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31 Tempe, AZ Man


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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 20-40
  • Near me
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My details

Last online
Today – 8:54am
Hispanic / Latin, White
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
5' 8" (1.73m)
Body Type
Used up
Atheism but it’s not important
Doesn’t have kids and doesn’t want them
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
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Hi. I'm Ben.

Don't message me; I'm a hydra. I ate the horned beefman and co-opted his labyrinth. I have no ill-intent; I just like to be left alone and I'm not a good friend unless you stay away from the heads I don't control.

It's possible my mythological creature metaphors are very tedious.

My internal world(s) are infinitely more important than the outside world(s) and subsequently, I don't like hiking or bars. Blech.

On the plus side, I spend most of my time making those worlds a reality for others, and this brings me profound fulfillment.

Tags: INTJ, Type 7 Wing 6, Pragma, Agon/Paida
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm an artist and designer at my own two-man game development company. I'm also a design consultant, which means big ridiculous companies sometimes fly me to their exhausting cities so I can fix their games.

Everyday I get to build strange creatures, exotic gardens, and special effects you can feel in the marrow of your face bones. I am a farmer of joy; an endorphin specialist.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Barriers. No one makes them faster and stronger than me.

I'm very good at momentary euphoria. Maybe I'll learn to stretch those moments out a bit before I succumb to old age schizophrenia and drive a car (that I think is a plane) off a cliff in 20-30 years.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
That I'm dressed in all black, and probably critizicing someone for not living up to their potential as human gods.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: 20,000 Leagues Under The Sea, Oryx & Crake, House Of Leaves, and contrived game rule books.

Music: Tool, Air, Brother Ali, The Heavy, Black Moth Super Rainbow, JJ Grey & Mofro, Black Rebel Motorcycle Club, etc

Food: Big fat sandwiches and breakfast burritos.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Cigars
2. Bourbon
3. Breakfast
4. Coffee
5. Work
6. Complex problems that trick me into thinking for one fucking second that I'm not bored as shit with the tedious human consciousness routines.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I get paid a lot of money to think about A. Why pushing this button doesn't look and feel good and B. How to fix it.

What is the next most appropriate vector of expression? I can't help it; I have thick, black, inky, art-blood.

What to do about the nightmares. Don't worry, they're not violent or gory. Just horrifying.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Playing games with a few people. Sometimes in net space, sometimes in meat space.

I'm a sucker for games that are so god damn complicated and nuanced that I get to briefly not think about work when I'm playing them.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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1. I am emotionally unavailable. Not because of circumstance, but because of circuitry.
2. I am the epitome of Jung's introvert. I have these shitty little social batteries from the 1960's space race era and subsequently, I spend very little time hanging out with other humans.
3. I don't do exclusivity. It's just not in my software.

Everything is on my terms and I find it completely understandable if you don't like me because of it. But! Stay behind the yellow line and we'll probably be friends forever.
You should message me if
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I don't think you should.

If you're a brilliant, hot, warriorbitch of a woman who wants an intellectual and emotional opponent, you're gonna not care and message me anyway, and that's cool. I really like your kind! But it most likely won't change anything.

I wish desperately to be understood.