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42 M Portland, OR

My Details

Last Online
Today – 12:32am
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Mostly other
Buddhism, but not too serious about it
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Has a kid, and might want more
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
So is it like "OKCupid" as in So-So, Decent Cupid, or is it like tapping your foot impatiently like "Ok, Cupid, I'm _ready_!"

I think I put myself in the second category, although I have to say that I fall in love pretty easily. I've had several long-term relationships and look back on all of them fondly.

I'm a filmmaker and photographer by trade and that has involved a lot of travel in the last few years - now I'm looking for someone to come home to!

I have a lot of love to give and in the past I've been too often involved in relationships where I was the "helper" or putting more than 50% of the energy into the relationship. I've been growing a lot over the last few years and now know what I'm looking for - someone who is as full of life and adventure as I am and who spends a good portion of their energy trying to make the world a better place.

Especially in the last few years, I've been fortunate to meet a lot of those people, around the world and here in Portland - at the Village Building Convergence, on WWOOF farms in Portugal, on urban farms abroad and in my neighborhood, at Occupy meetings where people find time in their busy lives to fight the good fight.

I have a 9-year-old son with my ex girlfriend. I'm not sure if I want more or not...
What I’m doing with my life
After more than a decade as a starving artist, I'm finally making a living (knock on wood) doing what I love - film and video making and photography.
I’m really good at
Balancing work and play
Leading adventures
The first things people usually notice about me
Hard to say...I'm short so some people might notice that first...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Recently posted this on my FB page, books that changed my world, and at what age I read them (*** means they REALLY rocked my world):

Tropic of Cancer*** by Henry Miller at 16 or 17 Probably the #1 most influential book in terms of my choice to live an unusual life

Portrait of the Artist as a Young Man at 17 in AP English (thanks to Mr. Caudron)

Red Storm Rising at 18 - read in a day and a half

A Brief History of Time at 18

To the Lighthouse at 19

Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas*** at 19

& The Rest of Hunter S. Thompson’s work over the next few years

Crime and Punishment and the Brothers Karamazov*** at 20, 21

Howl*** at 21

The Idiot by Winkler at 22

Et Tu, Babe at 21, and I've read everything by Leyner. Insanely good. Or, insane and good.

Everything by Vonnegut
No, really: every single book I ever read by Vonnegut touched me pretty deeply, either emotionally or intellectually

The Razor’s Edge at 19 or 20

Girl with Curious Hair*** at 21

The Saga of Pleistocene Exile*** by Julian May, early 20s. May writes literature-quality characters in mind-blowing scifi universes.

Infinite Jest at 24

White Noise*** at 24

Great Jones Street at 25 I've read most of the rest of DeLillo, too, but these two are my faves.

Eon and Eternity*** by Greg Bear, mid-20s. Even if you don't like sci-fi, I think most people would love these.

Siddhartha*** by Hesse at about 18 and then, years later:

Steppenwolf and Narcissus and Goldmund*** by Hesse. Not many people talk about N & G, but wow - really really good. Siddhartha is almost an also-ran by comparison, IMO.

Portnoy’s Complaint at about 34

Ulysses in my late 20s - my favorite book that I still haven’t finished

Of Human Bondage at about 33

Blood Music*** by Greg Bear, mid-30s
absolutely terrifying, all the more because it's vaguely plausible

Laughable Loves and Unbearable Lightness of Being by Kundera in my late 20s

Frisk*** by Dennis Cooper, then everything else by him. Amazing. So lucky to have met him. No book has ever punched me in the gut as hard as Frisk.

Many poems by Charles Bukowski, then Hollywood and Post Office and Ham on Rye and Notes of A Dirty Old Man

William S. Burroughs - the letters between him and Ginsburg and others are my favorites, but his famous books are good of course

Story of the Eye by Georges Batailles, early 20s

Invisible Cities by Calvino, early 20s
The six things I could never do without
Physical affection
Something to write with
Chutney - hey, can't stay serious the whole way
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How we can build sustainable institutions to take the place of the mainstream institutions that are rapidly proving themselves to be unsustainable.
On a typical Friday night I am
At a movie, out with friends, dancing, shooting a show.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I think spicy food and oral sex are proof that we're pretty smart monkeys.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 27–39
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You're happy with your life and you're looking for someone to share it with; that's where I'm at.

Or if you want to play tennis or Scrabble or go for a hike or a road trip...