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OpenHeartofLove

35 M Philadelphia, PA

My Details

Last Online
Apr 13
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other, and laughing about it
Sign
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Working on university
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
Intro:
I am a very creative & unique guy. I am genuine & natural in how I approach things. I am open minded, outgoing, enjoy nature, traveling & so much more. I am easy to get along with & fun to be around.

Main:
I am looking for amazing connections. I am all about meeting in person. The way I usually approach this site is I do chat first & within a month or two I meet you in person. I also do Skype if your open to it after we had several chats. Skype or no Skype (either way is fine with me) the rule of us meeting in person still applies. There is no pressure, no drama, no judgements, but I do have priorities. Meeting & creating a realistic relationship with you is one my first priorities with online dating. If you are not willing to meet within 2-3 months then I do not feel you are being sincere in your search here for new friends, dating, boyfriend, etc. Chat is ok, but let's keep our relationship real shall we?

My next priority is for you to have the courage to be honest with yourself, then convey that honesty to me. I am not here to play games, to tease, to stalk, to scam, or any other non-sense. You are either here to create new connections / new relationships or you are not. I deserve to have real connections, to meet you in person. That's what dating is, last I checked. I am honest & respectful towards myself & others, thus I ask the same from you. I am open to meeting new friends, fellow artists, creative minds or those who are just simply awesome to be around. Looking for a women to feel relaxed with & have fun with. I can do casual, intellectual, or spiritual conversation. I am equally good at listening & actually hearing what you say or how you feel. Overall I am fairly well balanced in character & personality.

For members who live over seas I am open to Skype with you be it either chat/video/call. I am looking for over seas friends, so when I do travel I will know at least a few people. Over all I focused on having a real connection with someone reasonably local. I am here to meet people be it on this dating site or otherwise.

All in all I am really approaching this whole site differently than most. That may surprise you, that may intimate you, or give you a refresher (ah moment). Just as a suggestion.. Go for a moment, in stillness.. beyond these words & boxes & let your heart do the talking & then take action in what it tells you. Don't let your mind chatter get in the way. The mind has tendencies to create reasons, excuses, problems, judgement, compare, bla bla bla. Your heart knows what is best. It's that inner voice & intuition. If you listen to that you will be guided in right direction. I appeal to your heart. Have the courage to connect & message me. Have the courage to step away from your computer or phone & meet with me. I can be a great friend. What to know more? Just ask.

I do my best to look beyond pictures & words to truly connect with who you are. So if I contacted you, I am clearly sincere in my affections & intentions. A simple "no thank you" would be sufficient enough in telling me your not interested. If you are then I am sure you will have a lot more to say in response to my message.

Topic Section:

Why the Cropped Photo?
For those of you wondering.. I cropped my photo for a reason, no it's not because I am trying to hide something. It's because I want you to see me & see my eyes for the first time in person. The saying that eyes are the window to the soul is true. When I meet in person that's when I connect the strongest. That is my intention for the crop. My hair is curly ash blonde. My eyes are considered blue but in truth change colors. They sometimes lean towards blue green & sometimes in moments can even have splashes of hazel in them. My eyes actually change color depending on my energy or day. One photo is not going to properly express what my eyes have to say in this very moment. That is why you have to see them in person. Besides having the photo cropped adds a bit of mystery. Hopefully another reason to want to know more.
- Another unfortunate reason is because there is the possibility that a scammer takes your photos without your permission & uses it. Not paranoid about it, but being realistic that I have seen it happen to someone I know. Cropping the photo keeps them at bay since a cropped photo like this is not really worth it. Lucky enough okcupid is very good about getting rid of scammers here, but they do pop in now & then, never for long though.

About Casual Sex:
Some may frown upon the idea but I am open to casual sex. I am not here just for sex, but I am open to it. I usually like to establish a friendship first, hang out & have fun before jumping in bed with someone. So simply to say I am open to casual sex doesn't mean I am a whore, or sleep with lots of women, or incapable of being committed to one women. Many have this idea about what casual sex means & I don't fall into the stereo type. I am just a regular average lovable guy who enjoys living life to the fullest. I don't see being open to casual sex as bad or wrong. If you are looking for more than a 'hook up'... I do respect that. I allow my connections to happen naturally, so if our relationship develops slower that's ok. If you are waiting for marriage before sex, then perhaps we are not meant for each other. I feel being intimate with my partner is an extension of my feelings. I am & can be a patient guy, but feel waiting until marriage is just a bit unrealistic. At the same time I am interested in more than just sex. So with all that said just because I am open to it.. don't write me off so quickly. Last I check we all do it, unless your a virgin or very strict in your faith. If I meet the right woman committing to one woman (or two women if she's bi) is something I have done before & have no issues with. I do have more depth & respect than that. So please stop judging, actually get to know me first. Give it a chance. Besides sex is a natural expression of connecting & of love. I am comfortable with my sex life, or at times lack of it (without partner). Are you?

If there is any other questions, or topic you like to discuss I am open to it. The above topics relate to the most frequent stuff that past members have asked me or seemed concerned about, so that is why I tackle them here. Just so you can know me a little better.
Please keep in mind to be respectful & use proper grammar when messaging me. Please do not text talk beyond using LOL. Thanks.
What I’m doing with my life
The simple fact I am alive is great significance. I am being present here & now. In addition I enjoy any endeavor that is creative.
I’m really good at
Seeing the good in people & looking to their strengths.
Loving & accepting you, no matter what.
Unconditional Love for who you Truly are & for your Heart.
Remembering the Truth.
Simply being & accepting what is now.
Loving anything that comes up in my Life.
The first things people usually notice about me
Most people I meet their first impression is I am happy. Must be the smile. :) You will also notice my energy when I walk in a room, or pass you by as I am simply sharing the love. Aside from this being a natural genuine guy.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I have read so many great books, seen so many awesome movies, there are a few tv shows that I like, but I am not big on watching tv. I enjoy almost every type of music, mainly I like the positive stuff no matter what genre it is. I just not like heavy metal or gangster rap. I do not like any music with negative emotions or energy, or are egotistic. I am pretty open minded when it comes to food & wine.

Rather than tell you a long list of everything I enjoy I'm just going to tell you what I have been doing recently...
Recently been listening to:
Nahko & Medicine for the People, My Morning Jacket, Bon Iver, Iron & Wine, The Beatles, Dave Matthews, The Killers, Manu Chao, etc.
Recently been watching:
Game of Thrones, Sherlock, Suits, White Collar, Arrow, Grimm, WWE,
Recently been reading:
Song of Fire & Ice series, Eastern Body, Western Mind, Vessel,
Recent movies watched & enjoyed:
Gravity, Captain Phillips, Man of Steel, Monsters University, Bless Me, Ultima,

This section will be updated once a month or every other month.
The six things I could never do without
There are the basics like Life itself, water, food, air, etc.
And basics like Love, Laughter, Truth, God, Faith, Peace, Harmony, etc. I mean what else is there? The earth, all of God's creations & all the universe... ok and I'll add sex.
Besides that it's all material stuff I suppose like having a computer or an iPad, but that's all temporary. Having the tools to do artwork I would say is something I can't do without.
All in all I rather focus on the eternal stuff, things I know that will always be there. That is what I truly can not do without.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to be more Loving. The moment I think I figured it out, I am wrong. Love is so much more than what we believe or the limitations we hold to it. We often think too little of ourselves, when Love is so much more. It's Everything & to experience that.. that is what I want to experience everyday. Not so much 'think' about it, but to 'be it'.
On a typical Friday night I am
Everyday is unique. The word typical sounds so routine.
I do everything I can to be great-ful & enjoy the moment that I am in & given. Even if everything around me is falling apart & I am experiencing a devastation I am great-ful. Actually that is the most important time to be great-ful, is when all this shit comes up. Be great-ful because it's coming up so that you have the chance/ opportunity to let it go, to transform it, to bring it to the light.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Have to give you a few reasons to want to know more.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 21–38
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
You agree with at least one of the following:

You Love yourself & Love others equally.
You are truly Happy.
You Love your Life as it is in very very moment. Now.
You feel my good energy & want to share your energy with me.
You want to chat, talk & share your experiences & who you are.
You want to or are willing to actually meet in person.
You like to share some moments together.
You like to hang out & have fun with me.
You are a beautiful spirit, with a beautiful heart, a wonderful person who enjoys sharing themselves.
You want to make a real connection.
You want to Skype with me.
You want us to be friends first & go from there.
You want us to be activity partners & go on adventures.
You like to go out & date me.
You are a fellow artist or are creative.
You are spiritual or do some form of energy work.
You feel "there's a chance".