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44 M Richmond, CA

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Native American, White
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Two-year college
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has a kid, but doesn’t want more
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
A random fact about me:
I believe I am one of the luckiest people . . . ever. I understand that this is a wild claim, but as the universe has continued to provide what I needed when I needed it (and sometimes almost the moment I "asked" for it), I have come to the conclusion that this is the case. High-5 if you feel lucky (high-5 if you need some luck as well)!

Before you go on and perhaps start to imagine you could ("hmmm, maybe") entertain the idea of US, see my "most private thing" section . . . It will most likely give you pause.

Early enough in life for it not to seem totally ridiculous, I made the decision to steadfastly "follow the happy" as a life goal. It has served me well, despite the arguably shameful number of times it has meant leaving a career on the cusp of financial success. As a result, my original idea of what "success" is has been altered - it only gets the stamp if the "the happy" is its core component.

In the parent category I was blessed. My parents are smart, very loving and have always tried to teach me how to be discerning with regards to quality on all fronts. I was always supported in my decisions, even when it came to leaving college and my home in the Midwest for California to pursue my passion, skateboarding. As a result, I have really enjoyed life (the triumph and even the heartbreak of it).

I have had some wide ranging jobs and careers: UPS pre-loader, clothing rep, National coach, writer/photographer, Professional sports judge, Victoria's Secrets sales person (I have admittedly done some things just to see if they could be done), just to name a few.

I have been fortunate to have traveled the world through skateboarding: Moscow, Dubai, Sydney, Paris, Beijing, Kuala Lumpur, Bangkok, among others - it's been a dream.
I have read (and believe) that bliss hinges on living in the moment. The thing I love most about travel (most obvious where there is a big language barrier), is that you spend a far greater amount of time in the moment. Because you have NO idea of what is to come, you're just right there experiencing . . . and it is true, it's constantly blissful.

I started my own business recently and it is successful (both by my standard as well as in the popular sense). My life has changed in another unexpected way as well - OKC seems a good initial step to adding a "special someone" to my life.

Phew! That may have been a little wordy and in my head, but don't worry, I'm also a skateboarder - action, action, action!
What I’m doing with my life
Building a business doing what I love. Keeping things simple when they can be. Loving my family. Evolving in some new directions and excited about the mystery of that.
I’m really good at
Being open. I seem to have some pretty personal conversations, often with people I've just met. I am not a very guarded person and I think that's part of it -also I just love getting to the nitty gritty of things. Always up to get down deep.
Teaching! I have always had a desire to share with people anything that I have come to understand (and love). I started skateboarding as a teen and I started teaching it early on. Skateboarding is difficult so there is an incredible feeling of accomplishment with even small successes. When I see the look on someone's face that just accomplished something they previously thought was impossible I'm as excited as they are.
Scrabble - I'm a total word nerd.
Being happily lost in a foreign country.
Knowing when convention and popular beliefs have become a bad fit for my pursuit of a life free of regret and unrealized potential.
The first things people usually notice about me
I can't say for certain, but I do have the good fortune of being noticed - I think because I really enjoy interactions, the initial noticing is usually followed by a smile, an introduction, yada yada yada . . . Breakfast. (Yes, a Seinfeld nod AND just a joke).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Most Tom Robbins, World War Z, David Sedaris, Memoirs of a Geisha, Into Thin Air, Chuck Palahniuk, some Chopra, Tove Jaannson,
Movies: Blade Runner, Eternal Sunshine, A Room With A View, The Adventures of Baron Von Munchausen (a film I live by), Kurosawa films, The Life Aquatic (most Wes Anderson), Sleeper, The Road Warrior, The Host, most any documentary - right now "The Other F Word" on Netflix.
TV: The Walking Dead, Six Feet Under, The Wire, The Office (English), Arrested Development. DEREK on Netflix - if you watch this short series without loving it (and crying a bit), we're different in at least one respect :)
Music: (most) Some that come to mind- Stevie Wonder, Jackson Brown, Neon Trees, Pinetop Perkins, Rolling Stones, Mason Jennings, Billie, Etta, (80s from Adam Ant to ZZ Top), Ween, Penguin Prison, Outkast, JTQ, Art of Noise, Wilco, Op Ivy, Queen, AC/DC, ELO, Herb Alpert and the Tijuana Brass, Nick Drake.
The six things I could never do without
A loving family
Good, quality food and drink (COFFEE)
The knowledge that there is ALWAYS possibility
I spend a lot of time thinking about
My daughter is always on my mind and I am visibly joyful because of it.
Often I am thinking about what ultimately should and should not matter to me in this (potentially) liberated existence.
My next experience or adventure because I believe that I am consciously manifesting them.
On a typical Friday night I am
Preparing for a full Saturday of instructing . . . And reminiscing about our Thursday night?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am looking for an amazing person for a relationship (from a more traditional romantic monogamous one - long or short, to a respectful racy fling). However, I am not looking for someone to start a family with as I already have a beautiful daughter with my partner (& best friend). Our relationship is platonic.
I realize there are labels out there for different lifestyles. I don't believe any labels cover our scenario, but I am happy to talk openly about it.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 25–48
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
If you understand that just because I'm in an unorthodox situation, it doesn't mean I'm a (everything you think it means).
If you want to go break bottles with rocks (I'll clean the shards up afterwards).