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My self-summary
Update: Now happily living with a wonderful woman in what we hope will be a lifetime relationship. She was also on here, where we met. But now has removed her profile, tried of what some fool males would write. My profile will remain on for a while to stay in contact with the few friends we made along the way. And if there are kindred souls out there that are also interested what is shared here, "WE" would be open to exploring new friendships. Nothing more than that, either here in NJ (planning to stay here for the next couple of years) or Florida, were we may relocate to retire. We are also considering the life of becoming expatriates, possibly in the south of Portugal. So love to hear from either expats anywhere or other considering such a life option to learn and share ideas of those that think they might and actual experiences of those that have.

Years of personal and spiritual questing now finds me calling myself an agnostic that is still striving to understand "the mind of God" and how it integrate into most of our lives. When it comes to the ritual expression of my spiritually, I am more comfortable with pagan practices in general and particularly drawn to Celtic and Native American ways.
Politically, as many of us here, I lean liberal and still believe we can improve the world one vote at a time. Stewardship of the environment and tolerance for our diversities, both human and in all the other forms life takes, are passions of mine.
On the home front, I'm in the middle of modifying my home to living green and hope someday to share this space with friends. Would even be especially nice to create such a space together. Some of the plans envisions a meditation garden on the grounds. Also, a vegetable garden located on the roof in order to eat healthier while keeping it out of reach of the deer population and also better insulating the home. And of course creating comfortable areas in and out to share from time to time with close friends and family.
On the lighter side drawn to folk music, hot tubs and campfires and other places that spirit gathers. Enjoying time spent sailing, be it on a lake or ocean. Also very drawn to the country, having moved to NWNJ, where life comes at you a bit slower and nature seems a little closer. The days here might be enjoyed tending to a country garden or swimming in the local lake. Hiking or cycling to enjoy nature while trying to stay healthy. Riding a motorcycle or taking the old convertible for a spin down a county road. We might be going to find farm fresh produce or home made pies. It might be to spend time at a classic car show, a craft fair, a pagan picnic, a nudist camp or a weekend workshop or any gathering of good friends or family. Often sharing a glass of wine, good meal and great conversation. For now, these are some of the pieces of my life and what I hope to share.
What I’m doing with my life
During the summer months, when weather and time permit, you can find me sailing on Long Island Sound and waters East. Home port there is City Island. A wonderful place that feels more like a quaint village than the far end of New York City, which it is. Sometime in the season she may be moored in Vineyard Haven, a classic New England gem on Martha's Vineyard.

And this year I took a trip to Europe, to reconnect with roots in Portugal, Had a wonderful time and will definitely be spending more time there in future.

Also a fair amount of energy goes into improving this home as an on going project. Doing much of the work myself is very rewarding and cost effective, making it all possible. It would be wonderful to find others passionate about living green and helping each other to create and share such a place.

If we don't reach for the brass ring in life, it will not likely come our way. For many of us that are familiar with the work of Joseph Campbell, one piece of important advice about living a successful life rings true. "Follow your bliss" and the rest will work itself out
I’m really good at
Building things. For most of my life it was with tools and working with my hands. Now-a-days I lean more toward building community.
The first things people usually notice about me
I've hear it said - my voice and perhaps my eyes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books that come to mind right away.

When I was young: "Animal Farm" and "The Agony and the Ecstasy".

Later on: "Illusions", "A Road Less Traveled" and "A Brief History of Time"

Recently: "My Life, Bill Clinton" and "An Assault on Reason".

And my favorite of all time: "Love is Letting Go of Fear".
A simple book with a major message for most of us.

Movies just to name a few:

It's a Wonderful Life, Casablanca, The African Queen,

The Razor's Edge (remake starring Bill Murray),

Phenomenon, Dune, Star Wars (Episode V),

Dances with Wolves, A Good Year and Gladiator

with too many more too list.

Songs I always enjoy:

Woody Guthrie's "This Land is Your Land"

John Newton's "Amazing Grace"

Cathy Winter's "Heretic Heart"

John Lennon's "Imagine"

and especially......

Bette Midler's "The Rose"
The six things I could never do without
First and foremost my sanity, though some might take me to be a bit eccentric. After that, no worries.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
For whatever reason, I have been blessed with a few of my former loves now being some of my best friends. And even though these relationships are no longer of a physical nature, there is no doubt that we still share strong, loving friendships. Connections I am not will to end; nor would I ask another to do so in a similar situation.

And I do believe that best expressed in the words of Rumi ......

'Goodbyes are only for those who love with their eyes ... For those who have loved with heart and soul, there is no such thing as separation'.
On a typical Friday night I am
Now retired, Fridays do not feel the same as when I was working full time. Might be out at a local gathering with other kindred spirits, sometimes a discussion group or lecture. Or out listening to music, often folk, bluegrass and jazz. And oldies from the sixties and seventies when one can find a place with music that harkens back to the days of woodstock.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Right or wrong, I dare to dream of what lies beyond the internal fears that set too many of our limits in life. And I have come to believe; it's not where we have tried and fail that we will regret most at the end of life, but where and what we have failed to try.
You should message me if
If you have a Bohemian soul. You know deep within yourself the importance of living a uniquely authentic life, right for you. And you're willing to venture down the road less traveled to do so.

And you've also wondered if we can be similar enough for the foundation of a great friendship and diverse enough to be interesting companions on life's journey.