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29 Grand Rapids, MI Woman


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  • Ages 21–33
  • Near me
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My details

Last online
Yesterday – 4:22am
Straight, Questioning, Bisexual
5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body Type
Mostly other
Christianity, and somewhat serious about it
Scorpio, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Entertainment / Media
Rather not say
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Hi! I love pondering why things and people are the way they are. Characters in books/TV shows/movies are great fun to pick apart, as everyone can have the same knowledge about them. Come ponder with me. =)

I love the thrill of the hunt as much as I love the rewards of it. I'm... maybe just a touch competitive. =P Especially when it comes to battles of wit.

My TL;DR is: unusual Christian, competitive gamer, nerd, puzzle solver, techie (AKA self-proclaimed technomancer), movie-lover. I am passionate, tanky, obsessive, forgetful, introverted but very social, and bull-headed. I am loud, goofy, snuggly, and just intelligent enough to be dangerous.

I have an amazing husband ( BKam144 ). (We are married now, he just never updates his profile. =P ) We have been exploring the idea of a triad for over a year now. We are looking for one hell of a woman whom we could both get along with, care about, and be committed to. We would take this nice and slow. If you learn things that you aren't interested in, we part ways/just end up being friends.

My faith is very important to me and my husband (yep, non-monogamous AND Christian). We think deeply about it together, ask hard questions, and are comfortable with not knowing the answers. We feel like both sides often forget the important parts of what Jesus said and end up fighting where we should be being gracious. I am not a "good christian girl"--I am an everyday fuck-up who tries my best (which is super shitty, btw) and appreciates the grace of God.

I'm a gamer. I play a lot of videogames, but I get bored talking about what games I've played. Talk to me about some deep, thought-provoking aspect of a game, and we've got a topic I can talk about for a while.

I am a geek and a nerd. (See my favorite movies and shows.) I'm also a general internet/techie addict. I know more about how to use and fix a computer/phone/etc than a lot of people. (Including my husband.)

I'm passionate, stubborn, and holy shit forgetful. I don't know how I survived before my phone with its calendar and reminders. I'm a smidge OCD, obsessive in bursts, love coming up with grand ideas and struggle with the follow-through.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I have a great job as a receptionist and graphic designer. I am very lucky I work for a great employee-owned company, so we employees get treated really well. I like my coworkers and I really enjoy what I do there.

In my free time, I play videogames and watch a lot of shows and movies. I spend time with friends and my husband. In general I like to think that I challenge myself to be a better person. (And fail a lot, but hey, I try.)
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Visual logic. Puzzles, games like Portal and Zelda. I'm great at organizing (but not at keeping things clean). Great at coming up with creative ideas (but not so good at the follow through). I'm good at understanding strategy (but not good at coming up with or deploying it), and I have 2 superpowers--finding parking spots close to where I want to be, and quickly earning the trust of people I just met.

Analyzing movies and shows. Ask me about Angel vs Spike, or Mad Max or the Daredevil series and we can pick it apart layer by delicious layer. =D

Also, communicating. Well, it's kind of a good at it and also horrid at it, kind of thing. I am good at recognizing when communication needs to happen and initiating it. I'm not necessarily great at actually communicating smoothly the first time around, but if you can bear with me, I would rather figure things out than let them fester.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I think most people notice the boobs. I mean, come on, let's be honest here. They're kinda hard to hide. =P

I'm opinionated, and I speak loudly. Like, people tell me to use my inside voice, loud. I also have an ill-maintained filter between what goes through my head and what comes out of my mouth. I can be very crude, but it's funny I promise!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
As a general rule of thumb, these change on a regular basis. I dislike having lists because I have to prune them so often.

Books: Not gonna lie, I don’t read as much lately. I love books with fluid descriptions, epic quests, real and quirky characters, deeply evolving friendships and relationships, and politics.
Most recently read through all of the Song of Ice and Fire books, the Hunger Games books, and Ender's Game. Big fan of Sherlock Holmes, and many books written by David Eddings and Tamora Pierce.

Movies & Televsion: Challenge me. Make my eyes go wide at what just happened, make me think long and hard about the morality of what's going on. Give me solid character development, and drop me into an rich, preexisting world rather than creating it as we go along. I love thought/emotion provoking stuff that asks hard questions and doesn't give nice answers, anything that asks and/or reveals the gritty side of human nature, and that has beautiful cinematography and soundtracks.

(Movies:) Pretty much anything by Hayao Miyazaki, Joss Whedon, or Pixar. Nightmare Before Christmas, Lord of the Rings, Good Will Hunting, Requiem for a Dream, Shutter Island, The Prestige, Momento, Interview with the Vampire, Pride & Prejudice, House of Flying Daggers, Cast Away, American Beauty, The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo, The Man from Nowhere, Let the Right One In.

(Shows:) BSG, Star Trek, BBC’s Sherlock, Doctor Who, Firefly, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Dollhouse, Walking Dead, Game of Thrones, Avatar: The Last Airbender, The IT Crowd, Death Note.

Music: Prefer rock, alternative, movie soundtracks. Some of my favorites are (in no particular order): 30 Seconds to Mars, Sia, Sick Puppies, Macklemore & Ryan Lewis, Lindsey Stirling, Peter Hollins, Deftones, Snow Patrol, Breaking Benjamin, Rhianna, Pink, Coldplay, Gotye, Motion City Soundtrack, Blue October, Seether.

Video games: Varies. I tend towards RPGs and story-driven FPSs, but I like other types of games like League of Legends and Civilization, as well.
The Bioshock games, Elder Scrolls games, Borderlands, the Riddick games (don't knock them til you've tried playing them), Valkyrie Profile, Devil may Cry, Fable, Baldur's Gate/Icewind Dale, Beyond Good & Evil, Portal, Don't Starve, Plants vs. Zombies, LIMBO, Tomb Raider. Currently playing League of Legends and Starbound, mainly.

Food: No sugar, suuuper low carbs, tons of fat. (It’s called Keto.) I like to eat a lot, so I do. Tons and tons of fat. I even get to make these tasty little delights called fatbombs so I don't end up with kidney stones. =P
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I'm just gonna change this to stuff I like.

My husband and my best friends. The internet, video games, my Android phone. The beach. Specifically watching thunderstorms on the beach. Dungeons and Dragons, games in general, snowball fights and sledding, pillow fights, a really good movie. Snuggling up on the couch. Blankets. OMGEEEE blankets. And nice warm socks. Horror movies really late at night with all the lights off. Sex. Being random and sporadic. Fountains. Playgrounds. Museums, gardens, laying in the grass on a gorgeous summer day, the dictionary, everything Google makes (though not necessarily everything they do), making up ridiculously detailed and intimate characters in D&D. Beating video games on the next hardest level. Finishing every quest on the list, no matter how long it takes. Storytelling.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I'm normal. I think about where I'm going in life, how to budget so I can pay rent, what I'm gonna do for the next holiday, which friends I've forgotten to stay in touch with, etc. Also, things like where I've screwed up in life, how I can make myself a better person, how I can get to where I want to go. I think a lot about relationships with other people, especially when they aren't going great. I'm very loyal, and I really dislike being on bad terms with people I value.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Playing videogames or watching movies, maybe spending some time with the husband. (If it seems like I am spamming the shit out of the fact that I have a husband, I am. I'm sorry if it's getting annoying, but a lot of guys don't read the part/s of my profile that say I'm not looking for a relationship with a guy before they hit on me.)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I lost 50+ lbs, started dressing nicely, and learned how to do the makeup thing about a year ago. =) Pretty proud of that.
You should message me if
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Any of the following:

You know what "Allons-y!" refers to. Better yet if you cried (too) at "I don't wanna go!" Or after Spike said, " I wanna see how it ends." (I'd love to discuss the philosophical differences between Angel and Spike...) You know what feat you need to wield a bastard sword in 3.5e, as well as how much it does if held with both hands on a confirmed critical. Your family members call you to fix their computers. Your phone and/or computer desktop is customized to high heaven. You love games like Zelda and Portal. You have a list of movies to watch that grows faster than you can watch them. You hate the angst between Star Trek and Star Wars. You like period pieces like Pride & Prejudice. You have a sharp wit and sarcastic, biting sense of humor. You love texting and/or chatting on the computer, but not so much emailing because you love instant gratification. Any one or more of the above will suffice. :-)

You're a girl who might be open to dating just me (it would likely be very casual, but it could be fun ^_^ ), or better, dating both myself and bkam144. (My husband and I are really awesome, I assure you!) We are not looking to do partner swapping or getting involved with an existing couple. Even if you're not sure, hey, we could become friends. I am NOT looking to date another guy.

You do NOT have the words "easy going" and/or "laid back" in your profile. (If you do, take them out, for your own sake. =P )

If you're suuuuuuuuuuper shy and don't want to send me a message, just do that whole gold "like" star thing. =)