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OutOfTheFurnace

30 Oakland, CA Woman

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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 30–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 5:33am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White, Other
Height
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Jacked
Diet
Mostly vegan
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism
Sign
Aries
Education
Dropped out of Ph.D program
Job
Retired
Status
Single
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Pets
Likes dogs
Speaks
English, German (Okay), Sign Language (Okay)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
*I'm using this site pretty lightly. I am interested in simple short term dating, if that. And I'm definitely not paying to see who gives me stars.*

I have lived in California my entire life and Oakland for the past eight years. With this has come deep and meaningful place-based political and social relationships, and, at the same time, it has afforded me these very sensitive California bones that are easily confused by actual seasons. I'm working this.

I tend to take life pretty seriously which often means investing hardcore in the things I care most about: reconstructing relationships with my family // healing trauma with individuals and collectives so that we're more effective in social change work // organizing group outings to Oakland Contra Dancing nights // trying to consciously bring some color and vibrancy into my wardrobe and food // vying for laser tag parties whenever the moment calls for it. And even if it doesnt.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am a trainer and teacher of anti-racist political education and non-violent direct action. I also study somatics and am learning how to knit again.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
communication,
eating,
soccer,
writing,
running long distances,
riding my bike to bodies of water,
intuition,
burping,
and making chicken noises.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Likely tattoos and the fact that I will make eye contact.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books:
How Green Was My Valley; Parable of the Sower; Out of This Furnace; The Art of Racing in the Rain; Hillbilly Nationalist, Urban Race Rebels, and Black Power: Community Organizing in Radical Times; The Fire Next Time; Caliban and the Witch (!!!), The Ecology of Freedom

Music:
Refused, Cary Ann Hearst, Hiretsukan, The Weakerthans, Converge, Songs: Ohia/ Magnolia Electric Co., (early) AFI, Sick of it All, William Elliot Whitmore, Mika Miko, Usher, Lemuria, Neko Case, Suicide File, Dag Nasty, I-Spy, Pete Seeger, Wilco, Saves the Day, Justin Townes Earle, 112, Sun Kil Moon, Botch, Chuck Ragan, Engineer, The Cave Singers, Ralph Stanley

Movies:
Death at a Funeral, Blue Valentine, Shaun of the Dead, Away We Go, The Wind that Shakes the Barley, Freeway, Super Troopers, Tremors, Nine to Five

Food:
Burritos, beats, almond butter, blue berries, vegan flan, Ethiopian food.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
dogs x10,
somatics,
books,
toothpaste,
herbs
socks,
and the Sonoma County coast line.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
social change and how everyone is needed in that.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
hanging out with friends,
movies,
walking without destination,
cooking,
writing pen pals in prison,
meditating,
and reading.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I wear frumpy pajamas.
You should message me if
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you already know who you are and you're humbly, reasonably stoked on that.

you have left (which is not the same as liberal) politics and you generally feel positive about calling yourself a feminist.

and, you have invested a fair amount of energy in your own emotional literacy (knowing why and how you feel things). To be frank, if this last part is confusing or you just got dismissive, it's likely you should not message me.