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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 29-59
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 11:08am
Open relationship
Relationship Type
5' 8" (1.73m)
Body Type
A little extra
Agnosticism and it’s important
Has kid(s) and doesn’t want more
Has cats
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
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I'm whimsical, so I need a partner who respects and enjoys silliness. I also have a serious side, and that part of me appreciates tolerance, support, and kindness. Let's laugh when we can and comfort each other when we can't.

A little trivia: I grew up near Detroit, Michigan. I collect clocks. I love roller coasters but haven't been on one in a long time. I play several musical instruments (poorly). I love movies and music, and I wish I were a better actor or musician. I have studied language, linguistics, and typography extensively. I have the fearlessness and attention span of a Jack Russel terrier.

I’m married to Lilith_nine, who I met right here on OkCupid. Yay! We both have experience with open/poly relationships and want to meet like-minded folk for dating or friendship.

I am playful, talented, and kind.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Pursuing my dreams. I'm a professional photographer, a college student, a roller derby referee in training, a singer, and a gamer. I have a terrific grown-up daughter.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Spontaneity – I go with the flow.
Computers – Vital to my career and my hobbies.
Games – Especially Scrabble. I'm a good bowler too.
Art – I have a good eye for it.
Singing – Working on it!
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Physically: I have an easy smile and pretty blue eyes.
Personally: People find me easy to trust.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I love spicy food and loud music. I miss the kind of chili dogs you get in Detroit. I'm not a big fan of sweets, but I love pie. Especially pizza pie, ha!

I also love quirky stuff: music like Cake and Danielle Dax, movies like Grosse Pointe Blank and The Name of the Rose, shows like Fringe and Leverage.

Die Hard is the best action movie ever. Lawrence of Arabia is my favorite epic. Well, that and Ferris Bueller's Day Off.

Recently I've been listening to Silversun Pickups excessively. And the Les Miserables soundtrack. And the stuff they play at the roller rink.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
• beauty
• boxer shorts
• laptop with an Internet connection
• games
• iPhone & iPad
• music
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What I would do if I didn't need to worry about money anymore. Whether I should go to bed or play one more turn. How I'm going to hang the new cabinets in the dining room. Which new songs I want to try for karaoke. When I can make time to play my new game / movie / TV series.

This could be a long list. I keep a lot of irons in the fire, and I never stop thinking.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Singing. Playing video games or board games with my friends. Taking my daughter out to her favorite Italian restaurant. Skating. Going to the movies, or watching one at home. Chatting online.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I believe that Eeyore is secretly an optimist. He always soldiers on! He just has a bad habit of announcing all of his problems to the world. I'm that kind of optimist. It makes a lot of people think I'm negative, but really I'm just thinking out loud.
You should message me if
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You are:
• more whimsical than sarcastic
• more curious than certain
• more supportive than critical
• more adorable than elegant
• more optimistic than cynical
• more wicked than innocent
• more kind than cool

All the things on the right are good too: I like edgy humor, confidence, dressing sharp, and so on. I just don't want those things to overshadow what's really important to me, like generosity and tolerance and mirth.

You should message me or Lilith_nine if you agree that we are an adorable couple and would like to meet either or both of us for coffee or drinks!