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My self-summary
Well, what can I tell you?

I am very smiley (mostly to mask nerves in social situations with new people), fairly stupid, and overly polite, sometimes to the point of formality. Polite and quiet seem to come off as snobbish, but I'm really just trying not to say something dumb.

If we click, you see a whole 'nother Jared. Less smiling, but more wise-cracking and snark, some ten-point vocab words, a lot of randomness. It will probably come up that I'm FTM (trans), that I call myself a writer, that I have no idea what I'm doing. I'll have a few good stories that might surprise you. And I might start singing a musical number. Just a heads-up.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a barista and an English major, saving money to hike the Appalachian Trail. I'm trying very hard to write a book.
I’m really good at
Drawing. Writing. Getting lost and un-lost. Cooking mac and cheese. Listening, understanding, keeping secrets. Procrastinating.
The first things people usually notice about me
I just asked a friend, who says she first noticed my smile. Apparently I smile with my whole face, and do a "twinkly Irish eyes" type thing. I find this embarrassing, but she insists it's adorable.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I'm restraining myself from filling your screen with a list of sixty-eight favorites. Books are one of my addictions. I like sci-fi, classics, ancient obscure volumes no one's checked out of the library since 1962. Even reference; I have four thesauri. Seriously.

Movies and television I'm picky about. There's a fine line between comedy and pointless stupidity, between action/adventure and just blowing everything up, between drama or romance and soaps. I follow two whole shows: Doctor Who and (I'm a little ashamed) Teen Wolf. I wish I liked sitcoms but don't really. But I have discovered an odd fondness of sixties shows like Bewitched, I Dream of Jeannie, the Addams Family, and Star Trek, which I can binge for hours.

My iPod on shuffle: 1. Bastille, 2. Bobbie Gentry, 3. Once Upon a December in Russian, 4. Scorpions, 5. Aloe Blacc, 6. Three Days Grace, 7. Steam Powered Giraffe. I don't know what to tell you.
The six things I could never do without
1. A pen
2. Spontaneous little adventures
3. Music
4. Questions
5. Humor and sarcasm
6. Sex (to be frank)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
"Am I being awkward?"
"I should be writing."
"Work in an hour..."
"What if Main Character was, like, a soldier in a massive secret space army about to invade some tiny planet beyond the Ghost Nebula and met Love Interest, only she's an enemy soldier and also asexual?"
"I'm broke."
On a typical Friday night I am
Most Fridays I work. But barring that, I like going out. Movies, cafes, pubs sometimes. I love little adventures: accidentally walking in on after-hours dress rehearsals at the Eastman Theater, finding bubble tea in a little sketchy looking Chinese dive, re-discovering the planetarium, camping, road trips to nowhere in particular. Weekends are how I remind myself I'm young, the world is huge, and people can be awesome.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'll probably never get bottom surgery.
You should message me if
We can have a long conversation about something interesting.