I have a strong interest in music (would love to learn to compose!), and how art connects with the soul and community. I like 80s music (DM, Cure, New Order) and jazz, but my taste is quite broad.
I see lots of profiles with men that travel extensively and are totally spontaneous. While I appreciate how important travel and culture are, I'm also interested in someone who understands that parents have to plan and can appreciate different cultures and learning about and experiencing them in a variety of ways. If you have kids and understand single parenthood, or if you are open and thoughtful and "get it," that's great. I appreciate a man who has manners, lets the lady walk in front, holds doors open, and is otherwise polite. A little intention and charm says something about your care and who you are.
I'm looking for an intelligent, kind, sensuous, athletic (fit and in shape), independent, and socially conscious man with integrity... someone who can look forward and isn't held back. I think I fit best with people who are open, self-aware, liberal, and are good communicators, and maybe less with people who are reserved, introverted, or judgmental. I think it's important to find a partner that lives similarly - so if you are inactive, don't take care of your body, or lack energy, we probably won't be a fit. If you've traveled, are open-minded, and are easy to laughter, those are all good things.
I prefer taking time to get to know the people I bring into my life.
Some of my pet-peeves with online dating... "serial daters" (guys who want the thrill of meeting "the next" and don't really want a relationship - of course it takes time to get to know someone, but if you aren't in it to find a real connection, best to look elsewhere), angry or uptight people, pigs (just emailing and IMing a few people has given me a sense of how many there are in the DC area), photos that are outdated or misrepresent what you really look like now, selfies taken in a mirror (so little effort to make a good first impression?!), and spelling mistakes in a profile. I'm not interested in men that aren't honest about who they are, their relationships (if still married, separated, or dating), where they live, or what they want. I'll be honest with you, but I expect the same.
If you care about others and making this world a better place, then I definitely want to hear more about your interests.
If you live in the Bethesda/Potomac/Rockville/Kensington area, that's a plus... easier to find time together. :)