11/20/09 -- I'll be updating my profile when I make the time to do it, Mustache and 20 lbs. are gone.

Let me start by saying I didn’t seek out this site to join it. I was at another site and a person put in links to take quizzes to see how dominant and submissive you are. I already believed I knew the answers but on a lark I decided to take the tests. After taking the first test I got the “if you want the results, join the site, it’s free” page. I figured, “what the hell, why not”. The results of the tests were surprising close to what I thought they would be. The next day I was wondering how my friends would rate me. So, I asked two female friends (separately) and damn if they didn’t give the same answer, which was basically, what the test had calculated and I had believed. If nothing else I had consistency.

I came back to the site to figuring out what was what and to learn how it worked. I looked at profiles and I didn’t find anyone I knew (ahhh come on now, we’d all secretly love to find someone we know). I checked out what the Journal was and stumbled upon an entry from a woman who evidently had a very bad day and was very “blue”. I decided to leave her a nice comment, read her profile and then answered the questions she had answered.

A while back I came to accept the fact either I will or I won’t get married again. I will be or not be in either a long or short term relationship and felt what happens, happens. Then I concentrated on more pressing things in my life. Would I have ever considered an on or off line dating service? I’ve known several people who have tried them only to end up being more frustrated. An on line match leading to marriage, I equated to winning the Powerball lottery, yes it can happen but don’t plan your future on it.

I enjoyed answering the questions, which my “blue” lady had answered and started to re-evaluate the service OKC provides, along with my thinking. The percentages that came from answering the questions intrigued me and reading FAQ gave me more info to think about. I thought about how I had met some of the women I’ve dated in the past. Some meetings were far more bizarre than being matched on OKC. On two occasions if I were ten seconds earlier or later, I would not have even met those ladies. Although I haven’t won the big Powerball (yet), I’ve had several small winning tickets. I equate this to even if I don’t get a marriage match, I will probably make a few new good friends, and I’d like that to happen.

In the course of five days I’ve gone from never hearing of OKC to taking two tests, joining, reading a bunch of profiles, commenting on a Journal post and answering over a hundred questions. I’ve changed my thinking of an on line match service, written this profile, gathering pictures and became less complacent about finding a partner. What can I say, I’m on a roll. LOL

To be continued

Not as much as I want to but I’m working on it.

I’m good at many things, mediocre at some and then there are things…how should I say it…there are some things I just suck at. Ahhh but there are those few things I really excel at which I thoroughly enjoy.

Listening, not just hearing a person but listening to know what they are really saying and feeling.

I’m able to look at things from a different point of view than most people. Guess you could say I think outside the box.

In the past I had been told it was my hazel green eyes but in recent years I thought it might have changed to my salt and pepper hair (almost all salt when dry but more pepper when wet…haven’t figured out why yet). Humm…so what do people first notice? I decided to ask two female friends “what do or did you noticed first about me” and “your eyes” were their answer, with one later saying overall body to face to my eyes.

I’ll buy a book to learn something new that interests me but most of my book reading is done to research a topic I’m working on, just reading the parts I need. I just looked at my bookcase; most are on aviation, history, travel, photography and cooking of all things. I currently read more from periodicals and the Internet. I’ll admit I enjoy reading stories (non-fiction) of a loving couple having sexual adventures, some can be quite interesting.

In movies I enjoy action-adventure, mysteries, good si-fi, comedies and occasionally a chick flick. I outgrew the horror films years ago with Halloween XXXVII. In the last year or so I’ve come to appreciate films by Quentin Tarantino and Martin Scorsese. I could enjoy a good Porn film, you know, one that has a good story line or plot to it. Good looking actors starting with their clothes on, be places other than a cheap set, have a dialogue and talk to each other, look like they’re enjoying themselves and of course have a happy ending. Do you think they'll ever make one?

I tend to enjoy Pop, Oldies, Rock, Reggae, and even a bit of Classical. I’m not into Country/Western, Rap, Hip-Hop, Punk, Screamo or Opera. Music I can understand most of the words to and not be sad my dog died, not have profanities screamed at me or have to decide if it’s music or noise. I enjoy music that fits what I’m doing. Driving in a car I’ll sing to American Pie. At a Caribbean beach bar, my hips sway to Reggae. When I want to get closer to a woman, I enjoy music we can slow dance to that will make the rest of the world disappear. I enjoy the music of Queen and Meatloaf among others. (God, just read what I wrote, does it make me sound old?)

Ahhh… food. Do we eat to live or live to eat? I enjoy many foods, Chinese, Mexican and even American junk food. Lobster is my special favorite and I have a weakness for pastries. I haven’t had much exposure to other ethnic foods but would like to try them. Given the choice of a very fancy, very small portion, very expensive formal dinner or a family style meat and potatoes dinner; pass the tatters. Do you enjoy peas? Great, you can have mine.

I’ve learned I can do without a lot of “things” but let me give this a try.

My self-esteem
My self-confidence
The love and respect I get from my children
My sense of humor
My health
Ice cream

Work, how to solve any problems I might have (we all have problems), how to improve myself. What I want and how do I get it. Where I want to be in a year, in five years. My family in general, more so my daughter and my son who’s in the Army and will soon be going to Afghanistan.

I could be working, watching a movie, working on a project, on the Internet, with family or friends or … available.

Read all that came before this topic. With a good, trusted and loyal friend who enjoys sharing private things; I’m an open book about me. But, I will not share the private things that others have trusted me with about them.

That’s simple. If you read all of this, don’t think its all BS and if you think we could become friends or more, then message me.

If nothing I wrote interests you, think I’m full of BS and know we could never be friends. Then, please don’t message me.