12.24.09
Sorry, I wont be around too much, something has come up with a close friend who is battling a serious illness.

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Who am I: I'm a friend, a lover, a scholar and I believe in living life to the fullest. I've lived all over the world, I've seen many things and every last experience I've had has helped shape me into who I am today. I don't fit into any one box, I'm chromatically challenged and very comfortable in my skin. That said, I also consider myself to be intelligently open minded. For me, it's important to be able to experience and learn new things, I look forward to meeting people who are like minded and whose presence enhances my life.

Labels that apply to me but do not define me: Native Texan, Californian, Writer, Poet, Persian, World Traveler, Reader, Dancer, Photographer, Animal lover, Knitter, Academic, Gamer, Geek, Only Child.

11.8.09 - I've been gently chastised by good friends for being too hermit-y. So I'm going to be working on that.

6.2.09 - OKC lies. A few other friends and I have noticed that it says we're on when we're not. Dont sweat it, "it aint no thang".

3.31.09 Dude(!) feel free to say hi on the journal posts. I never know what to make of repeated stalks with no contact, although I know I'm guilty of it too. It's just the intarwebs, not Srs Bizness.

I'm being.

I'm somewhat of a gamer-geek who likes gadgets. Yet I prefer real books to a Kindle. I’m also taking a break from computer games until something more compelling that Wow turns up.

I torture myself by knitting because I don’t do it all that well. I run around with my friends and enable all their bad habits like going to the MAC store and the Mac store. I spend time online because I'm a addicted to the internet, damn you Gore!

I volunteer at crazy conventions because it’s such a wonderfully surreal experience. I’ve been head of a couple of different departments for a few years now, and I have learned from others' experience that peanut butter is not a good costume. (and it makes the hotel cranky to clean it up)

I used to be an avid camper before I moved to Chicago and sold off all my gear. This time I’m holding out for a canvas tent, preferably a yurt, altho god knows where I’ll store it. After experiencing a camp-out on Mt. Tam for Halloween nylon tents can bite me.

Workwise, I write!, for a living! How exciting is that? Ok, maybe not to you, but it makes my toes curl.

Let’s talk about “Sex” for a minute shall we? I have a profile up on Fetlife for those of you who know what that is. I attended this great lecture by the great Charlie Glickman many moons ago and his theory was that we should be able to talk about sex the way we talk about food. “I’m a little tired of meat and potatoes, how do you feel about spicy Thai tonite?”

I like to change things up, I like a certain amount of bdsm spice but I don’t necessarily want latex and dog collars. I think with the right partner that almost everything is worth considering and the most mundane thing can be powerful and mind-blowing with a truly intimate connection.

Integrity is really important to me. I rely on my friends and family to be honest with me, even when it's not going to be what I want to hear. Sometimes I do need a kick in the butt to get over myself. I expect that and I give that. (but I use tact! There’s no need to be cruel, all too often cruelty is about the person being mean don’t you find?)

Religionwise, (and yes, I talk politics too) I’m pagan, I’ve been this way for longer than not. All I care about is that you are happy in your beliefs and accepting of mine. Sometimes I’m going to a Puja celebration, sometimes I’m attending a Yule or Winternights celebration. I play well with others, it’s fun, and I recommend it for everyone.

I'm usually very vivacious, I can talk to just about anybody. Sometimes this means that perfect strangers will tell me their entire life stories in an elevator ride. Sometimes the sharing is mutual and then you have the “wow the universe is strangely beautiful” moments.

2009 is the year I move back to Alameda, I miss living right by the ocean and 80% of my friends. Besides, I’m getting really tired of hearing “tiki this” and “tiki that” without experiencing it myself!

Spontaneous updating:
11/25/08 - today's fun lesson: Dont try to hold the ice cream cone by the soft part. And they say common sense is over-rated, piffle.

11/28/08 - this site is great for people watching, so if I've peeked at your profile I'm probably drawn by the shiny pictures. I'm visual and curious like a crow, "Is it shiny? Can I eat it?, dead and stinky to roll around?" (ok, not so much the last one, but you get it picture, right?)

11/30/08 - "Waiter! I dont recall ordering "Tender, Young Thing" are you sure this is for me?"
Seriously OKC, what's with all the pretty, young 20 somethings you keep showing me?

1/2/09 - I've changed my info to read "Ex-gamer". I'm just not there right now and it bores me to tears to watch others game as well. I was big into World of Warcraft (Horde FTW!), City of Heroes, Eve and Baldurs' Gate. But I'm in front of a computer for work all day, so I dont really want to spend my free time there as well. Besides, my ass and my chair dont need to know each other that well.

1/4/09 Jumping on the Woo Hijackbandwagon as originated by TedPro. A Woo will get a random Chuck Norris joke.

3/2/09 Don't get me wrong, I do like my men on the pretty side, but I want to be the princess in the relationship.

Relating to people, writing, getting hopped up on sugar and coffee and causing mayhem, being human, failing and trying again, dancing, dressing up, and staffing crazy conventions like PantheaCon and BayCon.

That I'm a Ninja? Wait, that's not it, you're definitely not supposed to notice that...

Books:
I'm a science fiction/fantasy geek so those genres have a special place,

I'm a voracious reader, some of my favorite authors are Lois McMasters-Bujold, Prattchet, Gaiman, Gibson, Christopher Moore and Laurel K Hamilton.

I love me some good fiction. A well written story and character has the ability to make you realize stuff about your own life.

Just say no to Ayn Rand and Twilight, ok?

Movies:
I love most stuff 'cepting for horror and slasher movies, I’m a delicate flower like that
Let's not talk about why I saw BioDome 6 times. I'm still not sure myself.

Music I'm listening to right now:
Antony and the Johnsons, Jeff Buckley, Jay Trainer Band, Bjork, DeadCanDance, Ekova, Peaches, John Butler (and band), MSI, and Eagles of Death Metal

Food:
Comfort foods are sushi, Persian food, Thai and Mexican. I like variety and trying new things.

I hate this question, hate, hate, hate.

I'm changing it to "favorite quote(s)"

(nevermind that Harlan is a jerk a lot of times)

"There is no security this side of the grave, I promise you. None whatsoever. And if you want something in this life, there is only one thing that will get it for you, and that is being as dangerous and taking as many possible chances as you can."
--- Harlan Ellison

Current events, I'm a news junkie, writing, figuring out other people

I confess, I’m also a recovering control freak. I let it run loose while at work, and try to rein it in when relaxing.

Friday nights are typically spent hanging out with friends, it could be my knitting buddies or folks up in the City in the goth scene, or on the beach. I'm multi-faceted, you should be too.

This question irks me, hence another hijack

What I'm looking for (base model):

- Sane and emotionally intelligent, able to talk about stuff versus kneejerk reactions. Or even kneejerk and then talk.

- Employed or able to take care of himself.

- A sexual samurai: I like variety, I can’t help it, it's the way I'm wired.

- Monogamous, at least when in a committed relationship.

- Amazing communication skills, creative, and did I mention sane?

- Someone who is comfortable with who they are and likes himself.

- You should be able to nurture your friends and loved ones and recognize that it should be reciprocated.

- You should value yourself so that when someone values you, you don’t freak out.

I'm changing this one too:

Who I'm interested in meeting:
I like emotionally honest, communicative men who have lived and have integrity, kindness and compassion.

Oh and if you shriek like a girl when I touch you with my cold feet or hands, that's a bonus ;-P