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40 / F / Straight / Available

Wichita, Kansas

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Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 2″ (1.57m).
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism and laughing about it
Sign
Education
Graduated from college/university
Job
Income
Rather not say
Offspring
Has kids
Pets
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
Some disclaimers first. My availability is REALLY limited as is my time. I'm only interested in people who can meet and are close by. And available. I'm also picky. Not being snobbish, just don't want to waste your time.

There is more to me than meets the eye. My husband and I have a long-standing secure marriage but we are also experimental and polyamourous. We live rural but travel widely. We lead creative lives in the sense that we more often make things we need than most average people. I am not religious but I do guard my inner peace and try to maintain balance.

My life is very full and I have many obligations. Yet one of the most rewarding things is making new connections with people, sharing their interests and exchanging ideas, energy and passions. I'm not looking for a casual hookup, although I've tried that in the past. It is far more rewarding to cultivate good friendships that have a possibility of including physical intimacy.
What I’m doing with my life
I am enjoying my life! What else? At this point a good part of it is bound with welcome obligations. It's a woman's life! I am a bit of a hedonist but it's not about instant gratification all the time.
I’m really good at
Kissing! And conversation.
Definately not tech savvy! Although I appreciate it in others.
Cooking and other creative processes.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm short. And kinda quiet so I can be easy to miss.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books; Tao Te Ching, Arthur C. Clarke, authors like Jane Urquhart, Fay Weldon (older stuff) Margaret Atwood, Malcolm Gladwell. I love books either fiction or factual that present lots of new ideas. I do like poetry but to me that is more like music. Edna St. Vincent Milay, Adrienne Rich, Leonard Cohen.

Music; a selection of what's in my car, The Tragically Hip, Red Hot Chili Peppers, Tom Cochrane, The Cult, Big Sugar, Wide Mouth Mason, Bach's Goldburg Variations, Mozart's Requiem, Vivaldi's Four Seasons (yes, it's overplayed), Leonard Cohen, The Stones. Barenaked Ladies, Crash Test Dummies. I guess I'm out of date. There is so much more I like. The Beatles, Ozzy, AC/DC, Bon Jovi, Sheryl Crow, Matchbox 20, Finger 11, Cake. And much more I'll happily listen to or can't remember now.

Food; Most anything well-prepared. I appreciate good ethnic food, Thai, Indian, Morrocan, Italian, Meditterranian. I love spicy food. A really good steak, pizza, just about every veggie out there. Don't actually care much for seafood but I do cook it sometimes. I try to stay organic, non-GM, minimally processed, free range etc. Sometimes we produce our own food or I buy it from someone I know
The six things I could never do without
My family!
Visiting still pristine wild areas
sex
driving my car, preferably with music playing
my horses
quiet time
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Redefining what is important in life, ways in which the larger culture dictates and constrains our lives.

How to maintain the most valuable remnants of passing traditions.

The best way to prepare children for an ever changing world that offers much excitement and distraction but increasingly less deep connection.

How to balance erotic passion with responsibility and compassion in life.
On a typical Friday night I am
Probably spending time with my family but also possibly going for a ride with a horse and a dog, training, having a drink with someone new or maybe even something entirely different!
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 20–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, activity partners, casual sex
You should message me if
You are interested in the "poly" lifestyle, if you are interested in making new connections, challenge old ideas, have open discussion. If you are honest, generous in spirit and treat everyone in your life with respect and consideration.