I can't in good conscience prioritize one-on-one time w/ new people until my career is a little more stable-- still bouncing back form a 6mo housing crisis early this year. The next time I start a relationship, I want to have space in my life to put roots into it if it goes that way, and the space I have is a little too chaotic right now. Young Victorian lads got their future established before they came a-courtin' for a serious partner, and I see no reason to do it differently. ...But I'd love to "take your applications to keep on file." I mean, meet up and hang out in the scraps in between. I don't like missing opportunities. :)
I’m the quirky go-getter main character in the most drawn out underdog sitcom/ feel-good indi flick of all time, and I’m just getting to the part where I’m (finally) starting to become a big deal. ...This would be a really great time for the main romantic plot to start, you guys, if all the good stuff is going happen at once.
By trade, I’m a working musician, performer, and community organizer. I’ve spent the last 7 years slowly building a cult following for my music and Poly Activist work. I’m lucky-- that work has left me blessed with a great community and chosen family I’m proud to be surrounded by, even if leadership makes dating complicated.
Polyamory disclaimers: I’m a fairly active poly person, tho usually slow to start new things. Good terms to describe how I like to handle my love life: ‘relationship anarchist’ or ‘open multiple primary capable:’ Each involvement is treated individually, taking nothing for granted. I’m mostly single right now: I only have 2-3 super low key things (less than 6 dates/month with all of them), who I am warm and fuzzy about and value immensely for who and what those are... but they leave most of my romantic/emotional availability open. I’m not shy about dating the ‘right’ new-to-poly people! (I'm an activist, so I'm used to answering questions-- you're in good hands. Also, Campfire Rule.) If you are staunchly into “There Can Be Only One Primary” polyamory, tho, single or not, it probs isn’t gonna work out beyond occasional funtimes.
I’m always busy: In a typical week, I teach 10 private lessons from my home studio, send email for 12+h, publish several articles on ModernPoly.com’s ezine, spend several hours practicing/rehearsing, ride bikes for fun, go out dancing, do Shabbos, do organizing work for some future event, garden (in spring and summer), hit networking parties, perform, hit meetings, get caught in random late-night philosophical debates, execute harmless debauchery, attempt cultivate beer & wine snobbery, and spend QT with my friends. (They’re an amazing, fascinating, loving bunch I could tell stories for hours about.)
Some weeks I sleep more than others. It’s not an easy career path I’ve picked. But I've built such a rich and complex life for myself, I would never want it otherwise. I already have endless amounts of amazing stories for my theoretical grandkids. I love the control and flexibility of being self-employed so much, and doing work that is immensely valuable not just to me personally, but also my fans and clients. I never want to go back. I both love and sometimes rue that the people around me become players in these crazy vignettes. I work hard, push myself, play as needed and celebrate my successes. I live life fully, passionately, ethically, honestly, and openly as much as I can. And I’m always on the lookout for who's coming on my next adventure.