While I do love the ladies, man. I would not consider myself a ladies man. While I do like to play the field, I am far from a player. My name is not Milton Bradley, and I do not play... well maybe chess, and the like.... but don't I don't play games with people. Nor do I take a bullshit sandwich and smile thankfully for the privilege.
I typically will give you exactly what you need unless you ask for something else:
If you say let's just be friends, you shouldn't be upset that that is all you get. Don't get boggled by the fact that I'm paying you attention, and treating you like I care- It's because I do. I care about most people, and treat them well (I even treat people whom I don't like, well..or at least cordially....unless it's proven that they prefer to be treated like the assholes that they are). DON'T get scared away, and or confuse it with love. I'm not one to parse words, or run from my emotions. I will tell you that I love you when I do, and even still understanding degrees of love, will differentiate between love, and IN-LOVE. But I guess it's a moot point, as the woman who I'll stay with into infinity, will get me infinitely, and I her(while still leaving room for surprise and growth).
But if you say, "let's see where this goes"(or something in that vein), we'll follow it to it's conclusion however long that is, whatever it is. If it's love, or friendship (though I do love my friends, who are mostly women, and a handful of guys... anyone with a problem with that... oh! there ya go. Thanks for stopping by anyway), it will find it's way of its own accord.
I am an excellent judge of character. It doesn't take me long to suss people out. On the odd occasion I've been fooled, I was merely blinded by their potential that they didn't feel the need to live up to. Or they decided the Darkside was where they felt at home. Granted we all have a dark side, but I think of it more as a tool than a steady-state. While we're on this (or rather, I am... on about this), my Jedi powers will always trump your Sith (and yes, I am a total geek, and if you can't handle that, and are not moved by my handsome debonaire-oy! don't take me too seriously I don't...oh! there ya go... Aaaaand another handful gone. Sweet.), and I can ALWAYS (usually) spot a lie. I will at the very least remember it long after the teller's forgotten, but probably won't call anyone on it until they've hit third strike, and I've confirmed it's lack veracity ( oh! I hope I lost another couple there). Tell me the truth, even if I don't like it. I'll be pissed, but will forgive it much sooner than a lie.
I'm not unwavering, but I don't see the point in being universally agreeable. I'm already multifaceted and somewhat a square peg... well, more like a oblong (loved that show) polygonal peg. The woman I'm looking for, like me, can't be quantified by outward presentation.. I'm an just as comfortable in a Gala as I am in a dive bar (though I do prefer the latter). I'm a city boy with urban flare, but I'm also a bit granola crunchy spirit that loves the lure of nature (anyone want to come climb a mountain? oop! there goes another. See ya!). I've minted the moniker HiPPIE-MOD, as a description of me. I am intrinsically a gregarious misanthrope. While I'm comfortable in the company of many, I prefer the company of far fewer, so not interested in pleasing everyone, and being universally palatable.
I am actually quite open to improvement though. I wouldn't mind achieving Bodhisattva. I don't work out all the time(push-ups & core work as an almost daily wake-up routine... well, almost... my cardio needs work though), but I like to stay healthy and fit. My mental health, and strength are of equal importance to me... which is to say VERY. The woman who fits me best would have to be on the same page.
Most importantly: I am a very old and wizened child. I walk with Tao in mind, in that I am and am not. There is more, which you'll have to find out... or not.