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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 19-30
  • Near me
  • For new friends

My details

Last online
Mar 5
5' 9" (1.75m)
Body Type
Special Diet
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids
English (Fluently), German (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Let me put this upfront: I completely lack experience in the romance department. My lack of a sexual life makes me feel abnormal, and I sometimes wonder if something is wrong with me psychologically. I'm perhaps a little socially awkward. I find dating unnatural, like a strange courtship ritual. I do not flirt (at least not consciously), and I creep myself out whenever I catch myself behaving differently towards an attractive woman. I'd rather strive for sincerity than try to impress others. I've been told this is a bad strategy but I've never concerned myself with being "strategic" anyways. Needless to say, should anybody miraculously still find me "date-worthy" material after reading my confession above, dating would serve more as a learning experience for me than anything else.

I would guess that my libido lies slightly below the average male standard, but as I grow older I grow less content with doing nothing but sulking in self-pity and loneliness. Social awkwardness aside, the fact that I'm pretty broke probably already excludes me from peoples' "most eligible bachelor" list (hell, I wouldn't date me!). I realize I'm not leaving the best impression by putting myself down on my own dating profile, but my view towards myself is actually less negative than I'm probably making it seem. I'd rather others discover my positive attributes than list them here.

I don't expect a romantic fling to result from this profile, but I set up this with the hopes of making new friends, expanding outside my comfortable little circle of mostly-white, male, nerdy friends. Above all, I seek others bored with routines, interested in trying new experiences, and find intellectual conversations engaging. More profoundly, I'm looking for people to challenge me, who are not afraid of discomfort, who incite me to question my views, to inspire me to become someone better, people to feed me new ideas. I value this much more than people who simply share my tastes and interests.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Right now, I'm not very content with my life. I just got out of grad school and I'm hoping to move out of Dallas ASAP. I'm working a low-paying job while paying off student loan debt. I have a car but prefer to to commute by scooter or public transit (it's a combination of being frugal and environmentally sensitive). I'm not exactly "stuck" though. When I am not working at Whole Foods, I am substitute teaching. I'm also working on getting a teaching certificate to teach high school art or English. I plan on going back to school to get my PhD in Art History. My entire life has consisted of me wishing I was somewhere else.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm probably good at something "useful," but as for the others:

* confusing others to the point of exhaustion
* confusing myself to the point of exhaustion
* getting too excited over abstract philosophical ideas
* knowing my limitations (but stubbornly pushing against them anyways)
* caring too much (+ acknowledging when I'm not caring enough)
* obsessing over parenthetical inserts (like this one)
* getting bogged down in the intimate details and minutiae of every little thing
* distractions
* self-criticism
* writing thoughts down
* following through with things (e.g. unresolved discussions that began several years ago, people's advice and recommendations)
* beginning projects without ever finishing them
* gravitating towards ambiguity
* questioning the hell out of everything in life
* being hyper-sensitive of my responsibilities and my place in others' lives
* appreciating the beauty of life while still remaining critical of it
* engaging conversations
* loving peoples' idiosyncrasies
* unintentionally alienating myself from others who are less passionate about the things I'm interested in (i.e. "normal" people)
* bullet-point lists
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
That's for others to decide, not me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
All of the above would take too long to list, though I have definite strong opinions about my favorite books, movies, music, and food.

I have a goodreads account:
Feel free to read my pretentious book reviews that no one cares about. I have man-crush on David Foster Wallace (I mourn his loss.) I'm also in an online book discussion group for a philosophy podcast called Partially Examined Life. We discuss philosophical texts as well as straight-up fiction. I try to get my little intellectual "fix" wherever while I'm not in school.

And my profile for music:

I don't even know where to begin with movies. Mostly pretentious stuff with subtitles and/or from another era. Among some of my favorite directors: Stanley Kubrick, Andrei Tarkovsky, Jim Jarmusch, Quinten Tarantino, Werner Herzog, Charlie Chaplin, Michael Haneke, Francis Ford Coppola, Jacques Tati, Akira Kurosawa, and Hayao Miyazaki. I sincerely believe your life is severely lacking if you haven't heard of any of those directors. I've cataloged every movie I've ever seen in a database.

Food: Vegan shit, mostly involving lentils, quinoa and veggies galore! I'm not cool enough to boast that I'm 100% vegan, but I'm working my way to get there. I still eat sushi, but I'm very particular with the fish (ever seen that skit from Portlandia, season 2? I'm that annoying couple that asks for the name of the chicken.) I typically cook my own food, sometimes even grow it. I don't care for much junk food. Michael Polan is my food hero.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. books
2. kitchen or decent cooking space (+ yummy food!)
3. engaging questions (esp. ones that make my head hurt)
4. people
5. art (that includes music!)...or rather, the feelings it induces
6. nature (whatever that is)

* public radio gets an honorable mention *
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Philosophical ideas, life's problems, art, water, death, the beautiful and the sublime, ethics, my own life, ways I might become less self-absorbed, everything else... (except cars, American football, celebrity gossip, and shopping: none of those topics interest me at all - in fact they kind of annoy me.)

I have an strange unhealthy obsession with lists. My biggest list is a "list of things I love," which is currently 10,000 entries now. Been working on it for several years. It's actually so big it broke Microsoft Word. It's kind of a self-parody joke that I can never finish.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
doing whatever.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I don't know how to answer this question. Isn't that a paradox if I publicly admit something private? I'm confused! It's like asking people to rank their own integrity: wouldn't they just rank it high if they had no integrity?
You should message me if
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you're willing to meet me in person; you don't think I'm too weird; if you're also bored with life right now and you're trying to find new things to do in DFW; if you could engage yourself in intellectual discussions for hours and never get tired or bored; if you don't mind being patient with someone a little awkward and relatively inexperienced.

I just want to add: It's great if you simply want to rate my profile, but the best way to let me know you're genuinely interested (and to hear back from me) is to actually *message* me. I try to make an effort to respond to messages so long as they're more than a generic "hi." Something that lets me know you're a real human being. My time is limited like everyone else's, so I prioritize individuals where an in-person "tête-à-tête" is actually foreseeable possibility. This kind of makes me feel like a horrible person, but such is the sad nature of relationships: everyone is worth getting to know, but sadly not everyone can play a role in our lives.