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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 38–55
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 7:29pm
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Capricorn, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs
English (Fluently), German (Okay)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
**Update July 2015.

This will sound a bit bitchy . . .

Okay, I'm basically done with OKC. A vast disappointment that makes me wonder what women are really looking for. I have been open and affable. The point of this whole things is to ACTUALLY MEET OTHER PEOPLE. Window shopping is nice, but you've got to try on the shoes to see if they fit.

This profile will largely slumber, and might be open on weekends.

I'm not into talking to myself, at least not that much. Life is tactile, personal, the look in the eye, or not, nerves and ticks, forgiveness and curiosity. What is this this chicken-shit stuff? Step forward.

I know two couples who have met and married through OKC, so it must work somehow for some people.

. . . and tell me, who else has a contact sheet selfie . . . from 1985?

The rest remains the same -

I've tried the narrative summary, and honestly, they all sound the same and mine was borderline pretentious. I was inspired by another user and her non-sequiturs, which is really how we remember our lives and how we get to know each other.

•"Iowa Nice." (nice guy. Polite. Tries -tries - not to offend. Turns the other cheek.)
•Always trying to do better. I don’t always succeed.
•Think too much, and it ain’t healthy.
•Once had a very green thumb, but seem to be losing it. I’ve lost my patience with plants, or they theirs with me. And honestly, I love killing trees. The right kind of trees. Or the wrong kind as the case may be.
•Great man legs if you look beyond the scratches and bruises.
•Know the Latin names for tons of plants and insects. Just don’t ask. I hate being a walking encyclopedia, although, honestly, I am.
•Grow a beard in winter and shave my legs in the summer. It's a comfort thing, honestly.
•Learned how to juggle in my sister’s flat in London, listening to “Court and Spark.” Got stuck at three balls – the basics.
•Can be a fierce and loyal friend. Friendship is an active relationship.
•Fought fires out west when much younger, and now set fires here and don’t go to jail.
•Bummed around Europe when I was 20. I’ve been to South Africa twice. Did a Snoopy dance on Robben Island because Capetown was so, so beautiful. A bit like Alcatraz, only both more terrible and wonderful.
•In Amsterdam for a half-day, May 2013. Damn. Spent considerably more time there when a youth (see above), and can still see why one might never leave.
•Forager, with a freezer full of wild fruit and mushrooms. More like a foraging hoarder now that I think about it. i collect more than I need or can use. Also have a huge inventory of wild seeds, and a prairie restoration in Iowa. But food must be eaten, and seeds sown.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I spent a long time doing natural area research. I loved the work. A bibliography is available upon request. Eventually the job, not the work, began to sap my soul. I'm still transitioning in an effort to find what's still important to me. Let's just say the current job is responsible for those scratches and bruises.

I don't want to pretend that I'm overly positive. Life, everybody's life, is a mess, whether you want to acknowledge it or not. "Life is what happens when you're making other plans." All you can do is put your best self forward.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Answering questions no one is asking. Yes, I'm Lisa Simpson.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
You tell me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
English major who is under-read. I've re-read both non-fiction and science fiction books. I favor history and travel books now.

I was a terrible cinephile once. There's very little that captures my attention with modern movies. I'm not sure why. Maybe I prefer the model-matting of the old Star Wars to the CGI of the modern Star Wars. I've seen many subtitled films. I admit to "Contact" being a guilty favorite, and the "The Godfather" is the perfect movie. The Perfect Movie.

Nowadays, I have a pretty broad acceptance of music - African, folk, traditional, singer-songwriter. I just can't listen to contemporary country (Nashville, Inc.) and most rap. Musically, I'm a child of the 80's. Husker Du and the Minutemen (power trios) are etched on my sonic memory. Classic rock - yes. More recent acts. Sleater Kinney, Screaming Females (three again), and Fang Island (sorta three). Secret regional favorite? House of Large Sizes (three). And bluegrass is the new - old - punk rock.

You can't go wrong with asparagus and morels especially if you throw in some ramps.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.

My bikes (non-motorized, human-powered). I have three.

A camera

A place to escape (to)

The living world

The living word*

*language, written and spoken. Not the Bible.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Where to go from here.

What kind of phone to get. I miss the days when phone service cost only $20. Choice is a bitch. So is technology.

The stories we tell ourselves.

Family and fragility.

The death of the natural world. "One of the penalties of an ecological education is that one lives alone in a world of wounds." - Aldo Leopold.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
In good weather, on my bike.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have a real weakness for women who ride bicycles. Not your casual rider, but women who can put in a couple of hours in the saddle. A friend once described this as a "fetish." I think it's more an appreciation of strength and autonomy. I don't mind having my butt kicked by a female rider.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
•I really am single, not looking to cheat. Not really a reason to message me, but just sayin' . . .
•You DON'T write in netspeak, and can write not just a sentence, but several sentences, in a coherent form demonstrating you read my profile and which lets a little of your personality shine through. I guess this is my test. "Hi's" and "Hellos" will be deleted.
•Would you look me in the eye in a grocery store?
•If you ride a bike - it's a BIG ice breaker. (See above).
•As I'm discovering, being existential would be a big help. It's about owning your decisions, something I see far few women do. This might sound misogynistic. It's not meant to be. Men likely are just as unreliable. That's just not my side of the plate.
*Ladies, please ask a friend to take a picture of you. One self pic is enough. Few selfies even approach being complimentary - actually quite opposite. Somehow, I have pictures others have taken of me without really trying.