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Last online
Sep 18
5' 9" (1.75m)
Body Type
Average build
Other and laughing about it
Has kid(s)
English (Fluently), French (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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Poetry, like chivalry, is not dead... it's a lifestyle. Noise & Silence come in varying degrees of purity/quality and can both be devastatingly beautiful when shared with the right person ( or in absolute solitude). Words can be wonderfully deep, even tactile or meaningless and void of substance, in print or voiced; the real magic is when they have all of these qualities at once... That's when you can't keep your hands off the book or your eyes off the poor soul.
To say that i am an Artist-Activist is not succinct. Rue it or glamorize it as you or i may, i am, most simply put, a Poet... i write, i read, i listen. i speak, i play electric guitar, i sing.
Ever since coming to SF in 2002, i have worked for non-profits. i have been with the same phenomenal, local agency for 3 years & i love my program because i see the most direct, tangible effects of any work i've done in the sector. When i lived in Manhattan i worked in Theatre & have made some of the world's best coffee & strongest drinks from Olympia to the Lower East Side to Capital Hill in Seattle. Perhaps that's part of why i rarely drink caffeine and almost never imbibe alcohol now, because, just as any drug dealer, i learned the first & most often violated rule of the trade, "don't get high on your own supply", the hard way. Or maybe it's because i already drank my share of micro & homebrew in Eugene, Portland, Colorado & the aforementioned & current localities, all the while performing noise, music & spoken word and committing acts of mixed media for love and anarchy. There are assuredly other reasons that the imbibing has ceased while the Poetry & Noise persist... i won't get into them here. Suffice to say i've not been deprived of depravity.
If you have read this far & can either relate or are at least mildly amused or curious, there is most likely sufficient affinity between us to precipitate a meeting of the minds.
Oh yeah... & i've partially cloned my DNA in a previous deep love affair, the result being a brilliantly charming 6 year old who thinks almost as much of the man she calls "Dad" as he thinks of her. This is of course very time consuming.
What I’m doing with my life
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Living it on life's terms... with a rug rat in tow...
I’m really good at
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Writing, Self reflection, Self expression, Empathy, Listening, Affection, Musical Creativity
The first things people usually notice about me
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Dark eyes, Articulate, Intelligent, "Good Energy"
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Alice Walker, Alexandre Dumas, Anais Nin, Nova Express, The Wild Boys, Simone de Beauvoir, Complete works of Edgar Allen Poe, Do Androids Dream of Electric Sheep, Lords of Chaos, The Passion by Janette Winterson, Bhagavad gita, Complete works of Lewis Carrol, Blood and Soap, Complete works of H.P. Lovecraft, The Book of Enoch, The Book of Revelations, Tolkien, D&D manuals, Comic Books...
I Heart Huckabees, Winter's Bone, Fingersmith, Tree of Life, Fight Club, French Films- particularly Jean Pierre Jeunet (Amalee etc.) & Jean Caucteu but many others, The Piano, Watchmen, Der Todesking, Coen Brothers, Cronenberg, Dagon, Underworld series, ALL Christopher Nolan movies and most movies with Christian Bale, Arizona Dream, Tim Burton, Zombie Movies, Most movies with ScoJo - though not that crap with Matt Damon (i have to admit to liking Goodwill Hunting... and The Departed because he plays such a cock bastard) Walking Dead, Fringe, Aeon Flux cartoons, Adventure Time, NHL and even though i'm ashamed to admit it -NFL...
Urinetown, Les Mis, Phantom, Sweeney Todd, De La Guarda, Tennessee Williams... And i like too much food and Music to list, it would be even more exhausting than the cursory list of entertainment i've just spat out and surely even less complete... Suffice to say i like what i consider the best of everything... Consider it a topic for future conversation...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The Ocean, Amplified Musical Instruments, Eye contact, Family, Romance, Salt... Wait... i guess the ocean covers salt... Tanginess... Pretty much in that order...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The experiences that have shaped me and the experiences i want to have...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
At home with my 6 year old daughter... Saturday nights a movie & or restaurant after band practice...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Would never be posted on the internet for total strangers...
You should message me if
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You love life, beauty, liberty, paradox, tragedy and Polytheism... and asymmetry... and/or degenerative penmanship... Or for the hell of it... You never know, it might just be extra awesome, no matter how diferent we are...