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47 Toronto, Ontario, CA Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 35–57
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Dec 30, 2014
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Pisces, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Has a kid
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Croatian (Okay)

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My self-summary
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Me? I enjoy believing them when my friends describe me as kind, articulate, enthusiastic, principled, smart, intense, loyal--and despite this earnest opening, pretty funny. They say other less flattering things, too, but I do my best to be out of the room when that happens. I *really* like to laugh, and talk, and consider a deeply engaging conversation about nearly any topic a thing of great beauty. I'm a good listener and a good talker.

Language can be gorgeous, and I adore the poetic, but words have their place. I like it best when words are hardly necessary.

More and more I appreciate music (my tastes aren't very sophisticated but they are eclectic) and being outdoors. And since it's just so damn good for you, I'm also learning to meditate and to practice mindfulness.

As heady as I tend to be, I'm smart enough to know that wisdom and joy live in the whole body. This year I've decided I want to learn how to play ice hockey, and so far have improved enough to go from barely skating backwards to playing a full on game of shinny with women at Dufferin Grove Park.

I like ideas (a lot) and action (almost as much). I'm passionate and sensual. When I love people, I do so wholeheartedly.

I adore my ten year old son (who lives with me half the time). He keeps reminding me how to play in sillier ways. Parenting him is a joy and a big part of my life.

My politics are important to me; they're decidedly leftist, and I orient my (academic and other) work life toward social and environmental justice.

I'd make a more than credible boy scout because I believe in treating people and places in such a way that they should never be worse off than when I found them.
What I’m doing with my life
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Hard to say. Neither of the following quite captures it, but together they sorta describe it.

The political/philosophical answer: Hopefully for reasons you understand, I'm trying to figure out my part in halting climate change and social injustices more broadly. So-- I'm trying to light candles instead of cursing the darkness. But I'm also trying to spend as much time savouring the world as I do trying to save it.

The practical answer: Day to day, I teach beginning and working teachers how to teach, parent a big little kid half the time, maintain friendships with wonderful people, and in my spare time I read, write, bike, garden, work out, and play.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Keeping a hula hoop going; choosing meaningless examples to obscure my self-consciousness.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have a sparkle in my eyes and a big head of hair.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Some authors: Mike Davis, Rumi, bell hooks, Margaret Atwood, Jonathon Franzen, Dionne Brand, Leonard Cohen, Lois McMaster Bujold, Jon Kabat-Zinn, Tara Brach, Slavoj Zizek, John Muth, Jean Anyon.

T.V.: The Wire. (deserves its own paragraph)

House of Cards, Orange is the New Black, Dr. Who, 30 Rock, The Daily Show, Luther, Mad Men, Six Feet Under, Buffy, Friday Night Lights, The Good Wife, The Colbert Report. But also occasionally terrible reality crap if I'm in the right mood: e.g., America's Next Top Model. Almost all of this I watch on my laptop--don't have cable on the TV.

Music (in somewhat random order, and I know it skews toward the old, but not on purpose): Neil Young, Bruce Springsteen, Motown, Sarah Harmer, Patsy Cline, Figgy Duff, Shawn Colvin, Damien Rice, Bruce Cockburn, Steve Earle/Townes Van Zant, Midnight Oil, Counting Crows, Emmylou Harris, Feist, Van Morrison, Bob Dylan, CCR, Billy Bragg, U2, Michelle Shocked.

Food: I have a hearty appetite, so it's hard to go wrong. I LOVE attentively prepared vegan and vegetarian food, but I do eat organic red meat, chicken, and fish (and truthfully, non-organic if that's what makes sense in the moment).

Thai and Japanese food are especially lovely lately.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Not necessarily in this order.

1. Excellent friendships.
2. Sexual chemistry.
3. A sense of curiosity and purpose--even if it's just to learn to stop 'doing' so much and just *be* more.
4. My city and the tools I use to navigate it: my bike, the ttc, parks, libraries/bookstores....
5. Art and beauty.
6. Reason for hope and optimism.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Politics, education, political education.
Emotions and parenting.
How to make sure thinking doesn't dominate my life.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Half the time I'm with my son on a kids' play date; the other half I might be with friends, on a date or working out, or doing anything I do on any other evening since my work/life doesn't revolve around M-F, 9-5.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I was so much older then, I'm younger than that now.
You should message me if
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What I've written resonates and you want to make a connection.