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NotViola

37 / F / straight / Single

Philadelphia, Pennsylvania

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Ethnicity
White
Height
5' 5" (1.65m).
Body Type
Average
Looking For
New friends, Long-term dating
Smokes
No
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Never
Religion
Sign
Leo
Education
Graduated from high school
Job
Other
Income
Kids
Likes children
Pets
Likes dogs and Likes cats
Languages
English

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I am still happy, still an insomniac, and thinking poetically.

My Self-Summary

I'm looking for a serious relationship and I want to have children in the near future. I enjoy music, going to concerts or small places to see live bands. I love the beach, walking, bike riding, hiking, and camping. I like watching the sun set because I love the colors changing in the sky. I like doing almost anything outside, because I love nature.
I am not materialistic, and feel as though I don't really need more things or the next best designer anything. I'd rather be surrounded by loved ones, good company, good food and good music. I like to travel and experience life. My favorite time of year is probably early fall, when it is still warm during the day and cool at night; before it gets too cold. If I had to live somewhere hot or somewhere cold, I would pick hot! I have tattoos, some piercings, and really long hair. Plan on getting more tattoos! I'm a pretty normal girl though. A nice girl, a good girl by most standards. I don't drink, don't smoke, don't do drugs. This is a personal lifestyle choice and is not because of a past problem. I'm ok with someone who socially or occasionally drinks, as long as you don't care that I don't!
Oh, I also like to paint, draw, write and sew sometimes. Really just hobbies more than anything. I love taking pictures though! Photographing things (anything) is one of my favorite things to do. If I could sing, I would have probably been a singer in a heavy rock band! Which is probably an odd thing to admit, since I don't like to be the center of attention. I am sometimes a little bit of a goofball and can be very sarcastic at times. I am absolutely shy until I know you.
I know I will make a great mother one day, and hope I get the chance. I see myself with someone who wants to be in love, find a best friend and companion for life!

What I’m doing with my life

I have my own business which is internet based. I have my Real Estate Sales license, but that is not my concentration (just a part time, have it if I need it kind of a thing). Thinking about going back to school, but I haven't decided. Photography, maybe? So that's career wise, and I think other things are mentioned in other places here!

I’m really good at

Well, I am usually pretty positive. I have my down moments, but I am pretty good at getting myself out of a bad mood. Life is too short to be miserable all the time. I try to be grateful for what I have.
I am also good at talking, making my Mom laugh and a few other things!

The first things people usually notice about me

My hair. If someone asks my age, they are usually surprised when I tell them. I am often told I look much younger than I really am. Always wonder how long that will last?

My favorite books, movies, music, and food

Music: Deftones, Faith No More, Radiohead, Poison the Well, FFDP, DCFC, Band of Horses, Bright Eyes, Monsters of Folk, My Morning Jacket, Pearl Jam, Soundgarden, Chris Cornell, Mother Love Bone, Temple of the Dog, Sage Francis, Mark Lanegan, Danzig, The Misfits, SDRE, Tori Amos, Hatebreed, Otep, Killswitch Engage, All That Remains, Norma Jean, Chimaira, Fleet Foxes, David Bazan, Mazzy Star, Pantera, Peeping Tom, Lamb of God, Mr. Bungle, Protest the Hero, Violent Femmes, DEP....see where I am going with this??? I could go on, and on and on with the music!

Movies: Scary, funny, foreign, well written character driven stories mostly, but I'll watch anything! American History X is one of my all time favorite movies. Can't help it, but River's Edge still rates up there (that really shows my age). Shaun of the Dead (Simon Pegg is pretty funny). I usually like Seth Rogen and Guillermo del Toro movies, but I only even mention this because I assume most people know who they are. Amelie is a light hearted, feel good foreign movie I recently watched and enjoyed very much. Into the Wild, A Very Long Engagement, The Devil's Rejects; too many to list. I'm all over the place with movies too!!

Food: Sushi, Mexican, Thai...I love a good restaurant! I try to eat healthy. I am in to organic, soy, tofu and vegetarianfoods for the most part, but I do eat fish. I really, really like coffee.

Books: I like band or musician bios a lot, spiritually inspiring books (like Chopra), crime fiction, and anything that will teach me something or make me think about things! I love to read and frequently visit the book store.

As for TV (figured it fits here): Sometimes I don't watch much television at all. Sometimes I won't turn it on for weeks or a month or more, especially when the weather is nice. Sons of Anarchy and Big Bang Theory are my two favorites right now. I like LOST, Fringe, shows like Criminal Minds, Bones and CSI, and Mythbusters. A few bad reality shows (It is hard to admit that one, but I do like some of them. It may be a guilty pleasure). Ha...I'm adding Dexter, because I've been watching it, and I'm totally hooked!

The six things I could never do without

Music, my Mom, my sisters, my niece, a comfy bed and blankets, my computer (because I use it for work).

I spend a lot of time thinking about

My future and my family. Just about everything and anything when I can't sleep.

On a typical Friday night I am

Listening to music, watching a movie, hanging out with family. I am more likely to meet a friend for lunch or hang out with friends at a weekend bbq then to go out to the bar on a Friday night.
I really don't like the dance club scene. I like to dance, but I'm getting too old for the weird things that guys try to pull at the clubs, and I don't particularly like the smell of vomit either! If I am in a bar it is most likely for one of the following reasons: a good live band is playing, an obligatory engagement or get together, or as a designated driver/babysitter after some other obligatory engagement or get together!

The most private thing I’m willing to admit here

I have a fear of being suspended from things attached to cables (like ferris wheels, even really small ones). Last time I was on a ferris wheel, I nearly had a panic attack. It's not the height, it's the way of being suspended. I don't remember feeling like this until a few years ago. It's kind of weird!

You should message me if

You are looking for a serious relationship, want kids in the near future, are honest, loyal, know how to communicate and are not afraid of living life. Preferrably you don't smoke, don't drink like a fish everyday, don't do drugs please!!! Must love music! Please like some of what I like, or some of the kinds of music I like. I like to go to shows, and would love someone to go with me! I really want a nice guy, someone respectful, who knows how to treat a woman. Don't be judgemental and please have a kind heart and open mind. Please don't be too anti-social either! I don't really go out to nightclubs or bars just to be out, but I do enjoy family gatherings at the shore, dinners with friends or family, bbq's, concerts, traveling (sometimes with family), and so I want someone who will do these things with me! Appreciate the little things and don't take them for granted. Tattoos and piercings are ok with me! If you are musically or otherwise creative, that's a plus too. Friendship is fine, but I am not looking for any casual intimate encounters.