I find it difficult to describe myself in only a few words, so this might end up being more like a book than a profile! I'm not big on labels – I think they tend to pigeon-hole people and often seem more limiting than they are descriptive – and I have many interests that take more than a few words to adequately describe. But, to help you decide whether the rest of this is worth reading, perhaps something along the lines of "Intelligent-Fun-Professional-Closet Artist-Computer Geek-Right Brain-Left Brain-New Ag(ing)-Spiritual Hippie" comes somewhat close. Or, if you're familiar with the Myers-Briggs Personality Type Indicator, I'm an INFP which is a more scientific (and shorter!) "label." I think it’s interesting how some of the labels OKCupid attaches to our profiles don’t always agree with what the profiles say. I know there are a couple of mine that I don’t particularly agree with!
I strive to maintain balance in most things: work/play, seriousness/fun, activity/contemplation, knowledge/experience, left brain/right brain, masculine/feminine, yin/yang, Pepsi/Coke, etc. I'm not very political at all, but my ideals and values are clearly more on the liberal side and I do get involved with social causes that I resonate with from time to time. I really like to travel and have been to England and Bermuda, as well as 47 states. Humor is a must! I especially enjoy word play and double entendres. Sarcasm is not my strong suit, though, and I’m not typically fond of it in others.
I greatly enjoy learning new things, often simply for the sake of learning. I like taking classes, attending a meetup, or reading about new areas of interest. I enjoy many artistic and creative endeavors: Sculpture, Figure Drawing, making candles, going to the theatre or theater, symphonies, concerts and live music of any kind, art museums and art shows, and lots of other stuff that helps keep Austin weird. I like card games, board games and bedroom games, but not head games. I'm a big music fan, especially the Beatles, and I enjoy collecting their records and memorabilia. I'm also somewhat of a 60's throwback in my approach to life and value set. Something along the lines of "peace, love and understanding," but I only do two of the "sex, drugs and rock-n-roll" bit. I don't live in the past, nor in the future. Instead I try very hard to remain as much in the moment as possible. "The Power of Now" has been a big inspiration in that regard.
Sex is very important to me, but I'm not looking for one night stands. Rather, I'm more interested in deep, passionate, connected intimacy that I believe stems from being genuine and real with each other. It's a connection that can develop over time or be there from the start. It's not just sexual chemistry, though that's an important part, it's the whole connection: physical, mental, spiritual, and emotional. Charles and Caroline Muir label it "conscious loving" in their book "Tantra, the Art of Conscious Loving." I'm generally a gentle and passionate lover and prefer long love making sessions that combine passion, play, humor, excitement, adventure, nurturing and intimacy. I am attracted to women who are in touch with their Goddess nature, confidently, passionately and actively participating in love making, and do not see sex as a "duty" or a tool for getting what they want.
There are a lot of things that I haven't done in a long time, or at all, that I would like to do. Such as white water rafting, skiing (both kinds), renaissance faires, a bed and breakfast tour, tai-chi, Qi-Gong, re-learning to dance (an on-going process!), gardening, landscaping, and probably whatever you're interested in that I haven't done.
I have a 17 year old son who lives in Houston, but I do get to see him fairly often. He’s a senior this year and we are quite involved with searching for colleges. Family activities with him are very important to me. I’m fine if you have older kids (or none), but I’m not looking to raise any more.
Given all of that, and I'm sure I've missed some things, I consider myself somewhat of a renaissance man or jack of many trades, master of none.
I am loving, inquisitive, and intelligent