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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 30–42
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 7:53am
Sapiosexual, Asexual
5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body Type
Rather not say
Mostly anything
Not at all
Aquarius, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from high school
Rather not say
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Okay), Afrikaans (Poorly), Greek (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I find myself looking for friends here because I am not the gregarious sort who revels in visiting bars [I don't drink],nightclubs or other rowdy places where the more extroverted among us tend to congregate todo the social thing.

Being in the presence of large groups of people, especially those that are noisy, is tiring for me: I enjoy my solitude, or the company of one or two like-minded accomplices.

I see myself as one of over six billion [and counting] jumped-up apes clinging to the surface of a minor rocky planet trapped in the gravity well of a Class G2 star somewhere in the outer reaches of an unexceptional spiral galaxy - one among billions of such islands of matter [and dark matter] embedded in an ever-expanding void.

We may be the only animals we know of that are aware of our mortality, and that feel the frantic urge to pursue a life crammed with "meaning", as if we expect our existence to have significance in the greater scheme of things. Many of us spend most of our lives chasing after that elusive "meaning" , sometimes so much so that we miss out on simply getting whatever pleasure we can out of our fleeting, unlikely existence. We are the lucky ones.
I think that this is one of the pitfalls of having brains that specialise in pattern-recognition. [For more on this, look up "pareidolia".]

I do not think that we occupy any special position in space and time or that homo sapiens is any more remarkable than any other creature, both extinct or extant, however much we may want to believe our disproportionately large brains set us apart. Knowledge, and technology, without wisdom and responsibility can be a dangerous thing.

I have been known to spend more than is probably sensible on my computer and consoles, whether it be playing games, learning to use and experiment with Blender and The GIMP, making sporadic forays into a given Linux distribution, trying to learn HTML and CSS again [or Python - who knows why I do this to myself-I'm just as bad when it comes to trying to follow elementary first-year university/college mathematics], web-crawling, or being sucked into Youtube.

Yes, "sapiosexual" is a word. Who knew?
I'd like to think that I am not trying to befriend fashion models - I'm no bronzed Adonis myself.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Following whatever interests me within a given period, whether or not I am any good at it. [Mathematics comes to mind: how often have I butted heads with this formidable subject!] I take pride in my work, but am not a slave to it, and look forward to doing the things that bring me pleasure outside of working hours. Appreciating the time I spend with my family, close and extended, near and far.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I couldn't say. Rumination of this sort usually doesn't end well, and swallows time that could be used to do something with tangible results. So...I don't fret over it any more, and avoid measuring myself against other people. I do as much as I can at a given time with whatever I have at my disposal, and in the mental state I am in at the time.

If anything, I would say that I am reasonably good at being verbose.
The first things people usually notice about me
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No idea. This is not something I enquire about.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Primarily science fiction and fantasy,both comic and serious, with a smattering of simplified popularisations of military history, history and development of languages, genetics, prehistory, astronomy and modern physics [provided that the maths is explained to me AS SIMPLY AS POSSIBLE. And without resorting to equations: I am a science fan, not a shoe-in for Sheldon Cooper. Among the authors I enjoy are Isaac Asimov, Stephen Baxter, Terry Pratchett, Douglas Adams, J.R.R. Tolkien, Guy Gavriel Kay, Tom Holte, Jasper Fforde, Robert Jordan, and Raymond Feist.

There are a number of podcasts I listen to regularly, including [but not limited to] Skeptoid, Dan Carlin's Hardcore History, Bad Astronomy, Melvyn Bragg's In our Time, The Skeptic's Guide to the Universe, The Bible Geek, The Human Bible, Point of Enquiry, Mysterious Universe, BlenderGuru, The Higherside Chats, [usually good for a laugh] The Infinite Monkey Cage, and Smart enough to Know Better. My iTunes podcast subscription list could do with some pruning.

Television? Currently, I am watching Numb3rs on Sunday night. That is all.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
To list more than what I need to remain alive-and sane, or refer to Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, but that would be trite-possibly pretentious too. On the other paw, the previous sentence may in itself be pretentious. What do you think? Perhaps I'm confused-my thinking woolly?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I''m not given to deep thought. Or is it that I am not as self-aware as most., but prone to running on automatic?

Perhaps.....working out-sometimes on paper-what procedure I should follow to complete what I want or need [if I know what is good for me!] to do at a given time. Nothing especially profound. Sorry.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Doing my laundry, washing the supper dishes, trawling the internet for comic relief in the form of pseudoscience or harrowing the virtual dungeons of who-or whatever I do not owe any allegiance to, while collecting currency, rare items and experience points. [Yes, RPGs are my favourite gaming genre.]
Reading. [Of course]
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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My iTunes podcast subscription list could probably do with some pruning.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over. are looking for an online friend, regardless of geographical location, and can live with the possibility that we may never meet in person. [I am quite shy, and don't find it easy to engage with other people most of the time, though there is that rare person who turns out to be a close friend-practically family, in fact.]

You wish to take me to task over my spelling, grammar, or writing style. [Don't hold back: I am open to whatever you think would improve my profile.]

You feel comfortable with the notion of playing Scrabble/Words with Friends/similar word game with me.