Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Raised in L.A. but eighteen year Bay Area resident. Early to rise,
early to bed. I'm opinionated and not shy about it. Working on
changing my world view toward a more tolerant, positive outlook.
I'm a compulsive reader and enjoy conversation about literature,
music, philosophy, current events, etc.
Not that I've answered nearly all of the questions available on
this site but there are two that I've missed: "Do you prefer
bathing to showering?" and "Do you enjoy the plaisir anglais?" both
of which get an unreserved YES!
Another missing question: "Do you have an STD?" I don't. I'm not
interested in acquiring one either. Syphilis appealed to me briefly
after reading Mann's "Doktor Faustus," but not anymore. Just
Addendum: I am on this site because a friend of mine suggested that
it will be good for me. I have my doubts, mostly because I don't
believe as she does that relationships are fungible. If this
strikes a chord with you please do message me so we can discuss the
fungibility (sic?) or not of relationships.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I work as a foreman for a construction company doing residential
and commercial work in SF and the North Bay. I take my dog with me
wherever I go. We enjoy the outdoors.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Carpentry. Bridge. Reading stories aloud. Classical piano.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My dog! She's very attractive. I wish I could take credit.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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None of the below lists should be considered comprehensive or
Authors I admire and enjoy: Thomas Pynchon, Vladimir Nabokov,
Thomas Mann, China Mieville, David Foster Wallace, William Gibson,
Evan S. Connell, Robertson Davies. As you can see I place an
emphasis on style over content.
Actors and Directors: Bill Murray, Robert Altman, Martin Scorcese,
Cate Blanchett. Actual movies are hard to list without involved
critiques as to why I love them. Two in particular that I know I
love are "The Life Aquatic" and "City of Lost Children."
Television: Battlestar Galactica, The Wire, Game of Thrones, 30
Rock, Friday Night Lights. Arrested Development. I have lived much
of my life without a television, so my relationship with it is a
bit weird. I wouldn't ever pay for cable or purchase a television,
but Netflix is super freaking awesome.
Music: Raised on baroque keyboard music, have been exposed to and
taken enjoyment from many other styles since. I particularly like
certain types of rock and hip-hop. I can't stand most electronica,
but there are some exceptions. Typically I listen to KALX for my
surprise ear candy.
Food: I eat everything. Really.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My dog, Shiva. She's not a thing, per se, but we are mutually
dependent and symbiotic. The prospect of her eventual death is
something I avoid thinking about.
My truck, Bessy. I couldn't do what I do without her.
Food. Naturally and literally I couldn't do without sustenance, but
food is more than that to me.
Books. I spend a good portion of my income on books. Have yet to
invest in a kindle and have a hard time reading books on a computer
monitor. Something special about the armchair and floor-lamp and
the heavy tome.
A powerful computer. Almost goes without saying. Because I'm a
curious person and much of what can satisfy my curiosity is out
there somewhere on the webz. I also like designing things and the
computer programs that help with this eat RAM for breakfast.
Good friends. Not things except as they fit into the generalized
category of "friends." Too difficult for me to parse in this
particular format. Maybe I'm being too literal.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I tend toward the cynical and misanthropic. This is not to say that
my life is joyless, on the contrary I find joy in many small
things. It's the overall gestalt that makes me a tad melancholic.
My automatic thoughts are frequently self-deprecating and
pessimistic, however I'm actively working to change at least that
part of my schema.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Early to rise, early to bed, makes a man healthy, wealthy and
socially dead. Because I'm usually awake at 5 AM, I turn into a
pumpkin at midnight, if not before. Not an ideal dancing or
drinking companion. I'm good for dinner and maybe a movie though.
Better in the morning or during the day!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
If I admitted it in this forum, it wouldn't be private.
You should message me if
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You like some of what you read here. You are articulate and
thoughtful. You are willing to speak your mind and you know what it
is. You need to value earnestness and crassness in equal measure.
You need to be comfortable and cheerful in your body. You are up
for taking a walk rather than having a drink. You're looking for a
friend or activity partner first and a lover/life partner second.
I'm not jumping into anything.
N.B. Please, please, please don't rate me highly and not send a
message. I'll only know what you enjoyed in my profile if you
initiate a conversation about it. Otherwise I'm flummoxed and won't
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