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  • Ages 30-64
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My details

Last online
Aug 28
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
6' 1" (1.85m)
Body Type
Average build
Special Diet
Other and laughing about it
Has kid(s)
English (Fluently), Dutch (Somewhat), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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[While I live in central Virginia, I spend about a week a month in Washington DC and/or NYC]

"Modesty is dangerous" if we are going to change things in this troubled world we need to know each others strengths and weaknesses. Modesty is a cultural filter which blocks real communication. We don't have to be arrogant or brash, but let's not hide what we think is true about ourselves.

I identify as a propagandist, I am in the business of changing peoples minds about host of topics from sharing to nuclear power to intentional communities to transformational festivals to polyamory. But if you are not already identified as poly, you should probably jump to another profile, because I am wasting your time.

I've done a number of things most people don't do. I have hitchhiked on sailboats across the Pacific, danced atop Russian tanks, smuggled Tibetan monks across the Himalayas, worked on the North Slope of Alaska for an oil company (which I now regret), worked on ocean engineering in Hawaii, fought nuclear power plants in 6 countries in Eastern Europe, and taught a classes on how to design revolutions for high school students.

I am one of three parents in a polyamorous family. I have several girlfriends, who know and like each other. I have lived at Twin Oaks Community for 15 years (see and have just recently also joined Acorn Community (see as a dual member with Twin Oaks. These are income sharing egalitarian intentional communities, which i think are pretty cool.
What I’m doing with my life
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My more conventional work is with an organic seed company and doing some marketing for a hammocks company. These are both worker owned and managed entities that are cottage industries for intentional communities. This does not mean they are small, with combined gross incomes exceeding $2 million per year.

What I am also working regularly these days is starting new intentional communities in Washington DC and in NYC. This has me traveling to these places almost monthly.

Organizing, public speaking, and blogging on polyamory, transparency, honest seduction, clean energy, funology, and radical memetics.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Writing love letters.

Convincing people to take risks and (in some cases) change their lives.

Organizing conferences, political actions, parties, festivals, and campaigns.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Probably that my hair is not combed or that my clothes are not super clean. i have a distant relationship with mirrors.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Favorite Books: The Dispossessed - Ursala LeGuin. Women at the Edge of Time - Marge Piercy. The Fifth Sacred Thing - Starhawk.

Favorite Movies: A Thousand Clowns. Brazil. A Man Facing Southeast. Being John Malcovich.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My imagination, The laws of gravity, The internet, Daring and challenging allies, Peas and corn, Incomplete lists
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Radical sharing and creating a deviant culture. At Twin Oaks, we have intentionally made a number of dramatically different choices about how to live than our mainstream counterparts.
The first is that we largely live without contact to money. . .
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Dancing and flirting with the especially lovely collection of guests, interesting personalities, and community members at Acorn
Chatting with revolutionaries in Egypt
On the road for an outreach speaking gig at colleges and universities
Dancing in the ruins / anti-nuclear organizing
Hanging out with sleep anarchists
Watching the glorious super moon
Making love on a trampoline
Chatting deeply about curious romances
Listening to the birds wake up and sing
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have been arrested for crimes of conscience in 12 countries on 3 continents.
You should message me if
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you are willing to take a chance.