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36 Seattle, WA Cis Man

Cis Man

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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 22-40
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Online now!
Queer, Bisexual
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
6' 0" (1.83m)
Body Type
A little extra
Agnosticism and it’s important
Working on Post grad
Has kid(s) and wants more
English (Fluently), French (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
First and foremost I am attracted to integrity, ingenuity, and impishness. Socially I tend to trek with artists, hippies, goths, punks, and geeks; there's a soft spot in my heart for anyone who is passionate enough about some part of life to wander completely off the beaten path.

I believe the best lives are those richest in experiences, to that end I try to do everything under the sun at least once. This philosophy has led to moments banal, surreal, disgusting, delicious, humbling, and sublime; even the most miserable of them I would never willingly forget.

When I'm not telling tall tales, I love to play games that take thought, make delicious meals with close friends, create art of all kinds, talk about matters both weighty and frivolous, go on adventures, and consume all the films and books.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Studying to be a mad scientist. Er, genomicist.
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Nurturing my son.
Writing when the spirit moves me.
Working at making music with the piano and my voice.
Impromptu dance parties in the living room.
Forming an intentional community.
Non-hierarchical polyamory. (NSPP!)
Loving my friends to death. (Disposing of the bodies is kind of a hassle...)
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My laugh, probably from several seats away. It is legend amongst my circle of friends, and has earned me many a free theater ticket.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books - Stranger in a Strange Land by Robert A. Heinlein; Brave New World by Aldous Huxley; Days of War, Nights of Love: Crimethink for Beginners; assorted short stories by Philip K. Dick; The Myth of Sisyphus by Albert Camus; The Unbearable Lightness of Being by Milan Kundera; Brief Interviews with Hideous Men by David Foster Wallace; The World and Other Places by Jeanette Winterson; the Song of Ice and Fire series by George R.R. Martin.

Movies - The Seven Samurai; American Beauty; Fight Club; Amelie; Delicatessan (particularly for the rhythm scene in the middle of the movie); Waking Life; Secretary; Monty Python and the Holy Grail; The Big Lebowski; pretty much anything with a light saber or sword.

Television - The Wire; Mad Men; The West Wing; Deadwood; Twin Peaks; Star Trek: The Next Generation; Battlestar Galactica; Babylon 5; Firefly; Avatar: the Last Airbender; Ghost in the Shell; Cowboy Bebop; Queer Eye for the Straight Guy (I love watching self-improvement programs, it somehow provides hope for anyone who aspires to transcend themselves).

Music - Biber (Heinrich not Justin); Beethoven; The Dave Brubeck Quartet; Nina Simone; Bob Dylan; The Magnetic Fields; Phantogram; Modest Mouse; Stars; The Arcade Fire; Radiohead; Talking Heads; The Smashing Pumpkins; Weezer; Amanda Palmer; Lupe Fiasco; Kid Cudi; MGMT.

Food - CHOCOLATE; sushi; Indian; Thai; Chipotle (addicted); fresh fruits and vegetables, especially blueberries, cantaloupes, nectarines, mangoes, cucumbers, carrots, and snap peas; cheese fondue; dessert wines.

Games - Agricola; Twilight Struggle; Innovation; Magic: The Gathering; Netrunner; Mage Wars; Dungeons & Dragons; Shadowrun; Earthdawn; Over the Edge; Civilization IV; Fallout 2; and Planescape: Torment (probably the best writing in a cRPG of all time).
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
#6: My cars and trucks down comforter.
#5: Chocolate cows, which produce delicious chocolate milk.
#4: Netflix, which keeps me company on lonely nights.
#3: My clawfoot bathtub. I swear the claws are ornamental.
#2: My man-eating leopard. I swear the claws are ornamental.

And the number one thing I could never do without?

#1: David Letterman Top 10 lists.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Intentional community, organic food, transhumanism, board games, pranks, politics, feminism, racism, pedagogy, technology, Magic decks, Burning Man, BDSM, polyamory, storytelling, dreaming, music, regenerative medicine, science fiction, stained glass window design, the future, love, humor, people, and the heat death of the universe; all in no particular order.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Eating an early dinner with my wife and baby. Putting our son to bed at 6 PM, and then playing board games or watching Netflix together until the very, very, very late hour of 9 PM. Brushing, flossing, and going to bed early in order to get up at the very, very, very reasonable hour of 6 AM with our child on Saturday.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I don't actually like David Letterman Top 10 lists.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You can make me laugh. (Tickling is a hack, but I approve.)
You are looking for a lasting and meaningful connection.
You love games.
You are excited by power exchange.
You want to teach me something you love.
You have a magical corner of the universe to show me.