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31 Chicago, IL Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 24–36
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Today – 8:02pm
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Art / Music / Writing
Open relationship
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
English, Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I'm a playwright, actor, designer, and semi-professional gadabout who hates wearing shoes but loves wearing ties.

You'll never hear me say no to a good cocktail or a good concert.

Food trucks for life.

I could totally write you a theme song, like right now.

Life is about having adventures, howling at the moon, and making things better than they were before you got there.

I wrote a Spanish-language version of Where The Wild Things Are (somewhat illegally) to be performed by high schoolers in Nicaragua, because when I was a kid, live theatre was the thing that made my heart beat—and it still does.

I love a handmade gimlet almost as much as I love a full moon over Lake Michigan. Let's enjoy both at the same time.

I'm a sex-positive, GGG person in a long-distance open relationship, and I hope that's something that you're excited to talk about. Previously, I was a full-on serial monogamist. If you've gained perspective from trying different relationship models, I would like to buy you a drink and hear your story.
What I’m doing with my life
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Running a Chicago playwright collective and organizing dance parties in pubs. I write, act, direct, produce, and market for our events and I love it more than anything.

I have an ongoing day job in the Loop where I design stuff and work with digital photography, and spend a fair amount of time staring out the window imagining where I could be biking instead.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
making cocktails, and also funny faces.

taking candid photographs when you don't expect it.

finding the perfect place for dinner.

drinking killer espresso.

growing a beard when needed.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
The ominous underscoring.

I've been told I'm a snappy dresser, and I'm usually pretty good at soliciting giggles.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Caryl Churchill is my hero.

Children of Men — one of the finest adaptations I've ever seen, and the best extended-single-shot-during-war-in-pursuit-of-an-infant perhaps of all time. Also: stoner Michael Kane.

I don't own a TV, so I'll be watching the final episodes of Mad Men at Blue Line.

A good taquería is both my kryptonite and my holy water. Bring on the Al Pastor.

This year I've been crazy for Generationals and St Vincent, but The Mountain Goats continue to rule my heart.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Gin — the most delicious form of courage
Notebook — digital or paper, as long as I can scribble
Guitar — so I can make up songs about you
Bicycle — for absconding
Rainstorms — for getting stranded in the best ways
Long Sunday Mornings — BRUNCH
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The people, both real and fictional, I'm currently writing about.

But also, oddly enough, productivity apps.

PS: burritos.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Putting up a play in a furniture store.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'd totally bang Meryl Streep if she asked me.
You should message me if
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you stare at the sky sometimes.

brunch makes you swoon.

you know your whiskey.

you want to know more about the month-long holiday I created that revolves around brunch and hibernation.

you'd be down for some songwriting and jamming out. Especially if you play the ukulele or the cello. I mean, come on.

you like the idea of dressing up, going to a cocktail bar, and then spouting off absurd, nonsensical descriptions of how our drinks taste.