer, beginning guitarist, crappy-but-determined writer of crappy-but-determined poetry, occasional runner, constant cuddler, one-time actor-stage manager-opera singer, math whiz, SCAdian, ex-WoWer, novice rapier fighter, lettered in chess and knowledge bowl, reflexive pianist. Currently living laterally.
I am non-hierarchically polyamorous, I have friends I go on dates with, or sweeties, or partners, depending on your definition, in Eugene, Portland, Seattle, and Bellingham. My anchor partner has never had an OkC account. Past partners and current friends include, but are not limited to, ixregardo, robyntheslug, anthm, and cyclonepeacock. For me, poly ≠ dating a lot of people, it's letting each relationship grow to its full potential, be that friendship, romance, sex, or some combination. Six months ago I was totally single, now I'm going on a date every few weeks without necessarily the expectation of finding my next live-in/life partner. If you are your own person, with your own stuff going on, and you would like to share some but not all of it, read on.
I hate having fun, and laughing, I am not down to earth, nor am I laid-back. Crazies please apply. I am actually exactly six feet tall, assuming I've been to a chiropractor recently. If you can tell which other details on the sidebar are literally true and which are true, you get cake.
I like people who know what they like, as well as what they don't like. I like people who don't take what is 'normal' into account in their decision making. I believe in objective reality, but understand that I am not objective, ever. I probably don't have the same facial hair this week.
INTP, which probably doesn't matter. And triple Aries, which definitely doesn't. Born in Salem (the closer one), lived in Aumsville, Eugene, Shoreline, Bellingham, and now Portlandia. I like this green, blue, and rainbow bubble we've got going in Cascadia, although I acknowledge it'd be really stupid to secede.
I'm straight and I actually have a bit of shame about it. But I know I am because I've done the work(and the kissing). I'm attracted to a mix of femininity and masculinity, but more than anything I'm attracted to people whose faces are a strong expression of who they are. As in, expressive and emotive. I'm willing to entertain the possibility of dating trans folks, but I have yet to feel chemistry with a trans woman, and have yet to have a trans man attracted to me. I'm looking for friends of all persuasions. I'm not willing to give up the people I love for you, but if you want to be friends with them, great. I live a fairly quiet life-work, school soon, going social dancing a few times a week(mainly blues with a side of contra and tango), making fancy dinners and watching Britcoms or fantasy/sci fi shows. I'd like someone to stay in with, and also to go out with every week or so. Monogamish? Poly? Ethical Sluttiness? Labels are often inadequate, and I'm open to the possibilities that life throws my way.
I personally think polyamory is a bit ridiculous. I also think that human relationships are all a bit ridiculous, and it's better if we just admit that right off the bat. I'm by no means an absolutist (not to be confused with 'absoslutist'), and I won't judge anyone else's lifestyle so long as said style does not include being dishonest or nonconsensual. I came to my relationship habits the Way God Intended: through hellishly dysfunctional relationships that left me scarred and scared (kidding![mostly!]). What's important to me is caring about and respecting one's partner(s) enough to be open and honest with them, to make decisions with lots of thought and discussion so that everyone can be as happy as possible in this imperfect world, and to learn from everything.
I'm sad that the adjectives are gone, so!
I am Adorkable, Loquacious, and Cusackesque
I enjoy meaningless cuddling. I consume webcomics, indie rock, and ethyl alcohol. I <3 Jason Webley, performance art, and spoken word. I double-heart nice girls who don't bite too hard. I like to go out dancing and actually dance.
I'm outgoing and sociable and more or less witty and maybe I'm not always nice, but I am good with lawful tendencies. Also-and this is not a contradiction-I'm a shy little guy who worries a lot and stays home most days. It seems like all my 90% or higher matches are 30-somethings in NYC, Berkley, or Europe.
I'm a godless pinko baby-killing welfare-state anti-gun peacenik hippy-trying-not-to-be-a-hipster (and failing). I also hate justice, freedom, apple pie, and all that is good and decent. But seriously. No, really serious. Being an agnostic leftist doesn't mean I don't have a solid ethical framework. I like to think my beliefs free me to make better decisions for myself and others.
I use nested parentheses unabashedly(but always in a grammatically[and ideally. poetically] correct fashion). My turnoffs include 'unnecessary' quotation marks, violence or the threat thereof, and pro sports. Yes, even the Timbers. I just don't care at all.
The things I do on a regular basis: hang out with my female, male, and other friends, play video games, watch good/hilariously bad movies, cook epic dinners of curry or pasta or whatever someone suggests the day before, go to my local gay bar because it has the best music and fewer people with fake tans or pre-frayed visors, and get maudlin about where my life is going. I play video games, but I usually prioritize human contact over sitting alone. Unless I really feel like being alone, which happens regularly. I also go to SCA events several times a year, where I try to stab people with blunted swords, shoot targets with arrows or throwing axes, and get seriously drunk playing tablero.
Je suis une bete. Je souviens seulement un petit peux de francais que j'ai appris au lycee. Si vouz etes tres patient, nous pouvons ecriver entre eux. Si non, je suis desolee que vous ne parlez pas anglais, et votre mere etes une grosse vache.
Antithestasia gave me: Smarter Than The Average Bear
Awarded Aug 2, 2009
“Like a walking xkcd strip, but more verbose. Reads books and stuff. ”
quickpulse gave me: The Perfect Mix
Awarded Aug 17, 2009
“Known him forever - one of the best finds I've ever made on this site. He's sweet, dirty, and geeky in all the best/right ways. He'll listen to you when you call late at night, meet you at any roller derby bout (where he'll know half the people there), and will kill spiders for you if ask. hehe...potential here”
ibideb gave me: Brilliant Profile
Awarded Dec 23, 2010
“Just wanted you ladies to know that all this stuff Norel's written? Totally true. Try him, you'll like him ;)”
So. Anyone in these parts think they're nerdy/hip/alcoholic/awkward enough to keep up?