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OnceTooMuch

30 M Madison, WI

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 23–33
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Sep 15
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 3″ (1.91m)
Body Type
Skinny
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Drugs
Never
Religion
Sign
Capricorn, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Offspring
Pets
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
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I moved to Madison about 2 years ago from the suburban DC area in an attempt to restart things. I needed a place more centered on people and community.
Truly, one of my favorite things about the city is that I can look out my window and people are out doing things, running, biking, gardening. Signs of actual life. I love it.

I'm intelligent, articulate, and I love discussing ideas. I'm looking for someone in this same general area.
I think self-improvement is extremely worthwhile and I value people who can point out my blind spots or offer advice. I have positive associations with the idea of changing myself.

I am an organizer for a weekly rationality meetup. A lot of the folks who attend this also come to board game nights can strategize the hell out of a game of Dominion.

I'm employed as a Game Designer (with now one commercially released title as writer/designer), and beyond that I have a filmmaking degree, have spent the past 12 years doing various sorts of writing, and play/write musical instruments (but not especially gifted at music. *In Charlton Heston voice* Damn you, marginal aptitude!)
I have kind of a two pronged approach I suppose; I need expressive, imaginative, creative work in my life, but I find it valuable to have rationality skills alongside those to make sure the subjective, personal elements are there with good reason.

I really like talking. I like talking to learn things and teach things. To hear what's going on inside of other people's heads. The kinds of conversations where it's 3 in the morning but there's *still more to say*.

Honesty, vulnerability, and candor are important to me. I want to know what what is going on inside people, beneath all the daily considerations and distractions. I want to know the real, raw stuff that people don't always talk about. I'm excellent at drawing this out if people let me. It makes the world sparkle.

I've met some people here who have been in solid, healthy polyamorous relationships, and this gave me the courage and conviction to try it out myself. So I'm trying it out.

I love dancing, making delicious food (I make some great black bean burgers), camping/backpacking, I just started playing in a MUFA league this summer, and it's become seriously addictive.
What I’m doing with my life
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Enjoying it. Immediately post graduation, this was surprisingly difficult to do. Madison has much more community to it. I've spent much of my life on the east coast, where for me it was pretty arid, socially.

I have a full time game design job designing adventure games. Story games with puzzles (Monkey Island, Kings Quest, or The Longest Journey are examples) I have to point this out because adventure games don't really exist popularly anymore.
If you've seen the TV show The Wire, Adventure Games are to Standard Blockbuster Video Games what The Wire is to Miami Vice; either boring or extremely satisfying depending on your patience level.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Writing.
Improperly watering the plants I'm trying to keep alive.
Learning.
Forgetting.
Singin' songs while holding a guitar
The first things people usually notice about me
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I am tall. I am thin. I am sometimes holding brightly colored geometric shapes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Love weird progressive science fiction/fantasy (not so much the classic 40's and 50's stuff, but the later mind-bending stuff), so Philip K. Dick, Samuel Delany, JG Ballard, William Gibson, all the 80's cyberpunk, even the bad stuff, China Mieville, George RR Martin, Gene Wolfe.

Literary fiction, I'm very picky and a lot of it doesn't interest me, but I love and consume David Foster Wallace, Samuel Beckett, Douglas Coupland, JD Salinger, Albert Camus, Jeanette Winterson, Don Dellilo. Anyone who succcessfully manages to make my heart stop briefly.

Rumi!

And insightful non-fiction: Thinking Fast and Slow, Steps to an Ecology of Mind, and Douglas Hofstadter books.

Comics: Chris Ware and Alan Moore. If one of them is part of it, I'm in. I've read Sandman, it was great. I love old newspaper comics: Peanuts, Gasoline Alley, Krazy Kat, Terry and the Pirates. The indie comics scene is awash in great stuff these days.

I don't watch many movies these days, but I still love 40's films, especially film noir. Anything with Robert Mitchum, Humphrey Bogart, Barbara Stanwyck will sell me straight away. Orson Welles is a favorite. I've liked American Beauty, Fight Club, Amelie, Adaptation, High Fidelity, Mulholland Dr.
Before Sunrise!

Though I don't really watch it these days, TV is where it's at. Movies just aren't long enough, they feel like more like short stories, and I want novels. Buffy, Angel, and The Wire are the top 3 contenders there
One day I'll get to Breaking Bad.
Aside from that, Six Feet Under, Twin Peaks, Arrested Development, Futurama.

Music: The Mountain Goats a lot lately. MeWithoutYou, Neutral Milk Hotel, Against Me!, Cloud Cult makes my fingertips buzz, Buddy Holly, The Clash, Joanna Newsom, Jawbreaker, Bomb the Music Industry!, Third Eye Blind, Bruce Springsteen.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Whether I should be more serious or more playful. And whether they are necessarily even opposed.
You should message me if
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You're interested in talking or meeting up.