Ok this needed a re-working and more information.

I'm a family man with a difficult marriage. I don't want to give it up, mainly for the kids. She's told me to go get "it" elsewhere, but I don't want to, and yet, the main thing that's missing is not so much good sex per se but someone who smiles at me, encourages me and is empathetic. Also someone who will receive the same from me.

I'm a professional in my work life, responsible, safe, sane - just a bit lonely

I am ardent, empathetic, and sane

Working, raising a family, keeping a marriage together. I'm not looking for someone to cry to, just someone to befriend and have fun with (not necessarily sexual) online or otherwise.

Understanding, Communicating. Being a friend. Analysing ideas. Understanding and predicting politics. Making people feel loved. Inadvertently pissing people off. (Had to keep this honest.) And, I've been told, all the right bedroom things.

Handsome face, engaging brown eyes and, if you're lucky, a beautiful smile.

Books: Non-Fiction mostly

Movies: I don't see too many these days that aren't rated G. I liked Ratatouille (the movie.) I loved Secretary. High Fidelity. But I'm a Cheerleader. Sabrina. The Notebook. (Yeah I like some chick flicks what about it!) The new Casino Royale. Bound. These are just random off the top of my head.

Music: Could go on forever, start with the Beatles, go to Gwenn Stefani, Narry Nilsson, Stevie Wonder, David Bowie, Cream, The Who, The KInks (yes, I'm in my 40's; maybe you can introduce me to more newer music.) Also classical and jazz. I'll go for almost anything as long as it's good at what it is.

Food: Not too picky. The company's more important.

Honesty Passion Hope Laughter Music Creative, mutually fulfilling sex

How to make my world and THE world better

... and ummm... kinky sex. Ok cupid., I said it ... including BDSM; I'm a switch. I've been told I'm a good partner.

Wondering what we could do together

Well - I've pretty much laid it out. I'm married, kinky, lonely. (That's not the issue though - she can be too.) Looking for friendship and someone to talk with including about sex though probably not do sex.

You want to make my life better and want me to make yours better