WHAT MOST OF MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY THINK OF ME
That I'm just a typical heterosexual male who's simply not as aggressive and masculine and male-oriented as most men, and who presents himself more as neutral than as overtly male.
WHAT ONLY A FEW CLOSE FRIENDS KNOW ABOUT ME
That I'm a (mostly closeted) crossdresser who occasionally goes out dressed up and who enjoys associating with dominant women that like to encourage men to express this side of themselves.
WHAT MOST OTHER CROSSDRESSERS THINK OF ME
That I'm merely a dabbler who should be doing this more often and more openly instead of only going out once every couple of months.
WHAT TRANSGENDER PEOPLE MUST THINK OF ME
That I'm merely a dilettante for whom crossdressing is an exciting fetish but not a manifestation of fundamental full-on gender dysphoria.
WHAT GAY MEN (PROBABLY) THINK OF ME
That, based on my exhibiting traits and behaviors associated with common stereotypes, I'm most likely one of them.
WHAT MOST WOMEN PROBABLY THINK OF ME
That the gay men are most likely right. (But also that I'm a nice guy… which as we all know…) That I'd be the perfect candidate to be their "gay friend", except that I'm not… quite…
WHAT I LIKE TO THINK I AM
1. A not-that-unusual guy who's smart, kind, and funny, who isn't in any way what all the boys in school growing up said he was, who has a feminine side that's kept under wraps and isn't noticed by anyone, or
2. A shamanic androgyne with a crossflow of masculine-feminine leftbrain-rightbrain yin-yang energies enabling great insight and creativity but whose workaday fashion choices show no indication of any of this, or
3. Just someone with both a feminine and masculine side who's come to realize that presenting himself as male is just as much an effort to "pass" as dressing up like a woman would be.
WHAT I REALLY AM
Maybe once we get to know each other, you can tell me…