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Optimistress

41 F Washington, DC

I’m looking for

  • All who like bi women
  • Ages 30–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Oct 15
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 2″ (1.57m)
Body Type
Curvy
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Often
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Sagittarius, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Entertainment / Media
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t want kids
Pets
Likes dogs and dislikes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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A simple girl from the Midwest, I find this whole online world of connection curious, compelling and off-putting in equal parts. I avoid bullshit and superficial, cynical people.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm a media maker who believes media can be a lot better. I do what I can to shape honest, apolitical, provocative content that makes people stop, think and hopefully change. For the better.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Connecting dots, and people, and thinking about tomorrow living today.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
An earnestness and positivity that appear entirely wholesome, and don't. Someone who knew me very well after a very short time offered the reflection that it seemed "nothing -- and everything -- could happen on your watch." Which is about right.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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First, a confession: I hate reductive, boring questions like this, although I recognize their utility. So...

Books: Plenty; some of the pivotal and revisited: Rilke (Letters to a Young Poet), Rumi (anything), Jung's Red Book (crazy cool), Machiavelli (don't judge; or, do) with a smattering of Richard Ford, MFK Fisher, Flannery O'Connor.

Movies: way too many but Godfathers I and II, Annie Hall, Network, A Serious Man, Rushmore. I should note, I hated Forrest Gump.

Music: anything that's great quality. Playlists are generally produced between seasons, often include spoken word, and difficult to pigeonhole. I like it that way.

Shows: yes. I should see more than I do.

Food: a passion. Vegan and vegetarian at turns, in the past, I can't deny loving great meat so I don't. Proteins with a happy story always preferred and acquired. Otherwise I'm game to try almost anything, no matter how unfamiliar or textured or scented.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Time to relax - I never have enough and need all I can get.

Good company - I love meeting new people, of all sorts. On the whole I believe people are good and share common, common sense interests. Something to learn from nearly everyone; and the ones who keep teaching, intriguing and delighting are consistently in my orbit.

Travel - and the chance to challenge and remap my perspective through environmental/cultural inspiration, whether NYC, Vegas, a national park, anywhere along that majestic alive Pacific, or requiring a passport.

Cowboy boots - as a general rule I have 3 prs on hand. (But more heels.)

Fine spirits - Love a well-timed drink. From the 12-ingredient alchemistry involving droppers, frothers and a hex; to bubbles (always on hand); to whiskey from a flask; to a refreshing, reliable gin and tonic. All good.

Good food - I love to cook it, eat it and seek it out.

When I get all of these wrapped up in one magical span of time, I generally try to extend and deepen that in whatever ways can be dreamt up.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How fucked up the world is; the many opportunities available to change that reality; how other people constantly surprise me in awesome, positive and often sexy ways; how much fun it is to have fun; and the presence required to enjoy life fully.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
doing just what I want.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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... may disappoint, or not.
You should message me if
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You're smart, funny and fundamentally positive.