Disclaimer: Sarcasm ahead.
Me: Content, educated, able and willing to engage intellectually and emotionally, a good listener/communicator (I'll listen to the same story multiple times), gainfully employed (not in debt or living paycheck to paycheck), responsible (I live within my means), good physical shape (toned and successfully keeping the "Beer Belly Fairy" away), excellent credit score (higher than my SAT score (I'm not all that bright)), candid (not lying about my age, height and weight), owner of crow's feet (or laugh lines and seeking to add more), family oriented (our kids come first and I'm okay being a close second and not trailing behind your dog/cat in a relationship), expressive (you'll know what I'm thinking), affectionate (PDAs welcome and reciprocated), willing to put time and effort into a healthy relationship where we both grow towards and with each other. You are not here to complete me... that's my ongoing job....
You: past your last relationship(s) and not looking for a "starter romance" (I don't want to be a quick fix after your divorce), self-sufficient (I already have 2 dependents and can't afford another), somewhat local (not 2 states away or in a different time zone), educated (intelligence is hot!), articulate (you're communicative and open), emotionally available (see "past your last relationship"), wish to end online dating (and exit the candy store), humorous (you "get" this profile and don't need smileys), in good shape (believe that competitive eating should NOT be an Olympic event), preferred range between 5'4"-ish and 5'10" (I'm over 6' so would like a tall partner), not covered in tats (some small ones are attractive), have time to invest in a relationship (90 mins per week fit between other dates just doesn't work.. been there), affectionate (so I don't feel as if I have to "steal" a kiss (see "past your last relationship")), considerate (narcissism is unattractive), spiritual (not dogmatically religious), delightfully quirky (I know sometimes there's a fine line between quirky and psychotic), somewhat spontaneous (you have your OCD under control), enjoy learning (you realize that despite all your dating, not all men are the same), resilient (been through some challenges and are better for it), don't need me to "complete you" (that one is just funny/scary when I read it in a profile), can navigate successfully around "their/there/they're" and "then/than", the only team you're truly passionate about is us. Baggage is ok... we've all had a past at this age.
Please have multiple RECENT (within a year) clear photos that are representative and your actual age stated somewhere on your profile or introduction (no fun finding out when we meet that my prospective match looks like she put up pics of her daughter). I'm not looking for an early 40-something partner, but for someone closer in age and experience to create a lasting relationship. That being said, there's no reason why we can't act like we're in our 20s.
Bits and pieces: Shiraz over Beer, The Met over the Mets, Reading/Writing over Television, Smithsonian over Sports Illustrated.