Some people fail to fully understand what the meaning of a 24/7 realtionship really is, they look at the physical kinky play and think that 24/7 means being locked up in a cage day and night, or being in bondage around the clock. That is really not what people are talking about when they say they are 24/7.

Being 24/7 is more of a state of mind, you can be a submissive while you are away from your Dominant or vice versa. A submissive in a serious relationship thinks about her submissiveness to her Master 24/7, everytime she makes a decision, she thinks about and considers if it is right or a contribution to their relationship.

"Would he like it if I did this or that? Would I get in trouble? Is my behavior outside going to affect my relationship? Would he be proud of me?" So 24/7 is really more a state of mind, not necessarily wanting to be locked up or put in the basement naked 24/7, no, that is a bit unrealistic. But even while at work or away from each other, it is still possible to be your submissive or Dominate role and personality as you are in each other's presences.

Now you say you can't be a submissive while you are at work or around your family, no way you would let anyone treat you as you are treated in your kink lifestyle, true, but like I said, it is a state of mind. Being a 24/7 submissive or Master is not about expecting everyone around you to order you around or get on their knees for you. It is not the same as turning it on and off, you just tone your kink down while in vanilla situations, but that does not change your personality or the way you think.

So when someone says they are 24/7, maybe they are just in that state of mind...

The following is a list of basic things every submissive should know and be aware of.

1. Be Patient!

Keep in mind that your purpose as a submissive is to serve and to satisfy someone who will take into consideration the realization of your fantasies. Don't expect your dominant to be able to turn on like a light switch. The timing must be right for both of you.

2. Be Humble.

You may be God's gift to the world and the most sought after prize in town, but no one needs to hear it or wants to hear it. You will have ample opportunity to show how good you are. No matter what you claim, the "real you" will show through in a scene. Don't set yourself up for failure by developing expectations that you know you and your dominant can never reach.

3. Be Open.

You can learn something about BDSM and about yourself from everyone into the scene, no matter how experienced or inexperienced they are, or how dominant or submissive they are. BDSM is a very personal art, and an "I already know it all" attitude will make you miss valuable lessons and experiences, and ignore potentially valuable BDSM friends.

4. Communicate!

Verbalization is necessary, but at the appropriate time and in the appropriate way. Your dominant needs to know basic information about you, such as experiences, fantasies, health concerns, and turn-offs. Once a scene begins- unless it's an emergency - wait until your dominant asks. Your cooperation will enhance the experience for both of you.

Don't expect your dominant to be a mind-reader or clairvoyant who instinctively knows your needs, wants, and limits during a scene or in a relationship. It is your responsibility to convey this information in a respectful manner, and keep him apprised of any changes. If you have negotiated a method for these kinds of conversations, take care to adhere to your guidelines.

5. Be Honest.

Don't be afraid to share your needs and fantasies. Your dominant expects it. Honesty about your wants, health concerns, and turn-offs is essential to a good scene. Lying or being less than candid can only lead to problems, as the dominant will base the scene on inaccurate information. Besides causing problems, it can be dangerous.

6. Be Sensitive.

Your scene is a two-way street. It is not just the physical realization of your prior fantasies. If you want to limit your experience to certain physical and psychological stimulation, then contract with your dominant ahead of time. But don't always expect your dominant to be a puppet in a fantasy play you've written in your head. It's far better to let your dominant surprise you, to extend your limits, to take you to places you're never been before. When you trust your dominant completely, let her or him know it, and let him or her guide you into new fantasies.

7. Be Realistic.

Your dominant is human, and even the most experienced dominants have moments of awkwardness and indecision. Don't call attention to what you perceive as a lapse. Know the difference between this and the fantasy world you see in books and magazines. Few dominants are rich enough to afford a large dungeon with a lavish layout of equipment. Your dominant's equipment is expensive - respect it and don't abuse it.

8. Be Really Submissive!

This is the whole point. Let your dominant take you over completely. Don't coach or second guess or be critical of your dominant. Exchange information on your special needs before the scene starts, but once it starts be quiet! You have agreed to limitations of your own power. Stay within those limitations. Respect and obey. Accept it gracefully and cheerfully. Your dominant has many things to be concerned with, including your safety and what turns you on. Be loyal and dependable and enjoy your role.

9. Be Healthy!

BDSM, like any strenuous activity, requires that its participants - both active and passive - be in top physical and emotional health. The amount you sleep, your eating habits, your alcohol and drug intake, and everyday stress affect your response and endurance during a scene. Your dominant needs to know when your physical or emotional energy is low. No matter how tempting a scene sounds, an "I want it all now" attitude when you aren't able to give your all will leave both of you feeling let down. You serve your dominant and yourself best by staying healthy.

10. Have Fun!

After all, being involved in the BDSM lifestyle is all about having a good time. You have earned, and you are entitled to the unique, intense pleasure which comes from responsible, creative BDSM play.