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35 M San Francisco, CA

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 28–35
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Sep 14
6′ 3″ (1.91m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Aries, but it doesn’t matter
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay), Indonesian (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I'm a bay area native who's spent most of the last decade in NY, Hawaii and abroad. I love adventures, and I'm hopeless when it comes to romance: they're the only two things I've moved across continents for. I believe it's important to follow your heart, and mine's never lead me astray.

Just over two years ago I relocated back in the bay area. Before that I opened a gallery in New York, crewed a sailboat in the Caribbean, built houses in rural Indonesia, managed tech in Haiti and helped after flash floods in the Philippines. I had an amazing stretch of adventure but decided I was done running around without a partner and came back home looking to unpack, explore SF and plant a few roots.

I'm an ENFJ or ENTJ depending on the test (I always seem to fall near the middle of the F/T line). I'm sensitive and kind - I rarely get angry - but I'm also rational and open-minded. I'm told I'm a good listener and easy to talk to.

I'm also quite athletic and love outdoor adventures. I don't need constant action though - sometimes just cuddling and staying cozy is the best thing in the world.

Finally, a bit of an honesty alert. I just ended a long-ish relationship in August. I'm still a little shell-shocked, so please don't be offended if I move a bit slowly.
What I’m doing with my life
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Working with interesting technology. I spent years bringing the Internet into underserved areas like refugee camps and disaster response situations. In the past year I've worked with the UN's Emergency Telecom Cluster and I'm an advisor to SF on their communications strategy. Right now I'm helping to build a wearable communications device that will someday help emergency responders coordinate better.

I'm really lucky that I've been able to find a way to turn my personal and professional experiences into something I love. I've had several different careers and had titles that start with "C" or "Director of" and while I'd also like to take that and do something on my own, my "day job" is really inspiring. Ultimately I'd like to have a small hotel, and a lot of what I'm planning is with the aim of ending up there.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Figuring things out. I'm quite good when it comes to manly things like building houses, fixing cars an removing spiders. I geek out in home depot and I usually fall asleep watching a movie. I like to project them on the ceiling - there's something so decadent about being so lazy that even sitting on the couch feels like too much work.

Being interested. Listening. Bringing people together. Cooking delicious food (although my favorite stuff is generally unhealthy... fat is where the flavor lives!).

I have a guitar that I'm getting better with, and I will sing for anyone who wants to hear it, and a lot more people who probably don't. Ask and I'll sing you to sleep and maybe - just maybe - make you a cheesy music video.

Cuddling. I adore physical contact. It's like air. If you don't like to sleep with someone wrapped around you, you might want to keep looking.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My eyes, height, and that they're surprised I'm not gay. I love women, adore them, and I try and make that obvious; but you guys either think I'm Christian or gay. Does a guy really just need to drag you back to a cave by the hair to let you know he's interested?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: anything beautiful, science-y or intensely human. Kafka on the Shore, Jitterbug Perfume, Bonk, The Art of Racing in the Rain, The Wisdom of Crowds, The Ground Beneath Her Feet, Life of Pi, The Prophet, Ender's Game, The Illustrated Man. Tom Robbins, Rushdie, Vonnegut, Gibran, Orson Scott Card, Murakami, Hunter S., Hemmingway, Bradbury.

Music: I grew up with folk, and I love good rock and roll, indie-ish things and poetic hiphop. Radiohead, Rilo Kiley, Black Keys, Sage Francis, Iron & Wine, the White Stripes, Death Cab for Cutie (and the Postal Service), Citizen Cope, The Flaming Lips, The Beatles, the Pixies, Ratatat, Bonobo. I absolutely love a good small live show; stadiums are cool, but a bit impersonal. I'm a total sucker for female vocalists like Sara Barielles, Norah Jones and Regina Spektor. Lately experimenting with more electronic groups like Glitch Mob and Amon Tobin. Never really been into country, although sometimes a good bluegrass tune is called for when drinking beer in the sun.

Movies: Amelie; Across the Universe; Happy Accidents; Fight Club; The Lives of Others; Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind (did you know this was based on a real process?); The Incredibles (and most things Pixar does, really); Blade Runner; Shawshank Redemption; Almost every James Bond film; The Royal Tennenbaums (and most things Wes Anderson); Hedwig and the Angry Inch; the original Star Wars movies; the Lord of the Rings films.

Shows: I don't own a TV so I tend to watch things that are like long movies: Heroes, Sherlock, House of Cards, Battlestar Galactica, etc.. I do watch the Daily show almost religiously, and right now I can't stop watching the BBC's Mongrels.

Food: as long as it's real food prepared by humans it's delicious. From sushi to pork belly to cannelloni to paella. I can stuff a ravioli, broil a ribeye, and flip stuff in a pan with the best of them. I do have to admit that lately I've been trying to do the low-impact thing, which means that I'm probably around 80% vegetarian. Who knows if that will stick... Regardless, I love love love love good food.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Living by a coastline
Hot chocolate on rainy days
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The people around me. I've learned that you can pick up so much about the world just by being a good listener.

Building things: sometime they're practical, like a bed, sometimes they're whimsical, like couch that's also a boat to watch fireworks at sea.

Friends far away. I've moved around a lot and maintaining strong relationships with good friends is important to me. I've been trying to figure a way to get them all in one place.

What it takes to be a good partner. I've been in a few long-ish relationships but I think it's important to actively study rather than just let them happen. Active listening, attachment theory... Even a few cheesy books like Men are from Mars :). Conversations with professionals have been really insightful as well. I think this is really important.

What it takes to be a good leader. I've been fortunate enough in my career to find myself in positions of leadership, and I don't think you can ever stop learning how to be a better supporter and champion of the people you lead.

How to build a small hotel. This is my ultimate goal, and I'd like to figure out how to get it to save the world in the process.

Last, the intimate company of a lady. I'm a healthy guy, so I spend a decent amount of time thinking about that too.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Looking for ways to eat something delicious, listen to something electrifying, watch something inspiring, or meet someone amazing.

Also sometimes I just come home and fall face first into doing nothing. Sweet, sweet laziness at the end of a hectic week is just the most amazing thing.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I like it when guys hit on me.
You should message me if
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● You think that "playing" and "adventuring" are two of the most important things in the world.
● You'd be content from time to time just curling up with me and letting the rest of the world disappear.
● You have an extra ticket to Radiolab.
● You love conversations that spin off on wonderful tangents.
● You need help building something ridiculously awesome.
● You thrive in the city but are drawn to having kids in the country.
● You are still amazed by the world and all of the weird / wonderful things in it.