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My self-summary
Let's try something a different here...

Here’s list of random things would make me delighted… If:
- you give a courtesy wave when someone on the road lets you in front of them, and you let others in as well.
- You default to an optimist perspective
- Bad boys and chemical dependencies are of no interest to you
- You’re emotionally available, not Aspergery
- You’re more a dog person than a cat person.
- You're smart. And I mean nerdy, whether or not you’re in a profession that utilizies it.
- You’re not overweight. And that really means skinny. And you don’t hate me for just verbalizing my preference.
- Work in a creative field. Something that when someone says “what do you do,” they say “woa, that’s cool.” Sorry accountants, it’s just really a tough catalyst for conversation.
- You financially responsible.
- Given the choice between Joshua Tree and Vegas, you’d say “are you kidding, who the fuck would want to go to Vegas?”
- You deal with your baggage (we all have it) in a healthy way.
- You think nights in >= than nights out. And you know what >= means, and how it would be written by hand.
- You were indifference towards sports, but acceptance that I occasionally may watch them

Okay so I if I have to do self summary, I'll keep it short so we have more to find out about each other.

I design and make furniture (check it out if you'd like at: IG: @patrickcaindesigns). I write for magazines occasionally and fancy myself as a great Air BnB host.

I value empathy, honesty and truthfulness above all else. I'd argue Bubble Bobble was the best Nintendo 8 bit game. I'm a sucker for big eyes, big hair and bigger brains. I have not given up on meeting my perfect match at a farmers market, but I don't go to enough farmer's markets.
What I’m doing with my life
I write. I landlord and I design furniture ( .
I’m really good at
Making lumpia, clogging up a scrabble board with two-to-three letter words, whipping up mac 'n' cheese from scratch, rewatching Friday Night Lights, creating hypothetical questions that begin with "if Jurassic Park were real..."
The first things people usually notice about me
Hair. Sawdust. Work boots.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
books: And The Band Played On, The Informant, Stiff, Foreskin's Lament, Last Night Of The Yankee Dynasty , Dry, Shantaram, BTK

movies/tv shows: Bojack, Friday Night Lights, The Wire, Arrested Development, Last Week Tonight with Jon Oliver, Bojack Horseman

radio: This American Life, Wait Wait Don't Tell Me, Splendid Table/ Good Food (are you getting a picture of what my weekend mornings are like yet?), Serial

music: The National, Tallest Man On Earth, Daughter, Lord Huron, The Mountain Goats, Destroyer, Yeasayer, the XX, Arcade Fire, Al Green, Neutral Milk Hotel, Hush Hush, If you like U2, I will hold it against you.

food: Bulan, Sage, breakfast burritos, VegeUSA, Native Foods, Yogurt Land, Sage, Elf
The six things I could never do without
1. my google cloud/dropbox.
2. Li ion 20v Dewalt kit.
3. upstate new york apples & honeycrisp apples from anywhere.
4. upright citizens brigade.
5. seitan.
6. non fat, unsweetened greek yogurt.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Design ideas, what I would do with a time machine, deadlines for orders, who my next hire could be, what to make for dinner

My Oh-no-no list.
On a typical Friday night I am
looking for trouble and in bed by 11 after realizing trouble doesn't just walk in your house and watch netflix with you.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I was a fat kid until about 13, but once the weight disappeared, the man boobs didn't until about 14. Meanwhile I played the flute. 13 was a rough year.

i'm 4+ years out of a divorce. if that bothers you, i'm not for you.
You should message me if
you still get excited when you see a lizard on a hike or you've ever wanted to get your hands dirty and make something.

... you'd rather find a relationship than a fling. But if a fling is what it is, then just let me know upfront, it's okay.

... you have more to say than "hey." yea, you don't like it when guys are that lame, so don't you do it too. Happens more than you think...

... your self description doesn't not reads that you like to: have fun, be spontaneous and laugh. Thanks for the massive insight, ma'am.

.. you're disease free