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30 London, UK Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 18–34
  • Near me
  • For new friends, casual sex

My details

Last online
Apr 25
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body type
Not at all
Graduated from masters program
Open relationship
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm a PhD student at UCL studying Crime Science. Hoping to save the world without the need from a latex Supersuit.
I love tea and snuggles (though not together; that would be a mess) and the company of close friends who you can have an interesting and thought-provoking conversation with. Trying to get a bit more exercise but BedGravity gets the better of me most mornings.

I'm also honest. I'm looking for interesting people to make friends with and attractive people to have sex with; a real bonus if someone can be both - I'd rather that than one-off hook-ups, though I'm not opposed to them.

Having read a few other profiles I realised I left out something that's a pretty massive part of my time - board games! I have far too many, but just can't seem to stop buying them. Anyone up for helping me play more is more than welcome to message me.

Also, I really hate having my photo taken, so a picture of me out somewhere is rare as I avoid cameras like vampires avoid sunlight, so apologies in advance for the terrible selfies.
What I’m doing with my life
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Studying at UCL by day. Snuggling up watching a film or the X Files in the evenings.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Baking when I should be studying. Saying something I think is totally normal and then discovering it was totally inappropriate. I even got a "Totes Inappropes" award at work last year. It was a statue of a meerkat with the most ridiculous nipples.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My face. Because, you know, that's how they recognise me when they see me so I guess they notice that first.

I'm also told my pictures don't really show what I really look like (thankfully I'm told this is, "But in a good way") and that I look completely different when I'm wearing contact lenses or glasses. I could totally be Superman, right?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Anything by Philip K Dick, Tolkien, Pullman, Gladwell. To be honest most of these sorts of books are on hold as I trawl through academic papers for uni.

Movies: Anything by Chris Nolan (such a fanboy of his now). I prefer Sci-Fi and films that have something to say that makes you actually think about something in a new way. Horror and RomComs don't interest me in the slightest.

TV: X Files - season 6 and counting. Currently waiting for the new Game of Thrones season to start. Loving The Blacklist - James Spader became one of my favourite actors when I blitzed through Boston Legal. House of Cards is a show I can watch again and again so if you haven't seen it and want to let's do it!

Music: I'm mostly into classical music and instrumental soundtracks - Einaudi, Giacchino, Zimmer, Rachmaninoff, Saint-Saens, Gershwin, etc.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Tea (I drink it almost non-stop!)
Snuggles (The non-tea-drinking time. Good during films.)
Board games. Sad as it may sound I've really got into these in the last couple of years. I don't mean Monopoly or Scrabble but if you know Puerto Rico, Galaxy Trucker, Love Letter, Coup, Smallworld... well we will get on.
A challenge - preferably a mental one; I'm not proficient at scaling physical mountains.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What am I doing? Is it worthwhile? How can I make the world a better place? No, seriously, I could be doing more right? There's nothing worse than coming out of a Batman film and thinking, "Why aren't I helping people more?"
A lot of random crap like that goes through my head. It's not all that serious though. Sometimes it's just, "Should I make a lemon and white chocolate cheesecake on Sunday or Tuesday? Who will be in the office Monday/Wedneday?"
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
At home watching a film snuggled up with the boyfriend or on my own. I'm quite comfortable being by myself and certainly prefer the company of a few good friends than a plethora of drunk nutters. Quality over quantity.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm pretty open about everything so there's not much to put here, so I'll go with things other people might not be so keen to divulge:
1. I have HIV. (My partner does not.) This really isn't an issue; we're not living in the 80s and it causes me no problems at all. Hayfever is worse.
2. I have one rather large piercing. You won't see it in the publicly available pictures on here.
3. I'm interested in people across the gender spectrum. I really can't comprehend why this is seen as taboo by so many people. Society is weird.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You're interested in meeting up. If you're miles and miles away or just want to chat online, then I wouldn't waste our time. There are loads of places to chat; this site is for meeting people.