Years of personal and spiritual questing now finds me calling myself an agnostic that is still striving to understand "the mind of God" and how it integrates into most of our lives. When it comes to the ritual expression of my spiritually, I am more comfortable with pagan practices in general and particularly drawn to Celtic and Native American ways.
Politically, as many of us here, I lean liberal and still believe we can improve the world one vote at a time. Stewardship of the environment and tolerance for our diversities, both human and in all the other forms life takes, are passions of mine.
On the home front, I'm in the middle of modifying my house to living green and I hope someday to share this space with my soul mate. Would even be especially nice to create such a space together. Some of my plan envisions a meditation garden on the grounds. Also, a vegetable garden located on the roof in order to eat healthier while keeping it out of reach of the deer population and also better insulating the home. And of course creating comfortable areas in and out to share form time to time with close friends and family.
On the lighter side I'm drawn to folk music, hot tubs and campfires and other places that spirit gathers. I enjoy time spent sailing, be it on a lake or ocean. I'm also very drawn to the country, having recently moved to NWNJ, were life comes at you a bit slower and nature seams a little closer. The days here might be enjoyed tending to a country garden or swimming in the local lake. Hiking or cycling to enjoy nature while trying to stay healthy. Riding a motorcycle or taking an old convertible for a spin down a county road. We might be going to find farm fresh produce or home made pies. It might be to spend time at a classic car show, a craft fair, a pagan picnic, a nudist camp or a weekend workshop or any gathering of good friends or family. Often sharing a glass of wine, good meal and great conversation. For now, these are some of the pieces of my life and what I hope to share.

During the summer months, when weather and time permit, you can find me sailing on Long Island Sound and waters East. City Island is Dream Weaver's home port.. A wonderful place that feels more like a quaint village than the far end of New York City, which it is. Later in the season she may be moored in Vineyard Haven, a classic New England gem.

Also a fair amount of energy goes into improving my home as on going project. Doing much of the work myself is very rewarding and cost effective, making it all possible. That said, it would be wonderful to find others passionate about living green and helping each other to create and share such a place.

If we don't reach for the brass ring in life, it will not likely come our way. For many of us that are familiar with the work of Joseph Campbell, one piece of important advice about living a successful life rings true. "Follow your bliss" and the rest will work itself out

Building things. For most of my life it was with tools and working with my hands. Now-a-days I lean more toward building community.

I've hear it said - my voice and perhaps my eyes.

Books that come to mind right away.

When I was young: "Animal Farm" and "The Agony and the Ecstasy".

Later on: "Illusions", "A Road Less Traveled" and "A Brief History of Time"

One I have given away many copies of: "Love Is Letting Go of Fear"

Recently: "My Life, Bill Clinton" and "An Assault on Reason".

Movies just to name a few:

It's a Wonderful Life, Casablanca, The African Queen,

The Razor's Edge (remake staring Bill Murray),

Phenomenon, Dune, Star Wars (Episode V),

Dances with Wolves, A Good Year and Gladiator

Songs I always enjoy:

Woodie Guthrie's "This Land is Your Land"

John Newton's "Amazing Grace"

Cathy Winter's "Heretic Heart"

John Lennon's "Imagine"

and especially......

Bette Midler's "The Rose"

First and foremost my sanity, though some might take me to be a bit eccentric. After that, no worries.

Polyamory, rather than another frustrating attempt at monogamy, and if it wouldn't be a better relationship path for someone like myself. Now recognizing that in my past, I have know the amazing amount of love three can share in a closed triad is only a part of it.

In my latest attempt at a loving, commited LTR there was no doubt of the deep love I shared with, and in some form still have, for my former partner. And our hope to spend the rest of our lives together, now not to be. In fairness to my love and her choice to move on, it is true that I was not able to focus all my love exclusively on her alone. And I do understand that most of us need that total exclusivity to truly feel enough love to trust the relationship can last.

You see, for whatever reason, I have been blessed by the fact that a few of my former lovers are now some of my best friends. And even though these relationships are no longer of a physical nature, there is no doubt that I/we still share strong, loving connections. Connections I am not will to end; nor would I ask another to, in a similar situation. So is this what it means to be polyamorous.

And maybe it should be enough that my last love and I will always care for each other and another great friendship may come of it. Now, understanding that my life has been filled with more love than some others have known, should this not be enough? Yet I still continue to hope that if one keeps their heart open, there is always a chance to finally meet one's soul mate, or in the case of poly, mates, and together enter into a loving, mutually rewarding partnership and share whatever time we have left in this adventure called life.

Out listening to music, sometimes folk at a local group I belong to, spending time with friends. Or home alone and reading, hoping to come across some words of wisdom like the following from Rumi:

' Goodbyes are only for those who love with their eyes ... For those who love with heart and soul, there is no such thing as separation '.

.... and thru such enlightening thoughts, come to understanding a little more of who we are.

That I'm still hoping to meet my soulmate. Someone who isn't afraid of commitment. And who wants all three in a relationship.
A lover, a partner and a best friend.

You like what you see. You're thinking long term. You wonder if we may be similar enough for the foundation of a great friendship and diverse enough to be interesting companions on life's journey.