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Paincake

29 M Seattle, WA

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 18–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Hispanic / Latin, White
Height
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Other, and laughing about it
Sign
Virgo, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Working on university
Job
Medicine
Income
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), French (Poorly), Portuguese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I'm an incorrigible nibbler, a singing blade, a sly shy fox, a song! There's no limit to what we are if we desire it! (except for space and for time, pfft, trivialities!)

**Valuable Reading Tools**
Imagine everything I say here is being emoted in candor by a goofy pansexual cartoon animal or some laughing bouncing wild puppy and you'll have a much better time of it. Optimism and joy are my favorite expressivenesses! ^.^ I made up a word! Also, I promise (promise promise!) I'm really easy to get along with, so don't be afeared! :3

I believe information is something we can share without diminishing ourselves.. so prepare for some reading. ^.^ I've got foibles and imperfections and I'll try to be as up front as possible about what I am and what I want.

I don't like to think of people as the fulfillment of my desires so much as co-creators! That can include all the messy stuff - fun, adventure, and otherwise - but we're not merely made for one another's consumption here or out there in the physical world.

I love spending time around animals - they're a vital and essential part of our world and I find they do wonders for our health! I can have more fun in a dog park on a lazy afternoon than most people have doing the fun kinds of drugs over the course of several days. Don't get me started on cats. I love them so much! I've worked at a tiger sanctuary, walked and fostered abused dogs, and I like holding insects gently when I catch them in cups and release them.

I stand up for human rights wherever I can - generally just by treating people with respect. I want to meet people of all sorts -- and while I am definitely attracted to feminine forms and some mannerisms I've come to associate with femininity, I am most attracted to minds and hearts. I am open to trans/queer/other associating entities, and am very flattered by being approached by any type of person, for hellos and flirting and et cetera!

If I could give myself a new form it'd be fire and light and laughing, with a little fox fur and some mischief thrown in. I'll save that for when we upload our brains to the mother-network, but for now I have the body I was born in and some habits I've been shown, some I've learned, and some I've mixed together out of stuff lying around. Please teach me how to associate with you! Each person speaks their own language -- I would like to consider myself a linguist -- but I don't speak yours until we share some! What pronouns you use for me don't matter too much - I'd rather not be he/she or anything general, just another person, a unique-type-critter.

I like to tame dragons. Likely some heroic leftover from growing up reading The Hobbit. I am an organizer and in my love for exploration I've found some entanglements I'm working with. My current projects include:

The Beacon Hill Food Forest!
All are welcome! :) Come and visit us.
http://beaconfoodforest.weebly.com/

Nyer Urness House
A permanent housing shelter for homeless individuals. (Now no longer homeless! :)

Let me know if you want to volunteer or get involved or get some kids in your community involved or whatnot.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Short answer?
Co-Creating good with my friends and fellow humans.
Goofy answer?
The rhythm of the universe is singing in me uncontrollably. ^_^
Let the amazing times roll!

While I was working in Peru teaching sustainable agriculture (permaculture) design at the basic level in an Andean high school I ran into some kids working with an Orphan Choir. They invited me to serve with them as a tutor and interpreter, helping the kids with school work and teaching them some English and translating until their English gets better.

That led me here to Seattle - now I am on what seems to be a combination of extended vacation and positive investment in the community, so much good is falling into my arms that I want to hold on for awhile.

I've got a mind to root, and stir leaves in wild air. I've got a mind to be a pillar of fire!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Emoting
Being trusting
Having adventures
Giving massages
Falling in love
Dancing with a partner
Climbing trees
Singing
Reading books rapidly
Playing outside
Taking care of kids
Storytelling
Writing stuff!
Being enthusiastic
Learning
Speaking Spanish
Translating and Mediating Disputes

I greatly enjoy games - board games, video games, storytelling games. I like collaborative games, or friendly competition.

Friendly competition can definitely include shit talking and pulling the rug out from under people metaphorically speaking - I mean, I'm a bleeding heart liberal grass-eating hippie, but I will totally win at whatever we play because I AM DESIGNED LIKE A VOLCANO. Which is some sort of allusion to me covering the game board in lava and laughing like a roaring train at your wails, because if
I = Volcano
You = Pompeii.

See, we're all having fun right?
A-heh.. her.. merf.

I vacillate between periods of shyness and confidence that confuse me quite often. The mean is probably modesty?
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Probably how wild I am. Possibly how sunny I am. Hopefully not how loudly I laugh.

Physically, I have big curly eyelashes, strong jaw, thick dark hair, bedroom eyes, great shoulder-to-waist ratio, a round butt. But who looks for all that? Nobody does, nobody at all.

It takes awhile for me to hit my stride with new people - I think I'm probably an acquired taste - but there is the logic of learning new boundaries and new parameters for cooperation behind the slowness. I absorb the info and it's all very conscious, which means deliberate, which is linked quite aptly to "deliberate", as a judge does and as people making choices and selecting ends do.. so if you notice I seem troubled - just.. bear with me.
I'm just processing, and I get caught up on tangent after tangent in my mind.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
A quick note: I believe the world is a little bit toxic, and nothing that we make lately - not art nor science nor literature nor relationships - does not grow out from a tainted place.

That said, there is still beauty to be found in all these things we're trying for. If we can sweep aside the ugly parts to absorb the love without forgetting the lesson pain teaches us, all the better.
Roses growing out of shit and all that. ;3

In no particular order. I love things very quickly - if I read a poem, a single letter from an author I might say they're my favorite.

Edit** There's some sort of editing foible that only lets me tag certain titles, and not others. This section's a little ugly til I fix that. Oops!

Books: The Prophet, Letters to a Young Poet, Cosmos, The Fifth Sacred Thing, The Silmarillion, The White Hole in Time, Endgame: The Problem of Civilization, Earth Took of Earth, Sabriel, A Midsummer Night's Dream, The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy , Sex, Time, and Power: How Women's Sexuality Shaped Human Evolution , Songs of Earth and Power, The Definitive Guide to Body Language, Against His-Story! Against Leviathan! , A Song of Ice and Fire, The Subject Tonight is Love, Ishmael, The Demon-Haunted World, The Four Agreements, Veronika Decides to Die, The Master and Margarita
I love poetry and I love to learn; languages, prevention of cultural denigration, feminist magazines, punk pamphlets, random bus comics, dragonslaying guidebooks.

Comics: Alan Moore's Swamp Thing & Watchmen, Sandman, Battle Chasers, Sojourn, The Tenth, Saga, Rat Queens

Authors: Carl Sagan, Anais Nin, Douglas Adams, Garth Nix, Vernor Vinge, J.R.R. Tolkien, Starhawk, Neil Gaiman, Rilke, Derrick Jensen, Rumi, Omar Khayyam, T.S. Eliot, Daniel Quinn, Paulo Coelho, Hafiz, Pablo Neruda, Kahlil Gibran, Peter S. Beagle, Ursula K. LeGuin

Movies: Amazon Women on the Moon, Amelie, It's A Beautiful Life, Grandma's Boy, Grave of the Fireflies, Kung Fu Hustle, Super Troopers, Miyazaki films in general, Howl's Moving Castle, Princess Mononoke, Nausicaa of the Valley of the Winds and Spirited Away in particular, The Labyrinth, Equilibrium, Office Space, Kentucky Fried Movie, Chicago, Pippin, A Fish Called Wanda, Serenity, Snatch, Jurassic Park, Children of Men, and many others. The Last Unicorn is probably the one I will ask you to watch with me.

T.V.: Arrested Development, Cosmos, Mr. Show, It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia, Planet Earth, The Office (English and American), Firefly, Star Trek: The Next Generation, Dr. Horrible's Singalong Blog, Home Movies], 30 Rock, Dollhouse, Adventure Time, Futurama, The Vision of Escaflowne, most of Joss Whedon's stuff, Community, Game of Thrones, Archer.

Music in No Particular Order:
Tim Minchin, Trespassers William, Cecile Corbel, Townes Van Zandt, Dead Meadows, Neutral Milk Hotel, Sun Kil Moon, Phoenix, MGMT, Silversun Pickups, The School of Seven Bells, Me Without You, The Protomen, Ohia, Beats Antique, Andrew Bird, PJ Harvey Fleet Foxes, The Grateful Dead, The Blue Hit, Aloha, Fleetwood Mac, Iron and Wine, Patti Smith, Sunny Day Real Estate, Loreena McKennitt, Wilco, Mana, Muse, Johnny Cash, The Disco Biscuits, The Foo Fighters, Radiohead, Solas, Spoon, Frou Frou, Sufjan Stevens, Nick Cave, Nick Cave and the Bad Seeds Tom Waits, And You Will Know Us by the Trail of Dead, Simon and Garfunkel, Strunz and Farah, Will Oldham, The Dandy Warhols, Johnny Flynn, Phosphorescent, Bonnie "Prince" Billie, That Damned Band, Klezmer, Salsa, Irish jigs, dancing music. Yann Tiersen, Florence and the Machine.
And much more.

Food: Cooking is fun. I prefer lentils, rice, all sorts of peppers, mangoes, cantaloupe, sweet potato, papaya, curry, and feeding my friends with my hands, like slices of orange, or strawberries dipped in chocolate.
If it's sticky, it's fun.
I really want to learn to cook more healthy food that tastes like sin, so if you know any decent recipes share them.

Dark chocolate is best chocolate.

Semi-vegetarian; I will sometimes eat fish and sometimes game, and I will eat meat if it's based in ethically husbandry or sustainably harvested, but these occasions aren't common.

Think of when a bear takes those dying salmon, expand it to include deer population control and respect for the planet and efficiency and you've got the idea. I like to know the people who make my honey, I like eating eggs when happy chickens live with me or my friends, or I can be sure they're not abused.
It's about reverence and love, and cooperation.

Due to being in Peru I started eating meat while I was in the mountains and couldn't turn down the offers. (it was considered a grave insult) Now I am back and am trying to get on the wagon. Help me eat well again please. You, however, you go ahead and eat whatever.

"Would that you could live on the fragrance of the earth, and like an air plant be sustained by the light.
But if you must kill to eat, and rob the newly born of its mother’s milk to quench your thirst, let it be an act of worship.
And let your board stand an altar on which the pure and the innocent of the forest and plain are sacrificed for that which is purer and still more innocent in man."
- The Prophet
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Friendship
Connections
Vibrations.

I think the world would benefit from more people being apt to hold hands and groom friends' tousled hair.

We are alive. Why not let ourselves get scrapes and run and fall and laugh. It's what we are built for.

I really really like grabbing my little sister's foot and picking her up off the ground, swinging her around, and tossing her up into the air and catching her, or onto stuff that will break her fall. Being an older sibling is wonderful to me. I think she's too big for that now... and that's six, so there you are.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Memetic Architecture, Transhumanism, Poetry, improving the milieu, writing stories, and making out. Social justice is one of my heartbreaking joys. I love the idea of an equitable world where people can dress how they like, people can act as they wish, people can share as they desire with confidence that others will respect their choices, others will see the humanness in them. I dream of a world where we are not defined by the structures we were born into, but rather grow from our foundations and reach for the stars in our night sky. Sustenance and love are our human rights. We have the right to seek these things, to inhabit our bodies - for such a span as we will - and know truth as well as we can interpret it.

Everyone has this right - no exceptions, not of the flesh or of the heart or of the mind.

"Science is not only compatible with spirituality; it is a profound source of spirituality. When we recognize our place in an immensity of light‐years and in the passage of ages, when we grasp the intricacy, beauty, and subtlety of life, then that soaring feeling, that sense of elation and humility combined, is surely spiritual. So are our emotions in the presence of great art or music or literature, or acts of exemplary selfless courage such as those of Mohandas Gandhi or Martin Luther King, Jr. The notion that science and spirituality are somehow mutually exclusive does a disservice to both." - Carl Sagan
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Climbing mountains in the Andean highlands, until I decided to come home from Peru.

Here are some snippets from various past Fridays:
Little points of delight at the tip of a pencil, singing on a long walk through a park, my nose in a book, dancing wildly by the fire, watching a silly thing with friends and singing, playing songs from The Ocarina of Time on my harp, jumping into a secret swimmin' hole and swimmin' nekkid, trooping through a field looking for trouble/edible fungus - tromping down the wrong side of a mountain to get to the hot springs under the full moon.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I will give you two bits.

Bit 1 I've been through a lot of fire and pain to get where I am, to be a happy bouncy thing. I'm not all bouncy happy sunshine - I have my days of rain - but they're part of what and who I am, and they are healthy as anything else.

Bit 2 I stick my hand in tiger enclosures because I want to breathe the same air as they do, I want to kiss their noses and be mad.

That is worth more to me than being safe my whole life and looking back to hate what I was. Or worse, to be indifferent. This is private because I feel settled folks have a terror of living very fully that extends to wayfarers, adventurers, and fireflies.

Take this quote by Kerouac:

The only people for me are the mad ones, the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk, mad to be saved, desirous of everything at the same time, the ones who never yawn or say a commonplace thing, but burn, burn, burn, like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding like spiders across the stars and in the middle you see the blue centerlight pop and everybody goes "Awww!” - Jack Kerouac

Now I think he's got it mostly right.. except for a possibility of perspective.. when people see things that are commonplace without forgetting the beauty of every moment, when people can take in a morning just like any other with amazing, overwhelming love for a blade of grass.. being set aside by the ground, by an everyday hello.. that's heaven right there. I am particularly fond of rambling old haunts I know oh so well and falling in love with them all over again, and I am especially fond of reacquainting myself with favorite lovers.

and.. er.. Fetlife profile available upon request.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If you are a good person and/or want to challenge my spirit.
If you can teach me something interesting!
NSPP <83
If you want a really good hug.
If you are honest, and bonus points if you strive to be a better communicator.
If you are searching for a loyal true-blue friend, or fiery romance, or an incredible lover.

If you're not afraid to message me. I am really fond of being approached. I've mentioned it a few times now because I really like it, and I want more inbox letters, so you know ;3
Green light go.

I practice NVC, (NonViolent Communication) so if I seem a bit stiff when I message it's because I am still practicing.

For all of those people out there who like mystery and challenge:

I am as open and straightforward as a bright hot summer day, or an afternoon torrential downpour; that is to say -- like the sun or the rain or the grass in the wind I am as simple and arresting or intricate and interlaced as your own self can be.

I am looking for real love, the kind that does not own people, the kind that makes friendships from chance meetings or great and lasting stories from a shyly spoken first word.

My cards are on the table; if you'd like to meet, I don't assume fireworks or melting-into-embraces or for my stars to fall from the sky and walk along on the world with me, but I *love* those things, I seek those things, and those are the things I want in life.
I love things that grow and I love relationships that learn.