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6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Buddhism, but not too serious about it
Pisces, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Has cats
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
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A stranger in a strange land. The perspective I have on the human game is very different from that of people who get how to play it.
What I’m doing with my life
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Mostly, brooding over existential quandaries. The are very philosophically and psychologically untidy, and people who think otherwise tend to annoy the hell out of me.
I’m really good at
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Photography. I'm not sure where the boundary lies, between good photographers and half-assed photographers who shoot a lot of images and occasionally get a good image or two.

I'd like to claim to be a good lover, but so would everyone else, which makes such a claim unmakeable, if one evaluates such a claim in terms of its effectiveness.

I can bake a pie from scratch.

I have been known to be a difficult opponent at Scrabble.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Ones written by JK Rowling, James Herriot, JRR Tolkien, Ann Rice, and CJ Cherryh. When I was younger I read CS Lewis, LLoyd Alexander, and Carlos Castaneda. I haven't read any thing by Ayn Rand, but so many people on here seem to view her as the devil, that I think that if I were to have a daughter, I would name her Ayn, just to piss off my leftward friends.

Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon; Forrest Gump, Ed Wood, Big Fish.
Many flicks by Pedro Almodovar, Juzo Itami, and Woody Allen. Also Finding Nemo and The Incredibles.

Farscape, Star Trek, The Muppet show.

The Beatles, Dan Bern, Jack White, Buckethead, The Cure, Depeche Mode, Various Seattle bands, and a lot of other stuff.

About all that I don't like is the hot sort of spicy.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Digital imaging technology
Some other things
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
It has at times been a joke among people who know me that I've had a tendency to initiate statements with "I was thinkin' about. . . "

What the Hell is Going On?

I have a theory of human motivation which I believe exists nowhere else besides within my largish noggin. It is kind of irrelevant to have a theory of human motivation, because motivation is something that by nature operates independently of any theories that may be formulated in order to describe it. It is actually quite lonely and frustrating to see through human psychology in way that no one else does.

Back in the Nineties I was working at a college bookstore, and the college had a summer social work graduate program that featured a lot of guest speakers, and I would bring books authored by the speakers, and sell a few. One of the speakers gave a lecture about the association between life stressors and IQ. Or rather he touched on that; I'm relating this from memory after about 20 years or so, but the general gist of the lecture was that it contended that stressors wrecked peoples' minds. Stressors would be things like teen pregnancies or major illnesses or divorces, bankruptcies, all kinds of unpleasant stressful stuff like that. He cited some study found that people who had one major stressor had an average IQ of 119, those who had two, an average of about 117, and those with three major stressors, were 87 or thereabouts. When he gave that last figure, there was an audible wave of shocked aghastness that came from the audience. It was about like watching a symphony conductor conducting his orchestra. He went on to make his point by stating the people might be able to juggle one ball or two, but not three or four, and that when they had too many balls to juggle, they wouldn't just drop one, they would drop all of them.

You could probably write a number of doctoral dissertations about the human psychology you could observe transpiring between the speaker and his audience, and the ideological constructs that were being built as the new religion of social justice wrote itself.

No one in the audience spoke up and said: "Excuse me, but is it not distinctly possible that this analogy is, in a word, spurious? Could it not be that rather than life stressors being causative of low IQ, it may in fact be the other way around, in that people who have low IQ's tend to have poor decision making abilities, and thereby land themselves in assorted predicaments that brighter persons more successfully avoid?" Clearly everyone in the audience understood that this would have been an improper question to direct to the speaker.

Being taught to think and being taught what to think are direct polar opposites. Being social animals who cement their places in the world by building elaborate networks of exchanged statements with others, humans generally prefer knowing what to think to thinking.

There is no intelligence at all in the new religion of social justice. But if you were to analyze its underlying tenets, or work out what they would have to be, one of the most basic ones is that the traits of sentient beings are viewed as deriving entirely from external forces that have acted upon them. It holds that there is no essential material reality within, that individuals are not profoundly shaped by their genes, and that consequently all of the material reality that their ancestors lived through for thousands of generations never had any selective impact on historical populations who passed their genes, and the traits those genes impart, on to the people of today.

This paves the way for the creation of an entire moral and ethical system in which all sins and virtues are conceived of in the form of an endless litany of -isms (racism, sexism, ageism, albeism, etc), privileges, disenfranchisements, discriminations, offensivenesses, and so on.

Robin Williams once observed that this country was started by people who were so uptight that the British said Get the Fuck Out. I think that this underlying psychology has survived and today it is thriving as much or more than it ever has, it has merely developed a new vocabulary with which to articulate itself. And I totally despise it.

I am absolutely not a righty, as much as I am absolutely not a lefty. But here in the Northeastern USA the lefties are more prevalent and conspicuously annoying.

I also think about food and sex, and what might be the next guitar I get.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
In a low energy state.
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My favorite line spoken in the tv series Firefly goes: "I've been waiting for you to kiss me ever since I showed you my guns." I think I'm basically living in the wrong time and place to ever hear a woman say anything like that to me, but if you think I'm wrong, and that you're the reason I'm wrong, I'd like to hear from you.