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My self-summary
I'm a PhD student at UCL studying Crime Science. Hoping to save the world without the need from a latex Supersuit.
I love tea and snuggles (though not together; that would be a mess) and the company of close friends who you can have an interesting and thought-provoking conversation with. Trying to get a bit more exercise but BedGravity gets the better of me most mornings. I do try to cycle into uni now and then though.

Having read a few other profiles I realised I left out something that's a pretty massive part of my time - board games! I have far too many, but just can't seem to stop buying them. Anyone up for helping me play more is more than welcome to message me. As OKC doesn't like me putting up a picture of my collection just ask if you're interested - I'm not talking about Scrabble or Monopoly though.

Also, I really hate having my photo taken, so a picture of me out somewhere is rare as I avoid cameras like vampires avoid sunlight, so apologies in advance for the terrible selfies.

I've got a boyfriend, we have a very open relationship, and I'm up for making friends with or without benefits. We're not as yet looking to turn it into a serious relationship of more than two people though; to be honest it hasn't ever come up, but I'm always up for meeting interesting people and you never know what the future holds.
What I’m doing with my life
Studying at UCL by day. Studying at home by night (or playing computer games. Mainly this to be honest.)
I’m really good at
Spending the time to read someone's profile before I message them but never even getting a "no thanks" in return. I really do wonder why I bother coming on here at all sometimes, but I suppose I have met a couple of nice people on here. There must be more, right?
The first things people usually notice about me
My face. Because, you know, that's how they recognise me when they see me so I guess they notice that first.

I'm also told my pictures don't really show what I really look like (thankfully I'm told this is, "But in a good way") and that I look completely different when I'm wearing contact lenses or glasses. I could totally be Superman, right?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Anything by Philip K Dick, Tolkien, Pullman, Gladwell. To be honest most of these sorts of books are on hold as I trawl through academic papers for uni.

Movies: Cloud Atlas brings me close to tears every time I watch it but I haven't opened the floodgates just yet. Anything by Chris Nolan (such a fanboy of his now). I prefer Sci-Fi and films that have something to say that makes you actually think about something in a new way. Horror and RomComs don't interest me in the slightest.

TV: X Files - up to season 7 and counting. Game of Thrones, The Blacklist - James Spader became one of my favourite actors when I blitzed through Boston Legal. House of Cards is a show I can watch again and again (until season 3. What the hell happened?!) so if you haven't seen it and want to let's do it! I'm also about half way through The West Wing; my boyfriend hadn't seen it before so he's being well educated.

Music: I'm mostly into classical music and instrumental soundtracks - Einaudi, Giacchino, Zimmer, Rachmaninoff, Saint-Saens, Gershwin, etc.
The six things I could never do without
Tea (I drink it almost non-stop!)
Snuggles (The non-tea-drinking time. Good during films.)
Board games. Sad as it may sound to some I've really got into these in the last couple of years. I don't mean Monopoly or Scrabble but if you know TRAINS!, Puerto Rico, Galaxy Trucker, Love Letter, Coup, Smallworld, PowerGrid, Village, Through the Ages, Last Will, Clash of Cultures, Archipelago... well we will get on. I've been to Essen Spiel the last two years and spent far too much money. Is there a rehab for board game addicts?
A challenge - preferably a mental one; I'm not proficient at scaling physical mountains.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What am I doing? Is it worthwhile? How can I make the world a better place? No, seriously, I could be doing more right? There's nothing worse than coming out of a Batman film and thinking, "Why aren't I helping people more?" but then I remember that I am trying to do good and although it might not be much I'm constantly reminded of this scene from Cloud Atlas:

Haskell Moore: No matter what you do it will never amount to anything more than a single drop in a limitless ocean.
Adam Ewing: What is an ocean but a multitude of drops?

A lot of random crap like that goes through my head. It's not all that serious though. Sometimes it's just, "Do I want Jaffa Cakes or Custard Creams?"
On a typical Friday night I am
At home watching a film. I prefer the company of a few good friends over a nice meal than a plethora of drunk nutters. I've got nothing against people who want to go out and drink a couple of nights a week, but it's just not for me. To each their own; it would be a boring world if we were all the same.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm pretty open about everything so there's not much to put here, so I'll go with things other people might not be so keen to divulge:
1. I have HIV (my partner does not) and I'm on meds and have an undetectable viral load. For those that don't know what that means (and I've no reason to expect you do unless you're a gay guy) it basically means I can't pass it on. This really isn't an issue; we're not living in the 80s and it causes me no problems at all. Hayfever is worse.
2. I have one rather large piercing. You won't see it in the publicly available pictures on here.
3. I'm interested in and attracted to people across the gender spectrum. I really can't comprehend why this is seen as taboo by so many people. Society is weird.
You should message me if
You're interested in chatting, meeting up for a drink (of tea), and maybe more. If you're miles and miles away or just want to chat online, then I wouldn't waste our time. There are loads of places to chat; this site is for meeting people.