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40 M Oakland, CA

My Details

Last Online
Apr 15
6′ 3″ (1.91m)
Body Type
A little extra
Mostly vegan
Buddhism, but not too serious about it
Cancer, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
I'm a Software American working at a demanding job in the South Bay while living in Oakland. I spend most of my free time writing music, exercising (I like to run, although I'm super slow), cooking, and trying to balance out the entropy that everyday life entails. Originally from Sacramento, but have been in the Bay Area since going to college at Cal to study Cognitive Science and Music. Moved to Oakland when I got into the Composition program at Mills and have been here ever since.

My personality would probably be boiled down to an INXP; but, I haven't taken the Myers-Briggs since I was in high school and I think it's kind of like a psychological horoscope. I've lived long enough to know that there is a bunch of dumb shit in life that I just don't want to waste time with so I'm pretty direct.
I’m really good at
Cooking. Lately I've been on a real soup jag.

When you go vegan you really have no choice but to learn how to cook well otherwise you would starve. I did it for health reasons 20 years ago, so I don't care what other people eat and I do wear leather products and eat honey (which would get me permanently barred from the self-righteous vegans' club).
The first things people usually notice about me
My height or the unruly curly hair
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Murakami - Wind Up Bird Chronicles; Melville - Moby Dick; Elizabeth Bishop; Jorge Luis Borges; Orwell - Burmese Days, Down and Out in Paris and London, Keep the Aspidistra Flying; Shakespeare - Sonnets; Kafka - The Castle; Calvino; Nabakov - Invitation to a Beheading; Andre Breton - Manifestoes of Surrealism

Movies: Lawrence of Arabia; Young Frankenstein; The Empire Strikes Back; 2001: A Space Odyssey; Casa Blanca; Videodrome; Almodovar; Ran (Kurosawa); Melancholia; Seven Samurai; Barton Fink; Time Bandits; Pan's Labyrinth; Blade Runner; My Dinner With Andre; Fitzcarraldo, Raging Bull, STII:The Wrath of Khan, The White Ribbon

Shows: Louie; 30 Rock; The Thick of It; Breaking Bad; The Hour; Party Down; Downton Abbey; Sons of Anarchy (S1-2, 5); The Wire; Hatufim; Misfits (S1-3); Top Chef (S2-7); Community; John Oliver's New York Stand-Up Show; Firefly; Wilfred; Deadwood; Luther

Music: Alban Berg, David Bowie, Charles Mingus, Eric Dolphy, Brian Eno, Iannis Xenakis, King Crimson, Miles Davis, PJ Harvey, Grace Jones, Anthony Braxton, Duke Ellington, Beethoven, Varese, Eric Satie, Gilberto Gil, Gyuto Chant, Flamenco, Zikr, Anton Webern, Art Tatum, AvaLuna, Radiohead, Milton Nascimento, Tom Ze, Missy Elliot, Manu Chao, Deerhoof, Throwing Muses, Bartok, Caetano Veloso, Old Genesis (with Peter Gabriel), Jimi Hendrix, Los Lobos, The Knife

Food: Anything tasty & vegan
On a typical Friday night I am
Decompressing from a long week at work.
Getting a run in if there's still daylight when I get home.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I don't always change the station when Steve Miller songs come on the radio
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 21–29
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You're beautiful, strong, smart, self possessed, goal directed, and fun. You consider yourself an extrovert who likes introverts.
You feel Lauren Bacall is your spirit guide or you are a Unicorn.