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37 M San Francisco, CA

I’m looking for

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  • Ages 22–41
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 11:45pm
6′ 4″ (1.93m)
Body Type
Atheism, and very serious about it
Graduated from med school
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
"The Map is not the Territory"

I won't bore you with awkward delusions of how wonderful I am, I'm sure you've read this about two hundred times in all the other profiles. Ultimately actions speak louder than words, so why bother?

My life has become wonderfully full and happy over the last few years. I don't have the time or desire to date everyone under the sun anymore, and I have no problem meeting people. Plus I travel a lot, and it can make dating tough. I'm very selective, and am just fine if I don't meet anyone on here (the real world is generally a lot more rewarding than the digital). Courage, compassion, and integrity are the cornerstones of my life. Please don't write to me unless you feel the same way.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
A few years ago I made a series of extremely "outside the box" - type decisions that almost killed me on several occasions, but that have since borne some amazing fruit.
I feel like the luckiest guy in the world already - doing work that I find meaningful and endlessly fascinating, and unapologeticslly free to only do the things that really turn me on. I enjoy some wonderful and inspiring relationships, and professionally, I split my time between Stanford, Australia, and Iceland.
My greatest desire right now is to experience more moments of wonder and awe in my life. Ask me anything.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Laughing, relaxing and flowing when things are at their worst.
Creating order from complex, overwhelming, dangerous chaos.
2:00 in the morning.
Leading from the front and taking care of my teams.
Keeping promises.
Making a great omelette in the morning.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Big shoulders
Twinkle in my eye!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Yeah, yeah, yeah. Movies, movies, movies, bands, bands, bands :P

"The Universe says simply, but with every
possible complication, 'Existence' and it
neither pressures us nor draws us out, except
as we allow. It all boils down to nothing, and
where we have the means and will to fix our
reference within that flux, then there we are.

Let me be part of that outrageous chaos...
and I am."

Iain Banks

"We do not experience time flowing, or passing.
What we experience are differences between
our present perceptions and our present
memories of past perceptions. We interpret
those differences, correctly, as evidence that
the universe changes with time. We also
interpret them, incorrectly, as evidence that
our consciousness, or the present, or something
moves through time.

We exist in multiple versions, in universes
called 'moments'. It is tempting to suppose
that the moment of which we are aware
is the only real one, or is at least a little more
real than the others.
But that is just solipsism.
All moments are physically real.
The whole of the multiverse is physically real.
Nothing else is."

David Deutsch "The Fabric of Reality"
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Oceans and forests calm and entrance me.
Deserts and mountains uplift and challenge me.
Great cities are the heart of man.
Sex brings me delight.
The Work gives me meaning.
Love makes it all worthwhile.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Entropy and it's exceptions
Whether it's a good or a bad thing when random women read my profile and feel moved to write to tell me what an asshole I am?
How to put this nicely
The subtle perils of the digital world
Theories of consciousness / the "Binding Problem"
Is it ultimately *good* for us to be able to just gaze idly into our glowing screens, click on a few boxes, and order up a lover like ordering a pizza? Without trying to fight the future, how do we recover the ceremony of reverence?
Stopping major surgical bleeding
Sex again
What time zone am I in again?
Where do I get a good omelette in this town?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
There is no "Typical"
There is no "Friday"
There is no "Night"
This is a 24/7 operation here.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
1. I spent a few years studying animal behavior, and so if you ask me nicely I'll explain to you how men online are mostly like slightly mentally deficient Blue Footed Boobies.
Bonus: If you get me nicely drunk, I *might* even demonstrate to you the Blue Footed Booby's dance. It's a once in a lifetime experience let me tell you.
2. I used to be really embarrassed about how pale and redheaded and skinny I was. I'm over it now, but still, if I ever did have children, for their sake I'd hope my partner was, say, African or Indian.
3. I think that "Irony" has had a good, nay, a Great run (love y'all. hipsters!) but I truly do believe that the pendulum is now starting to swing back towards sincerity and the pursuit of mastery. It's about time!
4. I grew up on hippie communes in California and the Midwest and then later joined the Army and did multiple combat tours, despite passionately hating the wars and I still haven't quite figured out how that all makes sense...
5. When I was about seven, I was licking snow off our farm pump handle and I got my tongue frozen to it and stood out there in the snow for like an hour. I talked with a lisp for months after that.
6. I still sleep with stuffed animals: a Polar Bear, a Tortoise, and a Platypus.
7. I'm more than a little impressed with how sharp some of the women on this site are, and I regularly mine your profiles for music and literature recommendations.
8. I keep finding WHOLE NEW WAYS in which I am a nerd. Lately it's been having fun rewriting "Buddhist-lite" style self-help books from a materialist / constructivist / non-Dualist point of view. I have been able to interest absolutely no one in my endeavors thus far!
9. At Cornell I excelled at breeding moths! Like everything to do with sex, it turns out that there's a bit of a trick to it...

10. In the North of Wales there is a mountain called Cader Idris, or 'The Chair of Arthur'. An ancient Welsh myth holds that whoever sleeps on the peak of this mountain on the night of the winter solstice will assuredly awake in the morning either blind, or mad, or a poet.
As a child I was fascinated by this myth and found it very romantic and I resolved to give it a try. Finally, when I was seventeen, I had a chance to spend six months trekking in the UK and so I hitchhiked to the mountain, finally arriving on the day of the solstice (with great difficulty… a long tale in itself).
It was a hard climb and a bitter cold night. In retrospect I'm lucky to have survived. I was enthusiastic but terribly unprepared. I brought little food or water and had no proper field gear. On the peak there is an ancient stone hut, more than half ruined. In there I huddled between the wall and my pack with a small fire burning and wearing every bit of clothing I had. Finally, despite the cold and the hard stones, and hunger, and the pain, I dropped off to sleep from sheer exhaustion.
Just before dawn I awoke, terribly cold, stiff and sore and began the long hike back down, but you know what? Somehow I just felt that there was a change… something subtly different about me...
Well anyway, I'm NOT blind...

11. Might be a bit too intense for OKC. I'm all available at:
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Definitely DON'T message me If you voted for Romney or were "Undecided". Seriously, don't bother.

And if you are negative, fragile, narrow-minded, jealous, cruel, or mad, don't message me.

I am poly and GGG. If this sort of approach is threatening to you, save us both some annoyance and don't message me.

But DO message me if you are genuinely passionate about nature, humanity, science, or philosophy (preferably all four!).

And DO message me if you are physical, sturdy, or strong, if you are beautiful inside and out, and if you think you can actually keep up with me.

Perhaps you're unbelievably cool and creative, you get along well with my gay housemate, and you need a house on the beach in Australia to hang out at. (I really can't guarantee that I'll be there though).

Or maybe you'd like to come over, make a risotto with me, get silly drunk and watch Kung Fu Hustle.

Clearly DO message me if you are kinky, witty, or constructively nerdy (Yes Please!).
And if the phrase "Dom in the boardroom (classroom/clinic/lab?), and Sub in the bedroom (park/tent/art museum's janitor's closet?) excites some fantasies...

And ABSOLUTELY DO message me if you are one of the secret heroes of the world...