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28 M Tampere, Finland

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Last Online
Sep 21
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Science / Engineering
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
English (Fluently), Finnish (Fluently), Swedish (Poorly), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I'm a master of science. I work as an engineer in Tampere, currently residing in Lapinniemi with a nice view to outside.

My life is all about progress. Always going forward. Always making annual surplus. I wonder, if I stop, what happens then. It is too easy to just stop, and sometimes if you don't know what to do, the best thing to do is something worth something. I also have a strict guideline in my head, that no matter how dismal it looks, no matter if I am depressed or anything, I just keep going forward. And usually without any help. I just reason stuff and try to willpower my way through. But lately I have been asking myself why do this.. if I never succeed, if I'll never be contempt. I always saw a bright future, maybe a family, a house and all that. But what if it never comes? It is not in my hands. Then the question becomes... what then? Do I start adventuring? Start a huge project? Start a revolution? This is a bothersome question.

Basically, I should be contempt. I work 6.5 hours a day in a place I can now walk to in 30 mins (yay!), and everything is ok in my life. But I am not satisfied. I believe the reason for this is either lack of meaningful deep relationships with people who I can relate to, or the lack of something that I can put all my drive and energy into, since work is only work, and work will never be done - most work is like that. Or the sad part that I am fully dependent on the society around me, and the society is not on a good path. I should either be independent, or look for ways of changing the society.. Now, I would be interested in changing the world but I tend to say no to myself, since I can hardly convince anyone of my current views on the society... and it is a huge risk and a leap of faith to move into such affairs. Regardless, I probably should. The few things in my life that I really get fired up about are: discussion on world/politics/economics/technical issues, investments, making love, and riding or driving something really fast. My other interests are a lot less intensive, and fleeting.

By now you might be curious where do you fit in? Well, I think any good relationship should start with just having fun together. I just think whoever I meet should probably be quite rational and open. If you value the justification of an opinion more than the opinion itself, then we are in the same field. I have also have little desire to be a manly man, or making you feel secure, you should be secure in Finland anyway. I think we should all be independent, discursive, loving and sincere. What I aim to say is that I am not the kind of standard man who is going to feel powerful and independent. I am outspoken and welcome to new things, but I hold fast to my own desires and goals, whether it be wealth or easy living.
What I’m doing with my life
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I am working daily. I just moved to a bigger place, but still on rent. I might be buying a house in the near future. Life is an open road.

I also just like to digitally rot in my cave watching and playing, and listening, and discussing. True story.

And I am trying to get huge at the gym. I'm not getting there. Stupid gym.
I’m really good at
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I'm a good critical thinker. Good at sailing. Good with Excel. I can sometimes make good food. I am self-sufficient and organized, and I have a knack for staying out of trouble and foreseeing things.

But most of all, I am really good at being stingy. But I'm definitely becoming more aloof about these matters.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I am fanatic, neurotic and obsessive! And with the right topic, I become very talkative. I have good criticism, tactless opinions and weird ideas.

I have also been called weird, calm and good looking.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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My favorite book would be Da Vinci Code, because it was a breeze to read through. But I listened an audio book, Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance, and it did contain some excellent thoughts. I don't read much though, I find other media more.. informative.

My favorite movies are those with witty enough humor, or those with a good story, too. I like Beverly Hills Cop I&II, Office Space, Shooter, Army of Darkness, UHF, A Beautiful Mind, Wreck-It Ralph.. well you get the idea. Tons of good movies.

The best shows are in my opinion anime. I haven't been paying much attention to western shows since Lost, which I didn't understand past season 4. Those days I watched a lot of anime. Since then I have neither watched shows nor anime. It does not seem to serve me well to sit about alone watching shows anymore. But in any case, the best anime are: Berserk, Excel Saga, Death Note, Initial D 1&2&4, Scrapped Princess, Trigun, Love hina, Ranma½.. and a special mention goes to Hack//.SIGN due to music. And the best god damn anime movie is Nausicaa of the Valley of the Wind. Beautiful story, music, art, world design, lesson, everything..

The best games would be Morrowind, Diablo and Baldur's Gate saga. I haven't played as actively since then, but Fallout 3 was also an extremely good game with memorable music as well. Oh, and I was pretty handy in Counter-Strike: Source. Actually the best game as of late is Kerbal Space Program, where you build rockets and fly them to other planets. And the physics are REAL. So you have to know all kinds of stuff about orbiting, escape velocities etc. In fact, you should bring your laptop right now, I'll fetch some beer, and we can build rockets all night together.. err.. Well I haven't fired many rockets this month, but keep an eye on that game; it's still in development.

I listen to all kinds of music. So I could easily say the best would be eurobeat or older Finnish pop music. I don't know, maybe I am weird, but I can listen to salsa, Nine Inch Nails, italodisco, german marches or old C64 music from games like Cybernoid II and Saboteur II. I mean I bought a guitar to play what, Doom E1M2 bass line? Regardless, I don't use a lot of Spotify, but I have a handy midi player setup. In the end I always seem to go back to eurobeat with all those silly lyrics: Life is a danger and love is a stranger but stronger is my soul!

But don't you worry about a thing, in a group, I rarely impose poor music on people and just go with whatever the group is listening to. As long as it is not obnoxious metal.

I like my food with sauce. I dislike processed monotonous waste.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Maslow's need hierarchy wins every time.

You can't beat a sound theory.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Well mostly I think about how to find love.

Then I get into a frustrating loop that I need to change my ways and be something else.

I then question how come, and why so, which leads me to look at our culture. Then I start thinking about all this over-consumption, all the wars, the banking system. Suddenly my mind explodes that I inevitably have to be part of the madness, in order to find love. If I oppose it, I oppose the will of evolution, and there is no love there.. or is there?

That, and I think about investments and savings. I'd like to be smart, spend smart, work smart etc. It bothers me that some people value only the luxuries of the day, or the "mood of the moment" and then toss all they have with a single roll of the dice, or to a fancy meal. It is nice every now and then, but geez, it is kind of stupid. What really matters is that all is well now and in the future, and that there are lovely people in life. But then I kind of bump into these people who think all that matters is image, "the moment", traditions, style or something else non-sensical. I'm a bloody romantic as well, but I sure as hell can be romantic without spending a fortune on stupidity while doing it. Let's build stuff that lasts for generations.

That's generally the reason why I am also fond of beautiful solutions in general, and good lifestyle choices. Improving lifestyle and the society around me in general does sort of interest me. We all could be much more productive, happier and less wasteful, if we just tried to be more efficient at the design of our lives. That's why I chose to move closer to work, so I can also walk if need be. That's why I am interested in food recipes, that are healthy, but also easy to prepare. That's why I try to choose boots that are waterproof, stylish and all-year usable, and so on. These sort of general things seem interesting, as they de-clutter life, and often increase capabilities, and lower waste in the process, too. I would call it cultural evolvement or something. Like getting rid of sharp curbstones in the city, to make bicycling more comfortable, faster with more detours, and break less tires. It all makes for a more efficient, happier population in general.. so why aren't we researching our daily living? Even in house design there is a ton of improvement to be made, and that's why I like IKEA, and their modular approaches. Nothing spells Star Trek to me better than efficiency of daily operations, and the multi-role capability of each person to do a number of tasks in the society. It's about how we interface as interdependent people into the society, and how the society interfaces to the nature of things. This thing could really get me fired up for sure!

As such I think about entering politics, or getting into the automotive business. As I think we need more genius design in small lightweight cars, but actually also passive housing.. The futuristic part of me is always expanding and preparing like some idiot who is powergaming through a roleplaying game. But the more I think about entering politics, the better I feel about... not entering politics (media..).
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Hopefully relaxing in a sauna, anywhere. With beer. But quite as likely I will also be at home. Home is now equipped with sauna and sofa, holy shit! Party hard!!!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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So here's the important stuff, and it won't be here forever, since I am on whim of openness, so read tight! Eventually you'll note I am an open book. Until that time, I will try and stay mysterious. Actually, if I really like you, I can't be overtly open at first, because I feel like I would "endanger" the relationship. You have to trash me around a bit and say you understand or something. Anyway, this has led me to strange situations. By default I am all open and honest immediately with a woman I am not too interested, but enough interested to get intimate, if that makes sense. So they start liking me (as I can be open), but I can't truly love them back, and through the openness, they will see it in a few weeks time as I cannot shower them with affection and words. Eventually I have to break hearts, and break mine, as well. But the women I am REALLY interested with make me silent and cautious, and I can't connect with them, and they sense this, and they quit after the first date. So, I have once managed this properly. It was a situation where I was daily dual wielding lesbians, and had a nice tertiary girl as well, and so I went ahead for a fourth woman, ("quaternary?" what is this, I don't even..), with all of the parties knowing of each other, because I just had to be open about it. I couldn't do it otherwise. The strangest situation of my life. Anyhow, I was deeply attracted to this fourth one from the very beginning, from profile photo to every word on that profile - it all made sense, it was exotic, it was wise, it soothed responsibility, but also great understanding. It was something to listen to, and something to throw everything I could ever have at. (And I would have, without any thought, done just about anything.) Now, my subconscious had 3 women already so I had nothing to "lose" in that sense -- I practically came almost as an adult virgin to this situation anyway, so it was all about breaking area with women in the first place. Just "going" where I never went before. Finally getting excited about... LIFE! So ultimately, there I was with a stunning woman, fully relaxed and truly as myself -- and it was beautiful. The connection was there. Eventually the dual wielded lesbian polyamory couple and the tertiary girl noticed that all I could speak about was the fourth, so off they all went. And I was like: yeah, this is it. Alas, it was still without logical compatibility (age, kids etc.), so it imploded on that, since for her, it basically meant that I was just temporary entertainment. To her it was clear from the start. All the nice things I said, all the nice things she said.. they had no meaning to her. So she left, and my heart was broken. Since those times, without all the polyamory and dual wielding of lesbians of course, I've been trying to get to this same relaxed state of "nothing to lose", and then finding another deep attraction. Something that just *speaks* to my soul, yet it still attractive as well. But this time I will be making sure all 3 points of love are possible: the logical compatibility, the spiritual compatibility, and the overall attractiveness. So the best I've managed is 2 points on target. Most misses are on the attractiveness, because I can't seem to forgive myself for condemning someone interested in me as... not my type really. I've learned the hard way, that if it ain't hot, it ain't gonna rock, ever! And for the strangest reason I always become attracted to women around 35 rather than 25. It's like there's more wisdom in actions, wider hips, better style, better music, more relaxed partying, more care for my feelings and all that.. everything is just nicer in the 30-45 range. Usually less religious bullshit, too. So, here's a toast to all hot single moms over 30.. *buurp*

So, this was like a lesson, but also my "wild youth" as it was a couple of years ago. I don't plan on re-doing any of it, as it was as painful as it was fun and exciting. You can imagine if you were a man with no experience on women, but had looked at women for the past 12 years with a passion.. and then the most amazing woman would be there, suddenly, and not only amazing in bed but in every other way possible: from discussions to life style. And then lose it, and go back to being alone and hopeless without a clue on what actually happened, and where to now. That is simply an agonizing chain-of-events, but it still better than staying on stage 1 forever. Today, it is all about application of the lessons so that I no longer break my heart and spend restless months, and that this "quest" for finding a possible partner to life would have a happy ending.. While I also hope that for once, a woman would try to capture my heart instead, or actually, in the end, it will only work if both are trying to capture the hearts of each other.
You should message me if
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you are looking for a loving and supportive partner, or a date, or hugs and caresses..

You can contact me with my nickname. Or @ IrcNET. Yes yes, PahaLukki is a silly nickname, but it is older than yours most likely, and with some backstory. And everyone loves a story..